Update: I'm still a student. I am required to maintain a 3.5 not the 4.0 I initially thought. However, a 3.5 and a 4.0 are the same thing. I've made it through 20 weeks of classes without reading a textbook thanks to my prior knowledge in the field and relentless work ethic. That's nothing to brag about but I'm smart when it comes to grinding. Still pissed I didn't get the 4.0.
I told my advisor I might need to take a break from classes in three weeks. Coincidentally, three weeks is when my financial aid check clears. I get this one, come back to classes, get another one, go back in the spring, and get another one. By the end of either the second or third I should have enough to move. I am not doing this for financial aid but be clear I HATE SCHOOL. Hate, hate, hate, hate, everything. Might change programs in the spring because I know for a fact I'm failing either this class or the next one so it's a matter of figuring out what to do to stem the results.
Applied for a finance position within the company that basically does a 50/50 distribution deal with the chain I work for. Managers are ambivalent about this. Who is this person that works for us yet has all these degrees and wants to transfer to corporate HQ? <-- That's what's happening right now. Only thing keeping me employed with them is the fact they promote from within but this is a special case.
I told my advisor I might need to take a break from classes in three weeks. Coincidentally, three weeks is when my financial aid check clears. I get this one, come back to classes, get another one, go back in the spring, and get another one. By the end of either the second or third I should have enough to move. I am not doing this for financial aid but be clear I HATE SCHOOL. Hate, hate, hate, hate, everything. Might change programs in the spring because I know for a fact I'm failing either this class or the next one so it's a matter of figuring out what to do to stem the results.
Applied for a finance position within the company that basically does a 50/50 distribution deal with the chain I work for. Managers are ambivalent about this. Who is this person that works for us yet has all these degrees and wants to transfer to corporate HQ? <-- That's what's happening right now. Only thing keeping me employed with them is the fact they promote from within but this is a special case.
By DY_nasty Go To Posthad a crazy couple of weeks.You cray.
lost the car lol
BUT
i'm on the short list at my unit to go learn chinese-mandarin… one condition. run a 2 mile on this broken knee of mine. lawd pls give me strength
By domino Go To Post3 hour skype interview on deck thursday.
6 30 minute interviews/convos (goddamn this is OD right?)
surely this is the last hurdle for this job in NY?
Is this par for the course on job interviews now?
Fuck man.
By IWMTB19 Go To PostMy hopefully girlfriend (we're still just texting right now) doesn't like sweets D:
Well, that's one way to make sure she'll do a nice job cutting fat when 5 years in you both realize it's important to go to the gym!
At a weird point in my life. Not sure where this girl and I stand. We're going out tonight but it isn't a date. I mean I am staying at her place tonight and we talk all day but we aren't dating.
Apollo, I feel for you man. You obviously have feelings for her that she does not for you. At a certain point you need to make a decision:
1) Become her friend, and friend only with no hope of dating
2) Let her go from your life
This has been going on what, a year now? Sorry man, but sometimes things aren't meant to be that way, and that's okay.
1) Become her friend, and friend only with no hope of dating
2) Let her go from your life
This has been going on what, a year now? Sorry man, but sometimes things aren't meant to be that way, and that's okay.
So you're saying he should stay on a treadmill to nowhere? If he's okay to be her friend and nothing more, then he should accept that. Otherwise...
By reilo Go To PostSo you're saying he should stay on a treadmill to nowhere? If he's okay to be her friend and nothing more, then he should accept that. Otherwise…I think that seeing relationships like that cheats you out of the bad and the good. Yeah, you'll probably dodge some hurt if it comes to that. At the same time, you almost definitely degrade the quality of the relationship and its potential because you never commit fully. And most of the time, committing fully on your end is how you learn and grow as individual.
If you know you're gonna take hits, take em. If you know you're taking hits, decide if you want to take more. The problem that most people have is when they start lying to themselves about where they actually are.
By Moris Go To Postwait….you lost your car DY?Yeah, I should be mad over it but I'm meh.
