And in less happy news, my sons make me question why I had kids.
One of them was watching minecraft vids on youtube on their smartphone...unauthorized. This means that we are over 2 GB past plan, or an extra $30 on the bill.
This child also fell asleep on the sofa, and wet the sofa. Because my 9 and 8 year-old boys still wet the bed, so OFC they would wet our only sofa.
Also poor grades in school, not turning in homework. Lying.
The rage is real.
Meanwhile, the daughter is Television Perfect. Is it ethical to have a favorite child? She is clearly that.
One of them was watching minecraft vids on youtube on their smartphone...unauthorized. This means that we are over 2 GB past plan, or an extra $30 on the bill.
This child also fell asleep on the sofa, and wet the sofa. Because my 9 and 8 year-old boys still wet the bed, so OFC they would wet our only sofa.
Also poor grades in school, not turning in homework. Lying.
The rage is real.
Meanwhile, the daughter is Television Perfect. Is it ethical to have a favorite child? She is clearly that.
I am not getting my kid their own smartphone until at least middle school..
They actually have cool kid phones here in Japan that basically have no internet and can't call anywhere but pre-programmed numbers and emergency numbers.. Hopefully there will be a bit more options when my daughter is old enough for us to worry about that.
They actually have cool kid phones here in Japan that basically have no internet and can't call anywhere but pre-programmed numbers and emergency numbers.. Hopefully there will be a bit more options when my daughter is old enough for us to worry about that.
Smokey, are kids REALLY look alike man lol
Have any of you ever come across any instances where you and your wife has disagreed on a particular subject re children.
It was something small but it made me think, my wife doesnt want to give our son cows milk, I'm not really fussed and not really fussed but just made me think.
Have any of you ever come across any instances where you and your wife has disagreed on a particular subject re children.
It was something small but it made me think, my wife doesnt want to give our son cows milk, I'm not really fussed and not really fussed but just made me think.
By Smokey Go To PostFender we made it m8
Happy 1st bday to my little one and Fender's little girl (i think it's the same day?!) dat SLAENT connection
Thanks man, and belated happy B Day to your boy too.
Yo so no more BDay parties like that until 16 right?
By Kidjr Go To PostHave any of you ever come across any instances where you and your wife has disagreed on a particular subject re children.
It was something small but it made me think, my wife doesnt want to give our son cows milk, I'm not really fussed and not really fussed but just made me think.
It's been so long I hardly remember if we ever did disagree. I'll ask her.
I just wanted to say that as a father of older children (25, 22, 17) I'm here if you have any questions.
By Kidjr Go To PostSmokey, are kids REALLY look alike man lol
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LOL
We've mentioned it before but yeppp. I think my lil one is 90% walking. He still crawls if he thinks he has to get some where in a hurry, but other than that he waddles lol
By sooperkool Go To PostI just wanted to say that as a father of older children (25, 22, 17) I'm here if you have any questions.
Damn you made it. 3 grown kids :o
By sooperkool Go To PostI just wanted to say that as a father of older children (25, 22, 17) I'm here if you have any questions.Glad I am not the oldest anymore
By sooperkool Go To PostAll girls too…. I'm on the other side now, I'm looking for babies so i can be a grandpa!
The grandparent life seems good. My dad is like a changed man. He's such a softy with my daughter. They get to spoil her and have all this fun without any of late nights and shit
By Fenderputty Go To PostThe grandparent life seems good. My dad is like a changed man. He's such a softy with my daughter. They get to spoil her and have all this fun without any of late nights and shit
I remember when my dad got all extra soft with my nephew.. his first year of elementary school he decked him out in whatever he wanted..
