A good friend of mine just told me she thinks she was harmed and assaulted, but won't divulge any details, talk to the police, etc. I really have no idea what to do here.
By thekad Go To PostA good friend of mine just told me she thinks she was harmed and assaulted, but won't divulge any details, talk to the police, etc. I really have no idea what to do here.Oh jeez.
Only real option here is to comfort her and see if she might talk about it. Yikes.
By thekad Go To PostA good friend of mine just told me she thinks she was harmed and assaulted, but won't divulge any details, talk to the police, etc. I really have no idea what to do here.Don't force the issue tbh... It's something she needs to be able to talk to you about on her own time. Her opening up and even telling you this much is a big deal for her. Maybe suggest that she find a third-party professional to talk to about it that can deal with the root issue.
It's really hard to not to push further because I want to kill the guy for ruining what should be a special weekend for her (graduation).
Thanks guys.
Thanks guys.
The most adult thing to do is sometimes realize what is and isn't out of your control. Figuring out ways to help her without you pushing the subject is really difficult.
When a girl keeps throwing you hints at you that she likes you but you don't find her attractive at all.......
Doging this chick at work like neo.
Doging this chick at work like neo.
When it comes to an assault like that the best thing you can do is be a positive force in her life. Definitely don't talk about or hint at any ideas of violence or even anger towards her attacker. All she'll do is feel worse about the situation, believe me.
Just support her, kad... Not sure if there's anything else you can do unfortunately :/
At a job orientation yesterday, in the section about discrimination, the person in charge of giving the talk about discrimination blamed the up-tick in racially charged language on rap music.
Afterwards, I had the thought: "maybe she shouldn't be in charge of protecting the rights of black workers at this University, idk." though I kept that to myself unfortunately.
At a job orientation yesterday, in the section about discrimination, the person in charge of giving the talk about discrimination blamed the up-tick in racially charged language on rap music.
Afterwards, I had the thought: "maybe she shouldn't be in charge of protecting the rights of black workers at this University, idk." though I kept that to myself unfortunately.
By reilo Go To PostWe use that at work and for SL&ENT, but the problem is that it's an enterprise level software still. It's not an amazing business tool, but not so much for mass communication.
I don't speak tech so I don't understand what "enterprise level software" means.
It's an upgrade over FB, which is what we were using since I hired on in October. One of my peers, a freelance writer, got us on it.
Need to find a residence in CA ASAP. Losing a good chunk of money in income taxes to Oregon despite being in SF right now. Ain't that some shit.
By Zero Tolerance Go To PostI don't speak tech so I don't understand what "enterprise level software" means.It means it's meant for internal business communication: employee to employee. It's not good for friend to friend communication because you can't just anonymously join without belong to an organization.
It's an upgrade over FB, which is what we were using since I hired on in October. One of my peers, a freelance writer, got us on it.
By reilo Go To PostIt means it's meant for internal business communication: employee to employee. It's not good for friend to friend communication because you can't just anonymously join without belong to an organization.
I see. thanks.
About to start my first ever art comission! Pay is pretty much pocket change but it's a start. Commissioner is from Victoria,Australia so communication has been a little delayed but I'm happy.
#progress
#progress
Doc wants me to have my second surgery on my eyes in 9 years. I am not ready for this mentally or emotionally. Living with this situation has been like having one foot in the grave then entire time. I just want everything to be over... FML.
Oh yeah, has anyone had any success changing your ethnicity on applications? I'm going with the white option for the foreseeable future and if someone asks tell them my computer was broken.
Oh yeah, has anyone had any success changing your ethnicity on applications? I'm going with the white option for the foreseeable future and if someone asks tell them my computer was broken.
Made some mistakes at work on Friday but had a 3 day weekend to not think about them.
Today: first school loan payments due. EEEW
Today: first school loan payments due. EEEW
friend's back in town for a couple weeks. todays his birthday. got a raise at work. balled hard at the courts yesterday as 1 of 2 white guys. the other was my friend. sore as fuck today. need to figure out how to stop eating so much so I can make more progress saving for a car.
Made it to Crescent City literally an hour before checkin ended. Thankfully tomorrow can be a more relaxing drive.
I'm gonna need since sort of of health insurance soon. A whole lot of problems are popping up with my teeth and knee out of nowhere and Im pretty sure they're gonna be expensive to fix. Fuck.