Loan didn't get approved because of some wiiiiiiiiiild bullshit from Time Warner. Said I had unpaid shit from back in Texas - anyways, I'd been drivng the car for 3 weeks. Got insurance and everything. THEN the dealership hits me up and says that they needed the car back. I tell them I'd get around to it, because fuck them, its their priority to make sure their shit is together not mine and I wasn't about to stress during finals week over anything but class. I told them to have my down payment ready for me, but they wanted to 'wait a while' so I 'waited a while' until they got my money together. These motherfuckers called my unit to try and say that I stole a car from them.
All of Ft. Shafter laughed in their face.
And then I turned the car back in last week. Now I gotta figure out what the hell is this stuff on my credit and look for a car all over again.
By reilo Go To PostApollo, I feel for you man. You obviously have feelings for her that she does not for you. At a certain point you need to make a decision:
1) Become her friend, and friend only with no hope of dating
2) Let her go from your life
This has been going on what, a year now? Sorry man, but sometimes things aren't meant to be that way, and that's okay.
Yeah, it's not really a "weird" situation, it's pretty clear. You have emotional needs that she will not help you fulfill. You meet hers. It's only "weird" because she benefits from the lack of clarity in your head. And you would rather stay in this limbo than let go of her. Apollo (what a name!), see it for what it is. Make your voice heard, and be firm. She does not have to satisfy your needs, you need to respect that, but you need to respect yourself and she needs to respect a self-affirmed you. Help her respect you by finding more dignity.
By DY_nasty Go To PostYeah, I should be mad over it but I'm meh.
Loan didn't get approved because of some wiiiiiiiiiild bullshit from Time Warner. Said I had unpaid shit from back in Texas - anyways, I'd been drivng the car for 3 weeks. Got insurance and everything. THEN the dealership hits me up and says that they needed the car back. I tell them I'd get around to it, because fuck them, its their priority to make sure their shit is together not mine and I wasn't about to stress during finals week over anything but class. I told them to have my down payment ready for me, but they wanted to 'wait a while' so I 'waited a while' until they got my money together. These motherfuckers called my unit to try and say that I stole a car from them.
All of Ft. Shafter laughed in their face.
And then I turned the car back in last week. Now I gotta figure out what the hell is this stuff on my credit and look for a car all over again.
Take TheBus around the island?
Depending on your patience level i guess.
Wouldn't a bike be cheaper and better out there anyway. Gas no joke in hawaii and bikes get something like 60mpg?
By Smokey Go To PostTake TheBus around the island?Its not practical since I live on base now. TheBus only comes on post once every hour. A trip to a spot that's normall 5-10 minutes away takes 3+ hours now lol. I need a car ASAP. If I was further in town, I'd get a bike in the meantime but I have zero trust for these drivers. WOAT USA drivers.
Depending on your patience level i guess.
Wouldn't a bike be cheaper and better out there anyway. Gas no joke in hawaii and bikes get something like 60mpg?
By butt Go To PostFuck dude good luck. You got this.
i think it went well
my brain was fried by the time i got to the last chick which is the one i've been talking to the whole time. everybody seemed pretty nice though. and i suppose it's a good thing when they start asking you about salary and how long until you're ready to work. i told em a month since i'd have to figure out where the fuck to live.
By DY_nasty Go To Posti couldn't do that shit
6?
i don't even talk to my friends that much
By Smokey Go To PostIs this par for the course on job interviews now?
Fuck man.
it was a chore to get through and stay "on" that long. funny thing is that this company is basically selling hiring practices as a software and they're booming. so if it aint the norm they're gonna try and make it.
By IWMTB19 Go To PostDown from 190 to 180, getting closer to the goal of 170.Good for you. Losing weight and keeping it off is hard as hell.
I really need to lose some weight. I've fluctuated a lot during and since law school.
Really hard to find the energy and motivation since I've also been dealing with some very intense anxiety issues.
My family is doing the "both sides are bad!" regarding a divorce involving my wife-beating, alcoholic, criminal piece of shit uncle. My family hates women so much.