I was standing like
remembering when I had to beg for Reebox
Yeah what is with grandparents, I look at at my pops and be like where was the furious black man that used to whoop my ass. I mean I know my parents think they took the wrong parenting path with me but I was a fucked up kid anyway lol dont mean they should turn marshmellow soft now
By Kidjr Go To PostYeah what is with grandparents, I look at at my pops and be like where was the furious black man that used to whoop my ass. I mean I know my parents think they took the wrong parenting path with me but I was a fucked up kid anyway lol dont mean they should turn marshmellow soft nowThey are just hoping they live long enough to see you go through the drama you put them through.. But they feel a bit sorry lowkey lol
By Kidjr Go To PostYeah what is with grandparents, I look at at my pops and be like where was the furious black man that used to whoop my ass. I mean I know my parents think they took the wrong parenting path with me but I was a fucked up kid anyway lol dont mean they should turn marshmellow soft now
My father was always kinda grumpy and definitely a "man's man". He would never let us borrow or touch his stuff in fear we would ruin it. He actively plays with his iPad and my daughter. Looking up sesame street and talking in goo goo tones to her. He even said, "Ehhh if she breaks it my company will just get a new one". My mom laughs because he was NOT this way with us. He didn't not get on the floor and make googly faces and noises and shit.
It's funny because I was always that way with my girls but I feel its my duty to be on another level with my grandkids.
Was talking to a child when another butted in with some nonsense. I asked why they felt it was necessary to say what they said, and they said they didn't know. I replied that it would have been wise to say nothing, because when you do that in life, people will perceive you as someone who "always has something to say," and will avoid you.
"Yes sir, he replies."
After a few minutes, I notice that his eyes are glistening. I ask him if there is something wrong with his eyes. He says what I said reminded him of something that happened earlier today. I ask him what that was. He said he didn't want to talk about it and went to his room.
I begrudgingly followed, and waited as he bawled into his pillows. I offered a hug, and he accepted. I told him to take as long as was necessary. Finally, he said,
"Earlier today, we played heads-up-seven-up and nobody picked me. Everyone got picked once but me."
(In my head I'm thinking, ARE YOU FORREAL THAT'S IT?)
I asked him how that made him feel. He said terrible. I said that I was sorry.
He went back downstairs to watch Michigan and all I could do is laugh to myself.
"Yes sir, he replies."
After a few minutes, I notice that his eyes are glistening. I ask him if there is something wrong with his eyes. He says what I said reminded him of something that happened earlier today. I ask him what that was. He said he didn't want to talk about it and went to his room.
I begrudgingly followed, and waited as he bawled into his pillows. I offered a hug, and he accepted. I told him to take as long as was necessary. Finally, he said,
"Earlier today, we played heads-up-seven-up and nobody picked me. Everyone got picked once but me."
(In my head I'm thinking, ARE YOU FORREAL THAT'S IT?)
I asked him how that made him feel. He said terrible. I said that I was sorry.
He went back downstairs to watch Michigan and all I could do is laugh to myself.
Being a dad is great, man. My little dude is 8 months old now...and I love him so much that there are literally no words to describe it. The fact that there are people who miss out on this experience breaks my heart. This is joy that cannot be had with anything else.
By AlphaSnacks Go To PostBeing a dad is great, man. My little dude is 8 months old now…and I love him so much that there are literally no words to describe it. The fact that there are people who miss out on this experience breaks my heart. This is joy that cannot be had with anything else.
This x10
YO he spoke!, like he's been saying words like dadda (and mumma occasionally) and trying to pronounce stuff.
We always talk to him and he understands (take of your clothes, get your shoes, put on your socks etc) but it the other day I was like do you want some breakfast... and he was like yeah.
I was so shocked, I dont know why it caught me off guard so much but that really made my weekend.
We always talk to him and he understands (take of your clothes, get your shoes, put on your socks etc) but it the other day I was like do you want some breakfast... and he was like yeah.
I was so shocked, I dont know why it caught me off guard so much but that really made my weekend.
By Kidjr Go To PostYO he spoke!, like he's been saying words like dadda (and mumma occasionally) and trying to pronounce stuff.
We always talk to him and he understands (take of your clothes, get your shoes, put on your socks etc) but it the other day I was like do you want some breakfast… and he was like yeah.
I was so shocked, I dont know why it caught me off guard so much but that really made my weekend.
Lmao that's great
I would have probably did a double take ..."what did you say"?!
Checking in here, baby girl just turned 3 months old. From what I gather, we're lucky in that she mostly has been sleeping through the night since she was about 2 months, and before that only got up once and MAYBE twice. Further upside to that is that we're breastfeeding, so I didn't have to get up :P
But man, she is one needy little thing. If she's not eating or sleeping, she just craves attention and stimulation all the time. We've just gotten her to the point where we can put her in her rocker or bumbo for like 5-10 mins, but even that's a gamble. As soon as she's not being held *exactly* the way she wants (face out), and moving around, the cries come quick and with fury. She makes my border collies seem relaxed.
