By domino Go To Postman my ideas of success are so fucked up. family i can deal with. it's everybody else. i wish i could be so comfortable w/ what i'm doing that i feel like i'm not taking an L in life. or that i'm just flat wasting my time by trying certain things.i mean
i'm different and i know it. i've already had two mid-life crises too. one when i dropped out of college for the right reasons then went back for the wrong reasons and another when i got out of the military to discover i didn't change as much as i thought i did, i actually grew up. there's really no such thing as time wasted in life as long as you're making progress in some sort of way - people constantly dismiss individual mental progress though. there's no selfie for that shit.
All of my clients love me as a math, econ, and statistics tutor and they've started acing exams after hiring me ;).
By domino Go To Postman my ideas of success are so fucked up. family i can deal with. it's everybody else. i wish i could be so comfortable w/ what i'm doing that i feel like i'm not taking an L in life. or that i'm just flat wasting my time by trying certain things.
I think I get what you mean. Sometimes I doubt myself and feel like I'm taking an L being happy with a Costco job. I know it's not an end game so that's why I'm trying to teach myself programming and get an actual career that way. My family though just drills into my head that I won't get anywhere without a degree. I've tried to argue no school isn't worth it and I'm not going to spend even more money and time to get a degree that I may not even need. I really wouldn't mind school if the cost wasn't so insane. But I really don't want to have to jump on the student loan train even if it's possible to avoid loans.
Right now based on what I've learned, I'm better off teaching myself and building a portfolio rather than going to school. I find programming appealing since I actually enjoy learning it on my own time and I would love the option to be able to work remotely, the presumably nice paycheck would be icing on the cake.
Beside that I swear I've been more productive and happy not being in school and have matured and somehow become more social without having that so called college experience.
School \ College from an employment perspective is all about networking. It just makes it easier to get yourself in front of companies for opportunities. Once you have a degree its all congrats and celebrations, but you are not guaranteed anything because of it. Plenty of people make it without college and the total shitfest that is tuition costs are keeping more and more people out . I think I have something like 20k in student loans. Compared to others that's a drop in a bucket .it's ridiculous .
You'd be surprised how many jobs actually require a Bachelors regardless of the quality of your portfolio, just sayin'.
Man, my degree mattered fuck all to my job prospects. Like Smokey said, it's about networking and your skillset. Once you get your feet wet in the industry, at that point it's building up your skillset and portfolio and network, network, network.
Eh I see it as an actual requirement for applications a lot and within some places a requirement for a raise and or promotion. Sounds dumb but it's true. Not all places are design firms I'm talking. Anyway a degree doesn't hurt if you can do it on your own time and not get caught up in bullshit loans.
By db Go To PostYou'd be surprised how many jobs actually require a Bachelors regardless of the quality of your portfolio, just sayin'.
And a lot of times it doesn't even matter what the degree is in. It really boils down to you paying a ton of money for an, in theory, better chance of gaining employment. But then you get out and employers want experience and if you don't have it (and how would you fresh out of school) it becomes a daily grind to find SOMEONE to take a chance on you. Meanwhile you have tens of thousands of dollars of debt waiting to congratulate you when you get that first check.
I'm grateful for getting mine and I wouldn't of had the career I do without it...but the process is terrible and the government and its parties are making a killing .
It is a terrible process and what students aren't taught is how to make the most of their college experience. Like all the resources at their disposal while in school. Arguably more important than a lot of the knowledge they soak up and work they do, how to rub shoulders with people and get into the proper social circles to get hired via "I know people looking for someone like you" rather than just shitty job searching on the solo.
http://www.economist.com/news/united-states/21646220-it-depends-what-you-study-not-where
Which would seem to go against the networking idea and point instead towards the idea that college is just for showing how smart you are (signaling) or for gaining skills since if networking mattered a great deal, the fancier/more expensive colleges should provide a much better return as they would have much better networking opportunities.
A new report from PayScale, a research firm, calculates the returns to a college degree. Its authors compare the career earnings of graduates with the present-day cost of a degree at their alma maters, net of financial aid. College is usually worth it, but not always, it transpires. And what you study matters far more than where you study it.
Engineers and computer scientists do best, earning an impressive 20-year annualised return of 12% on their college fees (the S&P 500 yielded just 7.8%). Engineering graduates from run-of-the-mill colleges do only slightly worse than those from highly selective ones. Business and economics degrees also pay well, delivering a solid 8.7% average return. Courses in the arts or the humanities offer vast spiritual rewards, of course, but less impressive material ones. Some yield negative returns. An arts degree from the Maryland Institute College of Art had a hefty 20-year net negative return of $92,000, for example.
Which would seem to go against the networking idea and point instead towards the idea that college is just for showing how smart you are (signaling) or for gaining skills since if networking mattered a great deal, the fancier/more expensive colleges should provide a much better return as they would have much better networking opportunities.