By Omzz Go To Postdry sockets are no joke :(
is this a euphemism
By Smokey Go To PostReilo how is that SF lifeMade it to Crescent City last night. SF life was grand the ten days I was down there, but not gonna lie, Portland felt like home the three days I was back.
U homesick?
By IWMTB19 Go To PostJust support her, kad… Not sure if there's anything else you can do unfortunately :/
At a job orientation yesterday, in the section about discrimination, the person in charge of giving the talk about discrimination blamed the up-tick in racially charged language on rap music.
Afterwards, I had the thought: "maybe she shouldn't be in charge of protecting the rights of black workers at this University, idk." though I kept that to myself unfortunately.
You better than me. I would have clowned the shit out of her then walked out the room straight to HR and reported that shit. Yall got way way way more tolerance than me.
Hell, in my orientation for the company I'm at now the Chief Officer of Diversity and Inclusion is a rich white dude from rich white parents. I immediately called all sorts of flags on the play in the orientation in a room full of white folks. Shit perpetuates because silence is consent and if black folks just gonna sit there and let shit float in the ether then can't be mad when it bites you in the ass later.
You're right LLC... I probably should say something about this.
My car got in a crash... My car was also parked... On my street... It had been in that same place at night for weeks... How drunk do you have to be to crash into a parked car that is always in that same spot? I almost never drive and the car doesn't look that bad, but jesus fuck.
My car got in a crash... My car was also parked... On my street... It had been in that same place at night for weeks... How drunk do you have to be to crash into a parked car that is always in that same spot? I almost never drive and the car doesn't look that bad, but jesus fuck.
Sorry about your car IWMTB, it's one of my own personal nightmares of that happening.
Also, I'm now full time in San Francisco. Let the adventures begin.
Also, I'm now full time in San Francisco. Let the adventures begin.
The only person who cared whether or not I was successful in my transition to supervisor is leaving next Friday. I will be all alone.
So I'm finally transitioning off the marketing role I've been performing since last March. Will be taking on a product role for something people might actually know and care about (It's the only fucking ad you see during the Final 4, which I'm sure thrills tons of people -__-).
I'm pretty excited.
I'm pretty excited.
That feeling when your boss bitches you out for missing work... After you've already confirmed that you don't have hours scheduled for today... and then your boss emails an apology... all of these things occurring on the same day someone crashed into your parked car...
By Zero Tolerance Go To PostThe only person who cared whether or not I was successful in my transition to supervisor is leaving next Friday. I will be all alone.
Man up. Make new connections. It can be both a good and bad thing.
By HasphatsAnts Go To PostSo I'm finally transitioning off the marketing role I've been performing since last March. Will be taking on a product role for something people might actually know and care about (It's the only fucking ad you see during the Final 4, which I'm sure thrills tons of people -__-).
I'm pretty excited.
Get hype. Let us know what it actually is when you can (i don't watch college ball).
By IWMTB19 Go To PostThat feeling when your boss bitches you out for missing work… After you've already confirmed that you don't have hours scheduled for today… and then your boss emails an apology… all of these things occurring on the same day someone crashed into your parked car…
At least your boss had the balls to apologise. Many don't.
Finished my first commission. Now I just gotta wait 2 weeks for PayPal to give me my 26 bucks.
#progress
#progress
By psychintellect Go To PostFinished my first commission. Now I just gotta wait 2 weeks for PayPal to give me my 26 bucks.Congrats!
#progress
Have a heart and wire Smokey a bit of that. He's had a rough night.
Some of my friends are going to Vegas and they found this weird Craiglist's ad to stay at someone's house for free and the home owner says he's a nudist and that my friends could sleep on the carpet in his bedroom... I'm worried they're going to get sexually assaulted if they do this. They're going to come back to this weird place fucked up on alcohol and Molly and be very near to this person they have no idea about... Maybe I'm just too paranoia, but my friend is a dude from the south and I wonder if he doesn't worry about the possibility of male rape enough...
And obviously yes, there are a lot of normal people who just overly friendly and open and this Craiglist guy could be one of those people, but I'm worried about the low but real probability that this Craiglist guy is not a decent person.
And obviously yes, there are a lot of normal people who just overly friendly and open and this Craiglist guy could be one of those people, but I'm worried about the low but real probability that this Craiglist guy is not a decent person.