But man, she is one needy little thing. If she's not eating or sleeping, she just craves attention and stimulation all the time. We've just gotten her to the point where we can put her in her rocker or bumbo for like 5-10 mins, but even that's a gamble. As soon as she's not being held *exactly* the way she wants (face out), and moving around, the cries come quick and with fury. She makes my border collies seem relaxed.
By Smokey Go To PostIt only gets worse! GGIf she wants my attention and has something to offer besides projectile curdled breastmilk and inquisitive stares, I'm game.
She definitely is starting to connect a bit more, but y'all know, still super boring.
She loves super complex music though, which is great. Put on some basic tunes, and she'll not have any part of it. Throw on some technical jazz, or jam bands, prog rock, baroque, or jazztronica type stuff, and she's happy.
It get better at 6 and then again at 9 months. 9 months is where it really became "fun".
That being said I miss those first 6 already.
That being said I miss those first 6 already.
By zfzmikey Go To PostChecking in here, baby girl just turned 3 months old. From what I gather, we're lucky in that she mostly has been sleeping through the night since she was about 2 months, and before that only got up once and MAYBE twice. Further upside to that is that we're breastfeeding, so I didn't have to get up :P
But man, she is one needy little thing. If she's not eating or sleeping, she just craves attention and stimulation all the time. We've just gotten her to the point where we can put her in her rocker or bumbo for like 5-10 mins, but even that's a gamble. As soon as she's not being held *exactly* the way she wants (face out), and moving around, the cries come quick and with fury. She makes my border collies seem relaxed.
do not be fooled bruh.
enjoy it while it lasts till teething starts.
What started as just sending the kids up to the room of the youngest turned out to be a full on paraphernalia raid.
Dude had been hording potato chip bags, gogurt, fruit snack wrappers in his room. Gets up in the middle of the night to eat because "he's hungry," then turns around in the morning and doesn't finish his breakfast.
I went to work, but my wife stripped his room of everything. Literally dude is sleeping on a mattress on the floor, and has a few books. This is how he has spent the entirety of spring break this week. If someone turns on a TV, he has to go to his room. It's Michigan, so it's not quite warm enough to go outside every day.
The Mrs. does not mess around. She actually got the idea from a friend of hers whose son had issues with honesty.
Dude had been hording potato chip bags, gogurt, fruit snack wrappers in his room. Gets up in the middle of the night to eat because "he's hungry," then turns around in the morning and doesn't finish his breakfast.
I went to work, but my wife stripped his room of everything. Literally dude is sleeping on a mattress on the floor, and has a few books. This is how he has spent the entirety of spring break this week. If someone turns on a TV, he has to go to his room. It's Michigan, so it's not quite warm enough to go outside every day.
The Mrs. does not mess around. She actually got the idea from a friend of hers whose son had issues with honesty.
By Phoenix RISING Go To PostWhat started as just sending the kids up to the room of the youngest turned out to be a full on paraphernalia raid.
Dude had been hording potato chip bags, gogurt, fruit snack wrappers in his room. Gets up in the middle of the night to eat because "he's hungry," then turns around in the morning and doesn't finish his breakfast.
I went to work, but my wife stripped his room of everything. Literally dude is sleeping on a mattress on the floor, and has a few books. This is how he has spent the entirety of spring break this week. If someone turns on a TV, he has to go to his room. It's Michigan, so it's not quite warm enough to go outside every day.
The Mrs. does not mess around. She actually got the idea from a friend of hers whose son had issues with honesty.
Hit him hard, I like that, let me know how that works for you?
Question, do any of you hit your children?
By blackace Go To PostHaving daughter don't know if I will be able to bring myself to
I dont think I could hit my daughter either plus I wouldnt want her to think it's ok for to be hit.... ever.
but then isnt that like a double standard if you hit the your son .
Man I used to get some omega beatings. Wouldn't wish that on anyone lol.
There are better ways to discipline. My mom stopped beating me and just threw my ps2 out the window one day and I never acted up again.