By IWMTB19 Go To PostMy family is doing the "both sides are bad!" regarding a divorce involving my wife-beating, alcoholic, criminal piece of shit uncle. My family hates women so much.
blood relative connection at work.
We went out again last night. She tried to kiss me and I told her nope. After a few drinks I tried to kiss her. She turned away. Ended up at her place again. We both agreed that we care for each other but neither of us are ready for each other. So we just slow danced in her room for a few songs. I gave her a full body massage that turned sexual for a moment. Stopped ourselves and then went to sleep.
When I was leaving I told her it was obvious we care deeply for each other and I am okay just being there as a friend. She asked me to not let her push me away and I asked her to make sure I don't run.
I got offered a government job that would take me away from the US and I would end up in some dangerous regions of Mexico and South America. She wasn't happy with this news and begged me to not take it. She sees it as me just trying to run away. It kind of is.
When I was leaving I told her it was obvious we care deeply for each other and I am okay just being there as a friend. She asked me to not let her push me away and I asked her to make sure I don't run.
I got offered a government job that would take me away from the US and I would end up in some dangerous regions of Mexico and South America. She wasn't happy with this news and begged me to not take it. She sees it as me just trying to run away. It kind of is.
By Apollo Go To PostWe went out again last night. She tried to kiss me and I told her nope. After a few drinks I tried to kiss her. She turned away. Ended up at her place again. We both agreed that we care for each other but neither of us are ready for each other. So we just slow danced in her room for a few songs. I gave her a full body massage that turned sexual for a moment. Stopped ourselves and then went to sleep.lol okay we might be the same person pls stop
When I was leaving I told her it was obvious we care deeply for each other and I am okay just being there as a friend. She asked me to not let her push me away and I asked her to make sure I don't run.
I got offered a government job that would take me away from the US and I would end up in some dangerous regions of Mexico and South America. She wasn't happy with this news and begged me to not take it. She sees it as me just trying to run away. It kind of is.
By reilo Go To PostCable companies are scum.
Verizon almost fucked me on a lot of discounts on my current mortgage. When I moved from my last house that I sold I called FIOS and said to cancel. I paid an amount over the phone and told them my new address in case there were pending charges or some shit. They kept sending me a closing bill of $73 bucks to my old address. Then sent me collection notices to my old address. When I went to apply for my home loan my credit score dropped 120 points to a 685. I spend days on the phone yelling at lower end people just to get to a manager. I actually made a fucking thread on NeoGAF about it I was so pissed. Eventually it all worked out and I had a rush processing of my credit and all was good. The call centers at these credit places are worse than their customer service.
By DY_nasty Go To Postlol okay we might be the same person pls stop
lol we talked about this years ago. A lot in common.
By Dark PhaZe Go To Postoh so you givin sexual massages then huh
It didn't start like that somewhere like 5 minutes in I said "This would feel better if you took off your clothes."
By DY_nasty Go To PostI think that seeing relationships like that cheats you out of the bad and the good. Yeah, you'll probably dodge some hurt if it comes to that. At the same time, you almost definitely degrade the quality of the relationship and its potential because you never commit fully. And most of the time, committing fully on your end is how you learn and grow as individual.I think you're right on this one. Gotta take a few to your face to find out who you are and where you stand.
If you know you're gonna take hits, take em. If you know you're taking hits, decide if you want to take more. The problem that most people have is when they start lying to themselves about where they actually are.
By Dark PhaZe Go To Postoh so you givin sexual massages then huh
lmao
By Apollo Go To PostShe asked me to not let her push me away and I asked her to make sure I don't run.
No offense, I know you care for her and have history, etc, but a girl who tells me "don't let me push you away", I'd be so incredibly turned off emotionally with little hope to bounce back. Some self-respect, man! It's the kind of shit you always look back on in the future and think "how stupid I was".
By Gabyskra Go To PostNo offense, I know you care for her and have history, etc, but a girl who tells me "don't let me push you away", I'd be so incredibly turned off emotionally with little hope to bounce back. Some self-respect, man! It's the kind of shit you always look back on in the future and think "how stupid I was".