By IWMTB19 Go To PostSome of my friends are going to Vegas and they found this weird Craiglist's ad to stay at someone's house for free and the home owner says he's a nudist and that my friends could sleep on the carpet in his bedroom… I'm worried they're going to get sexually assaulted if they do this. They're going to come back to this weird place fucked up on alcohol and Molly and be very near to this person they have no idea about… Maybe I'm just too paranoia, but my friend is a dude from the south and I wonder if he doesn't worry about the possibility of male rape enough…
Hotels in Vegas are dirt cheap wtf. Just get a room at a hotel off the strip. You're taxiing around anywya
By reilo Go To PostEntire houses to rent on Air BnB are even cheaper, what the hell are they doing?
I don't know :/, hopefully they realize that paying $50 a night for a weekend is better than this risk.
By psychintellect Go To PostFinished my first commission. Now I just gotta wait 2 weeks for PayPal to give me my 26 bucks.
#progress
I do a lot of line art at home and like to think I'm pretty good, but I'm absolutely terrible at getting those lines looking really clean in digital form like you have. What are you using? Pen tool?
By Dark PhaZe Go To PostI do a lot of line art at home and like to think I'm pretty good, but I'm absolutely terrible at getting those lines looking really clean in digital form like you have. What are you using? Pen tool?I used sketchbook pro(cheap) but you can get the same results with Paint Tool Sai(even cheaper).
PS doesn't have the greatest brush engine for really clean art and you've got to be really precise if you use it. Or use the pen tool(I hate it,never use it).
Sai and SBP have built and customizable stroke stabilizers that really help with getting that clean line.
Sketchbook Pro is pretty amazing though. Built in compass,ruler,perspective,animation tools. In terms of just drawing its probably the best but it does lack essential image editing tools like clipping masks.
But most of all,It just takes practice with the graphic tablet you're using. I'm saving up for a cintiq.
My lineart is fucking terrible regardless though.
By giririsss Go To PostMan up. Make new connections. It can be both a good and bad thing.
Make new connections with whom? The place I work is very small. There is no additional pool from which I can forge new allies. The situation is that the two black sheep--the old guy who didn't give a **** about the job because of politics befriended me, the outsider who actually has an education so is qualified to move up on more than just good words from friends in high places.
The most I can hope for is that the latter part scares some of my competition away. There are rumors that there will be some transfers and a possible retirement in the horizon. That would be lovely. I ain't got time for to compete in the Brown-Nose Games.
We have an intern, and I have been charged to show her the ropes. Rumors around the warehouse in two days like "I thought this dude was supposed to be happily married, etc." She cute but she ain't that cute. I'm just making sure she doesn't get screwed over like I was for my first three months where I was supposed to be showed the ropes but was instead put in a corner with a DUNCE cap.
So the boss of my boss' boss, AKA DA BIG DAWG ON CAMPUS called the office today to ask how things were going. I was like, "we will see." All kinds of things are jacked and out of my control because I'm on the shipping dept side and it's the receiving dept side that has to get their act together before we can do our jobs. He wasn't hearing any of that and was like, "you're running a business; you need to have a plan; you can't the complex director call you and say you don't know what's going on." I was like, "As I said," and he cut me off like "who do you think you're talking to?" what do you mean by "as I said,"
(what I mean is that you're a poor listener and you need to stop asking me the same question 3x times like I'm going to give you a different answer)
I gave my boss a heads-up that the BIG DAWG ON CAMPUS is dissatisfied with my...customer service. Someone else came in later and was like, "You need to tell him everything was straight." Naw, I ain't telling lies for nobody. We're supposed to be done by midnight, but we'll be lucky to be done by 3 AM.
(what I mean is that you're a poor listener and you need to stop asking me the same question 3x times like I'm going to give you a different answer)
I gave my boss a heads-up that the BIG DAWG ON CAMPUS is dissatisfied with my...customer service. Someone else came in later and was like, "You need to tell him everything was straight." Naw, I ain't telling lies for nobody. We're supposed to be done by midnight, but we'll be lucky to be done by 3 AM.
By psychintellect Go To PostWell, father tried to stab me today.wtf
By psychintellect Go To PostWell, father tried to stab me today.Dude, what? You alright?
By DY_nasty Go To Postwtf
By reilo Go To PostDude, what? You alright?
By Smokey Go To Post.umm…what?Told you I got distracted in the 4th smokey.
I'll explain later, still dealing with police.