There are better ways to discipline. My mom stopped beating me and just threw my ps2 out the window one day and I never acted up again.
By Kidjr Go To PostI dont think I could hit my daughter either plus I wouldnt want her to think it's ok for to be hit…. ever.I would rather have my wife spank my daughter if it ever came to that..
but then isnt that like a double standard if you hit the your son .
Pops used to get me.. He was the master of the mindgames of beatings..
I can already see my son about to be bad af
I was bad
My wife wasn't
He's a reflection of my youth. A pop or two might be in store lol
I was bad
My wife wasn't
He's a reflection of my youth. A pop or two might be in store lol
Seems like a case-by-case basis, honestly. So much info out there pointing in a few directions as to whether it can be helpful.
Not gonna use it as a crutch, by any means, but seems like a handy tool to have just in case.
I hit my dogs. *shrug*
Not gonna use it as a crutch, by any means, but seems like a handy tool to have just in case.
I hit my dogs. *shrug*
By zfzmikey Go To PostSeems like a case-by-case basis, honestly. So much info out there pointing in a few directions as to whether it can be helpful.
Doesn't most data now state hitting isn't helpful? We'll see if my patience allows for it, but I don't plan on hitting my children. I was hit as a child, though not severely. Mostly just upside the back up my head when I did something stupid.
I always hated being stuck in a corner. My parents did that a lot. Just sit me there to stair at wall texture for hours.
My dog started listening to me a lot more once I took the anger out of my voice and body language towards him. He does still get bops on the nose or put on his back when everything else fails, though.
Disciplining with fear seems problematic. Making your kid afraid of you seems like it would be counter-productive.
Disciplining with fear seems problematic. Making your kid afraid of you seems like it would be counter-productive.
Whippings are rare. Pain goes away eventually. Instilling fear is most effective.
I feel like much of the data associated with corporal punishment is representative of a time when kids are "spanked." You get lashes equal to your age, or there is a finite number or something.
...rather than when kids never knew when the beating was going to end, or when it would begin. When parents took their frustrations out on their kids and beat out of spite or anger. Or fun.
That created fear. A kid would believe they were going to die or come close to it.
In the US we are mostly removed from that, so corporal punishment is soft. Remember stories of extension cords and coat hangers? Parents can go to jail or have kids taken away for that now.
I feel like much of the data associated with corporal punishment is representative of a time when kids are "spanked." You get lashes equal to your age, or there is a finite number or something.
...rather than when kids never knew when the beating was going to end, or when it would begin. When parents took their frustrations out on their kids and beat out of spite or anger. Or fun.
That created fear. A kid would believe they were going to die or come close to it.
In the US we are mostly removed from that, so corporal punishment is soft. Remember stories of extension cords and coat hangers? Parents can go to jail or have kids taken away for that now.
We pretty much stopped spanking once they were old enough to both understand reason and suffer once items or events were taken away. Spanking was never a real focus of our discipline technique but there are times when a smack on the butt helped convey the message. It does help to establish a very hard line that shouldn't be crossed but its a very tricky thing to pull off without being counter-productive.
I don't know if we would parent differently now as opposed to when we were in our 20's, the data says one thing but my anecdotal evidence says another.
I don't know if we would parent differently now as opposed to when we were in our 20's, the data says one thing but my anecdotal evidence says another.
By sooperkool Go To PostI don't know if we would parent differently now as opposed to when we were in our 20's, the data says one thing but my anecdotal evidence says another.
That's the thing with anecdotal evidence. It's anecdotal lol.
A lot has changed though. 15 years ago we would all be singing different tunes and you can see a difference in opinion here depending upon how long ago we've had kids.
By sooperkool Go To PostWe pretty much stopped spanking once they were old enough to both understand reason and suffer once items or events were taken away. Spanking was never a real focus of our discipline technique but there are times when a smack on the butt helped convey the message. It does help to establish a very hard line that shouldn't be crossed but its a very tricky thing to pull off without being counter-productive.This!
I don't know if we would parent differently now as opposed to when we were in our 20's, the data says one thing but my anecdotal evidence says another.
well lads! This is it. My wife's water broke last night and she checked into the hospital. So I should meet my baby within 48 hours
good times! keep us updated. this is when it all hit me and I got nervous af. I was cool up until this point!