That's where I am at. It just turned everything off. It's just I don't want to lose her friendship. I have told her so much personal shit over this last year.
Fuck I am going out with this French girl for dinner. Called her today and told her lets go out. Ends up she's moving on Monday back to Paris. So hopefully I hit that shit to take my mind off this crap.
By Apollo Go To PostWe went out again last night. She tried to kiss me and I told her nope. After a few drinks I tried to kiss her. She turned away. Ended up at her place again. We both agreed that we care for each other but neither of us are ready for each other. So we just slow danced in her room for a few songs. I gave her a full body massage that turned sexual for a moment. Stopped ourselves and then went to sleep.
When I was leaving I told her it was obvious we care deeply for each other and I am okay just being there as a friend. She asked me to not let her push me away and I asked her to make sure I don't run.
I got offered a government job that would take me away from the US and I would end up in some dangerous regions of Mexico and South America. She wasn't happy with this news and begged me to not take it. She sees it as me just trying to run away. It kind of is.
Ummm... damn, where do I start?
You gave her a full body massage and ain't smang? Where am I? Quit playing games and just smang. A full body massage turns sexual a good five minutes into it. Y'all knew what y'all were doing. I'd give her the good 1.5 hour ground and pound then move but that's just me. Starting busting out 1980's wrestling moves making it a memorable night.
If I was her, I'd be pissed because it sounds you're a tease. *rereads the part about not letting her push you away* Look at that point I would've ran. WAT? Next time she does that come with paperwork and have her sign it on camera while reciting the names of the last four Presidents of the USA. Shit would've freaked me out.
"Don't let me push you away" is about as obvious as possible that this chick wants to hook up with you man.
I mean, yea, she probably has issues. But it seems like, from earlier posts, you care about her, have a deep connection, and want something more. That tells me (along with naked massage and kissing at club) that you're not in the firm friend zone. So, essentially, do whatever the fuck you want - ball's in your court and you don't even have to play your cards all that well.
I mean, yea, she probably has issues. But it seems like, from earlier posts, you care about her, have a deep connection, and want something more. That tells me (along with naked massage and kissing at club) that you're not in the firm friend zone. So, essentially, do whatever the fuck you want - ball's in your court and you don't even have to play your cards all that well.
So I got a new job that I really like (possibly for the first time ever) for the state of NY. I was hired along with 2 other people. One renegged on accepting the job so for 3 weeks it was just me and another girl. So a new woman gets hired this Tuesday and because she's new she automatically got stuck working with the worse manager doing the most boring project. Keep in mind there are 3 managers who work for different departments so she was officially hired to work for the worse manager, but the head supervisor told us we could "choose" where we go. So the new co hire workers quickly see's what it is and begins to try to switch from her crappy unorganized manager (who once again officially she was hired directly to work for) to my good one and she is balls to the wall trying to politic herself into my position that is easier.
I've never had a job anyone would try to go around me for so the whole thing is weird to me. I ignored her first attempt at playing me when she tried to guilt me into taking the tougher job because I'm a Big Man and she's a little woman. Then she hit me with the "hey can I just work with you on your projects" offers because I know that means she wants me to help her with her crappy workload. Now it looks like she is trying to convince the managers they should switch us because "I'm a Big Man and she's a little woman" or to be "fair" and pick out names randomly out of a hat. She's also outright criticizing her manager to anyone who will listen.
I'm pretty sure they plan to ignore her the same way I have but if her complaining convinces then to ask me to switch I'm just going to call her out for being a unprofessional cry baby and tell them I don't want to switch with this woman when I took the exact role I was hired for in the first place. I've never seen someone go so damn crazy at a job so damn fast.
TLDR: my co worker is trying to fuck me over and she's only been there 4 days
I've never had a job anyone would try to go around me for so the whole thing is weird to me. I ignored her first attempt at playing me when she tried to guilt me into taking the tougher job because I'm a Big Man and she's a little woman. Then she hit me with the "hey can I just work with you on your projects" offers because I know that means she wants me to help her with her crappy workload. Now it looks like she is trying to convince the managers they should switch us because "I'm a Big Man and she's a little woman" or to be "fair" and pick out names randomly out of a hat. She's also outright criticizing her manager to anyone who will listen.
