If I were to spend a week in Hawaii for New Year's which island would be best for me? I'm single, lost in between two worlds of religion and actual life, but love to have fun, meet new people, and vape.
Reilo, if you don't mind me asking, how did your move play out? In other words, did you just move by yourself then find the job or did you find the job and then move? I need pointers because it's time to takeoff.
Reilo, if you don't mind me asking, how did your move play out? In other words, did you just move by yourself then find the job or did you find the job and then move? I need pointers because it's time to takeoff.
I found the job then I'm moving. Renting a space for a couple of months over Air BnB to give myself a proper amount of time to find something permanent.
By DY_nasty Go To Posti fucking HAVE to get a new place
How does that work if you over there for the military? Free to stay where you want or nah?
By Smokey Go To PostHow does that work if you over there for the military? Free to stay where you want or nah?If I was active, the only thing that could really stop it would be a lease or something really. They don't care.
I'm not right now. These roommates are fucking toxic though. I can't live around people like this. Just dragging me down 24/7 when I already have a bunch to deal with.
By IWMTB19 Go To Posthttps://theconversation.com/no-feminism-is-not-about-choice-40896
And then the author went on a weird Twitter rant about how it's literally impossible for Playboy to ever publish a pro-women article.
The article has the word ("neo-liberal") in it as well.
First of all, the choice arguments are fundamentally flawed because they assume a level of unmitigated freedom for women that simply doesn’t exist. Yes, we make choices, but these are shaped and constrained by the unequal conditions in which we live. It would only make sense to uncritically celebrate choice in a post-patriarchal world.
I agree with this...I don't think women's lib--for example Beyoncé's brandishing of her sexuality--can co-exist in the same space of her body (and J Lo's and one other celeb who wore a similar dress) being fetishized. I'd post the 2015 Met Gala as an example, but it's NSFW paradoxically in public space.
After all, another conversation that goes on in feminist circles concern body shaming; how do you cheer for Beyoncé and co. and then go after Lane Bryant for pushing "normal" sized women for plus sized women? Confusing.
Second, the idea that more choices automatically equate to more freedom is a falsehood. This is essentially just selling neo-liberalism with a feminist twist. Yes, women can now work or stay at home if they have children, for example, but this “choice” is fairly hollow when child-rearing continues to be constructed as “women’s work”, there is insufficient state support for childcare, and childless women are decried as selfish.
I agree with the first part, but the latter is one of my fundamental grievances with feminism. If you want de jure secure the autonomy of women's bodies from sex to childbirth to (public) nursing, you can't then say that child-rearing is not primarily women's work. State support is complicated; right now, my former Graduate Employee's Union at Michigan State University all but said "If you have kids or plan to have kids while you work here, GTF0," which I think is garbage and they have my support. Any place that punishes people for having families is garbage. I'd like to know more about what the author means in terms of "insufficient state care."
Third, the focus on women’s choices as the be-all and end-all of feminism has resulted in in a perverse kind of victim-blaming and a distraction from the real problems women still face. If you’re not happy with the way things are, don’t blame misogyny and sexism, the pay gap, entrenched gender roles, women’s lack of representation on boards or in parliament, or an epidemic of violence against women. Blame yourself. You obviously made the wrong choice.
Strawman, but a more detailed articulation of the symptoms of sexism.
Overall, I think this hits on more things than it misses. Then again, I've been in agreement for a long time that "choice" was never the end-game for any -ism, but it's a simple rallying cry for the modern I-haven't-read-a-book-since-middle-school, could-you-summarize-in-120-characters-for-me millennial generation.
Still there are some things I can't, and won't ever agree with, some of which I found after following a the trail of articles in the "Marriage is reconstructed as a pro-feminist love-in" sentence:
http://www.catherinedeveny.com/marriage-what-a-crock/
All political spectrums have their radical crazies. That right there feminism losing its (gotdayum) mind.
The debate on sex(work) is feminism not being able to make up its mind.
I don't think this article does a disservice to black or 3rd world feminism. None of these grievances are specific or limited to white women.
Neo-liberalism is a real thing.
Brehs
My 10 year high school reunion is coming up (fuk man time flies)
Been a lot of female FR and FB chats popping up from thirst buckets of a decade past. Having to put my foot down real quick about that FB status i.e. Married .
Dunno if I'm even gonna go but that shit is this month and came fast af
My 10 year high school reunion is coming up (fuk man time flies)
Been a lot of female FR and FB chats popping up from thirst buckets of a decade past. Having to put my foot down real quick about that FB status i.e. Married .
Dunno if I'm even gonna go but that shit is this month and came fast af
By Smokey Go To PostBrehs
My 10 year high school reunion is coming up (fuk man time flies)
Been a lot of female FR and FB chats popping up from thirst buckets of a decade past. Having to put my foot down real quick about that FB status i.e. Married .
Dunno if I'm even gonna go but that shit is this month and came fast af
Do it breh. My 10 year reunion was really fun, and it's nice to see how peeps turned out.
That feeling when you work security and find out a coworker is taking an extended leave of absence after being shot in the stomach....
Though there's also that feeling when you and everyone else get to loot the corpse that is their vacant shift schedule.
Overtime for everyone all summer long ayyyyyyyyyyy
Overtime for everyone all summer long ayyyyyyyyyyy
That feeling of why the fuck am I here again? I almost quit tonight because they kept me four hours longer than they scheduled. There was an agreement in place that if I came in then I wouldn't have to stay after the business closed. I had the please kill me face on the whole time.
I'm already tired of traveling for work. I'll probably have about another 8-10 weeks on the road between now and April 2016. Not liking it one bit.
By Smokey Go To PostBrehsShit mine is this year, too. Fucking a.
My 10 year high school reunion is coming up (fuk man time flies)
Been a lot of female FR and FB chats popping up from thirst buckets of a decade past. Having to put my foot down real quick about that FB status i.e. Married .
Dunno if I'm even gonna go but that shit is this month and came fast af
Stress acne killing me bros. My cheek looks like I got attacked by someone.
10 is year is up for me too but I don't feel like it.
10 is year is up for me too but I don't feel like it.
By DY_nasty Go To Posti told them to eat a dick. fuck high schoolThis was me.
Reliving the social situation of my high school years is the least appealing thing in the world to me.
Yay just found out my landlord is raising rent by $100. As if living in the Bay wasn't expensive enough. I can't tell if I should be happy or sad I have a job at Costco along with working at a restaurant. I'm getting 5 days a week combined with both jobs though. But I suddenly feel like I should be looking for another job that hopefully pays more or work 6-7 days a week :(.
By Nelo Ice Go To PostYay just found out my landlord is raising rent by $100. As if living in the Bay wasn't expensive enough. I can't tell if I should be happy or sad I have a job at Costco along with working at a restaurant. I'm getting 5 days a week combined with both jobs though. But I suddenly feel like I should be looking for another job that hopefully pays more or work 6-7 days a week :(.I'm in the process of trying to find a place in the Bay and *phew*, this shit is something else.
By reilo Go To PostI'm in the process of trying to find a place in the Bay and *phew*, this shit is something else.
Yep the struggle is real. It's basically this. Living here and in general any desirable part of California means wanting to cry whenever you see what you'll have to pay to live in the area.
http://www.sfexaminer.com/sanfrancisco/1-in-4-us-renters-must-use-half-their-pay-for-housing-costs/Content?oid=2928601
I'm not making enough to cover rent on my own but I'm doing my damnedest to cover the most I can on top of other bills so my savings don't keep dwindling.
I had to fire two employees in one week. Not a good feeling, but had to be done. They were jackin up.
Hmm, my uncle is threatening to kill people again and might be over at my house soon.
If I call the cops on him, they might shoot him to death (he's got 10+ cop persuasion due to being white, but he's still such a fuckhead that it might not matter).
Then again, I don't really care if they shoot him to death, hmmm.
If I call the cops on him, they might shoot him to death (he's got 10+ cop persuasion due to being white, but he's still such a fuckhead that it might not matter).
Then again, I don't really care if they shoot him to death, hmmm.
Damn. Stay safe iwmtb. I can relate to living with a hostile individual. Is your uncle mentally I'll?
My whole family has depression and anxiety (with combines badly with the fact that everyone in my family other than me is a mental illness denier) and he's an alcoholic as well. Not sure about other stuff though.
He's a loser and doesn't actually get in fights where he hurts people other than against women, women he's married to, and unarmed people of color, so I'll be fine. I'm just wondering what's the best method for scaring him away from doing dumb shit.
It's sad that "would beating him with one of my baseball bats be less dangerous to his health than calling the police on him?" is now a question I have to ponder.
It's sad that "would beating him with one of my baseball bats be less dangerous to his health than calling the police on him?" is now a question I have to ponder.
I have the patience of a robot, but man, some of these employees just like to complain. Making my job harder just because you want to Q_Q. You don't work for BK, you can't have it your way.
Wife wanted me to give her for Mother's Day what made her a mother in the first place. ez.
I have been meaning to send the Wii U to Nintendo for over a week now. Gamepad won't work unless literally inches from the system.
Wife wanted me to give her for Mother's Day what made her a mother in the first place. ez.