I'm pretty sure they plan to ignore her the same way I have but if her complaining convinces then to ask me to switch I'm just going to call her out for being a unprofessional cry baby and tell them I don't want to switch with this woman when I took the exact role I was hired for in the first place. I've never seen someone go so damn crazy at a job so damn fast.
TLDR: my co worker is trying to fuck me over and she's only been there 4 days
Zeus don't say anything to her and keep grinding. Put in extra work to make her look silly. Department heads know what's up and will handle this eventually. Why's she bitching over a job she was direct hired for?
By Vahagn Go To Post"Don't let me push you away" is about as obvious as possible that this chick wants to hook up with you man.
I mean, yea, she probably has issues. But it seems like, from earlier posts, you care about her, have a deep connection, and want something more. That tells me (along with naked massage and kissing at club) that you're not in the firm friend zone. So, essentially, do whatever the fuck you want - ball's in your court and you don't even have to play your cards all that well.
You think this would be simple and we would be fucking on the reg right? It isn't. She has a wall built up that would rival the Great Wall.
She's pretty much gone for the next 14 days. We are already have plans to go out on the 17th of next month. I'm taking her to the Chvrches concert. She doesn't know what we are doing outside of going dancing and getting drinks.
Welp no NYC move for now. Didn't get the job.
I suppose I shouldn't be too mad about it since I didn't even apply for it. It was basically a homie throwing me an escape route out of my current situation.
I suppose I shouldn't be too mad about it since I didn't even apply for it. It was basically a homie throwing me an escape route out of my current situation.
My life is a constant case of bad timing. Sarah says the timing is bad and that's why we can't be together. I get angry and finally call up this french chick I met two months ago. We go to dinner. She tells me she's angry at me because I waited to call her. She's leaving today back to France. She took a new position in her company. Yesterday I bump into an Irish girl at Target. We talk and hit it off. We decide to get tea from Starbucks. We end up getting dinner. I ask her for her number and she gets real quiet. She says no because she's moving back to Ireland on the first. She's been her for 6 years. Her words "Never dated anyone because work keeps me busy and on the day I meet a good guy I find out I have to move back to Ireland on the 1st of October." She even showed me emails so I didn't think she was lying. Then I put off visiting my sick aunt because she wanted me to take Sarah out. My aunt died last night.
FUCK YOU LIFE.
FUCK YOU LIFE.
Damn Apollo. All of that is supremely rough. Sorry for your loss, keep your head up. Things will turn around.
Thanks dudes.
I really appreciate you guys. One day when I go on my mini-states tour I will have buy some of you drinks.
I really appreciate you guys. One day when I go on my mini-states tour I will have buy some of you drinks.
60 year olds are crazy. My mother's guyfriend is so incredibly toxic. I just had lunch with them and he actually said "you didn't drink any water today" as if he checked up on me all day, hoping he could fetch me some and make himself useful, like i'm a toddler. It's borderline insanity. The guy will stop me in my tracks if I get up to get something in the fridge so he can get it. He'll offer massages and shit. My mother does not realize just how much he relies on feeling needed. I politely told my mother that I don't want to make a scene but if this happens once more, I'm not coming back.
found out one of my frat brothers died this morning and goddamn
that's two out of nine - both of these guys would genuinely light up a room. we're fucking young. just doesn't make any sense
that's two out of nine - both of these guys would genuinely light up a room. we're fucking young. just doesn't make any sense
Depression sucks. That's all I got.
I've lived with it for 12 years of my life and it's just a miserable experience; I literally feel as the emo kids would say, "empty and fleeting."
The worst part is, I don't know who I am without depression and that terrifies me.
I've lived with it for 12 years of my life and it's just a miserable experience; I literally feel as the emo kids would say, "empty and fleeting."
The worst part is, I don't know who I am without depression and that terrifies me.