I have been meaning to send the Wii U to Nintendo for over a week now. Gamepad won't work unless literally inches from the system.
He never came over, lol.
But anyway, worked six hours transporting rain barrels today, all six hours were in the rain and that was really lame and I was freezing.
But anyway, worked six hours transporting rain barrels today, all six hours were in the rain and that was really lame and I was freezing.
My family has a lot of the same problems, IWMTB. I think that most of them just naturally developed positive and productive coping mechanisms to work through depression and anxiety issues. These last few weeks I've been kinda dealing with my own version of it all and Mother's Day in particular is rough for me. My mom passed when I was 16 and because the rest of my family was hit so hard by it all, I never really got fully deal with it because I was helping them along - so every once in a while the issues pile up on me. I really haven't asked them for any kind of support since before then too. Just never felt right.
Until 6 months ago, my job was my coping mechanism lol. But fortunately, I'm in a situation where I can safely confront that and all that other stuff I shoved under the bed. Shit is rough. I don't think I ever really understood how rough until I got some better perspective.
Spoke to them all today and they really cheered me up. I don't think I gave them enough credit the past few years.
Mother's Day is a bitch.
Until 6 months ago, my job was my coping mechanism lol. But fortunately, I'm in a situation where I can safely confront that and all that other stuff I shoved under the bed. Shit is rough. I don't think I ever really understood how rough until I got some better perspective.
Spoke to them all today and they really cheered me up. I don't think I gave them enough credit the past few years.
Mother's Day is a bitch.
By Apollo Go To PostGuys, that girl from a few months ago is throwing a party tonight. I'm nervous.I understand you playing the slow game but goddamn man. You're acting like me a month ago - where you like the fact that you like someone more than you actually like her. Go down in flames or come out a champ already. At least I got semi-shotdown and left to national treasure the whole situation.
Damn.didn't know you lost your mom dy. That fucking sucks. Hopefully today doesn't hit too hard.
I can't imagine what I'll feel like when my mom dies. I legit hope she outlives me.
I can't imagine what I'll feel like when my mom dies. I legit hope she outlives me.
DY it's 4a.m. And I just got home. I think I am in a good position. We spent the night chatting. I made her friends fall in love with me. Her roommates invited me out to brunch. The one guy roommate asked if I wanted to play soccer with him and his friends.
I might be going out with her on Weds.
Dy, sorry about your mom.
I might be going out with her on Weds.
Dy, sorry about your mom.
By DY_nasty Go To PostI appreciate it man. Today just sucks is all lol.
Didn't know this, sorry to hear
My dad goes through the same thing on Mother's Day. Lost my grandmother some years ago and my dad took it really hard. Always have to call and check up on him on her birthday and mother's day :/
I appreciate it. Mother's Day is the one day where I don't even try and pretend that I'm doing good lol. My mom was my best friend, and we went through a hell of a lot together too. It'll never not be rough. Today is when I usually just hide under my bed. Listening to Hey Mama on the radio and stuff like that is bad enough but every facebook status, family get together, kid in the park... shit gets heavy
I have not seen my mom (either parent) in four years. I offered to fly my mom up here for a mother's day gift, but she's hesitant to set a date. Told me she's thinking about driving up here with dad...the same father who hasn't answered my phone calls in almost a year plans on just showing up to my doorstep? I hope they don't believe that's just going to be acceptable.
Used Uber for the first time today to get home from work. Need to buy a car soon. Public transportation is fucking garbage in Florida. 10 mins drive is 1.5 hours on a bus.
Finding so many parallels in the Sopranos of all things with my family's life. That show is just too good.
By Apollo Go To PostMy dad was told the chemo isn't working and his liver is failing.
:( really sorry to hear that man
By Apollo Go To PostMy dad was told the chemo isn't working and his liver is failing.Jesus Christ. Hope he pulls through somehow.
By Apollo Go To PostMy dad was told the chemo isn't working and his liver is failing.Rough. Condolences.
By Apollo Go To PostMy dad was told the chemo isn't working and his liver is failing.
I'm sorry :(
By Apollo Go To PostMy dad was told the chemo isn't working and his liver is failing.Sorry man, stay strong.
By Apollo Go To PostMy dad was told the chemo isn't working and his liver is failing.
Damn... That's really rough. Best wishes.
I'm sitting in the 1st shift supervisor's office and they have schedules that begin at 6 AM. My goodness, if I had that schedule, it would solve all of my life's problems.
By Zero Tolerance Go To PostTime to upgrade:We use that at work and for SL&ENT, but the problem is that it's an enterprise level software still. It's not an amazing business tool, but not so much for mass communication.
slack.com