I'd say a degree is proof you can stick with something and see it through to the end, not intelligence.
By IWMTB19 Go To Posthttp://www.economist.com/news/united-states/21646220-it-depends-what-you-study-not-where
Which would seem to go against the networking idea and point instead towards the idea that college is just for showing how smart you are (signaling) or for gaining skills since if networking mattered a great deal, the fancier/more expensive colleges should provide a much better return as they would have much better networking opportunities.
What fancier schools offer in abundance is options.
Vast majority of liberal arts majors have no illusions about what they want to do after graduation: more school. But at the elite schools (I hate that expression btw), plenty of psych majors and lit majors end up at MBB or Wall Street firms if they so choose.
By reilo Go To PostMan, my degree mattered fuck all to my job prospects. Like Smokey said, it's about networking and your skillset. Once you get your feet wet in the industry, at that point it's building up your skillset and portfolio and network, network, network.I'm hoping that's the case. My friend said he could get me a job at his employer and he's IT. If I keep at learning html and CSS. And Treehouse had tha career program where thy work with employers to land you an interview.
By Smokey Go To PostAnd a lot of times it doesn't even matter what the degree is in. It really boils down to you paying a ton of money for an, in theory, better chance of gaining employment. But then you get out and employers want experience and if you don't have it (and how would you fresh out of school) it becomes a daily grind to find SOMEONE to take a chance on you. Meanwhile you have tens of thousands of dollars of debt waiting to congratulate you when you get that first check.
I'm grateful for getting mine and I wouldn't of had the career I do without it…but the process is terrible and the government and its parties are making a killing .
That's basically why I hate it since it feels like a lottery ticket and you're not guaranteed a job even if you intern and pass with flying colors. At times it feels like I lose no matter what I do. In theory yeah a degree would help immensely but I've also read that certain fields like the one I want don't need it.
I really just don't wan to go back and learn theory or useless crap that I won't actually use in my job. Since otherwise yeah the only reason I'd go back is if I could afford it and the networking opps. If there's one thing I can do well its network and I usually do well in interviews.
By IWMTB19 Go To Posthttp://www.economist.com/news/united-states/21646220-it-depends-what-you-study-not-where
Which would seem to go against the networking idea and point instead towards the idea that college is just for showing how smart you are (signaling) or for gaining skills since if networking mattered a great deal, the fancier/more expensive colleges should provide a much better return as they would have much better networking opportunities.
From your article:
Courses in the arts or the humanities offer vast spiritual rewards, of course, but less impressive material ones.
When I was in undergrad, my English degree was spiritually liberating; I didn't want for materials because I worked whenever I had a break in the semester and my folks paid for gas until my junior year. In grad school, however it was spiritually and EVERYTHING suffocating. Grad school is for masochists.
What I find concerning is why the pay sucks. Screw the degrees. Once you land a job, is it even worth? My wife has a degree and she's more than a few dollars short of the median income for women in Michigan, which is $29k.
http://www.businessinsider.com/young-adult-vs-all-adult-weekly-earnings-2014-12
By db Go To PostI'd say a degree is proof you can stick with something and see it through to the end, not intelligence.
Sure, it might be that as well.
Posted all of my electronics on Craigslist and about to do the same to my furniture in a garage sale this weekend and found a place to rent for a couple of months on AirBnb in Berkeley ;_;
Shit is becoming realer by the minute and I'll be in San Francisco this time next week. This is moving all kinds of fast and I'm just trying to keep everything in perspective. I'll miss Portland so much, but damn if I'm not excited to start fresh.
Shit is becoming realer by the minute and I'll be in San Francisco this time next week. This is moving all kinds of fast and I'm just trying to keep everything in perspective. I'll miss Portland so much, but damn if I'm not excited to start fresh.
By reilo Go To PostPosted all of my electronics on Craigslist and about to do the same to my furniture in a garage sale this weekend and found a place to rent for a couple of months on AirBnb in Berkeley ;_;
Shit is becoming realer by the minute and I'll be in San Francisco this time next week. This is moving all kinds of fast and I'm just trying to keep everything in perspective. I'll miss Portland so much, but damn if I'm not excited to start fresh.
Have fun in the bay! Guessing your job will cover the absurd cost of living here.
Trying to get to Maui in a few months. That or St Thomas. St Thomas is fuckload cheaper but I need dat Aloha Spirit in 2015. Those Maui prices though...when you out of the literal honeymoon phase it hits you in the face like some bricks.
Wife keeps asking me about Mexico but really not about that Mexico life. Cartels got me spooked.
Wife keeps asking me about Mexico but really not about that Mexico life. Cartels got me spooked.
By Smokey Go To PostTrying to get to Maui in a few months. That or St Thomas. St Thomas is fuckload cheaper but I need dat Aloha Spirit in 2015. Those Maui prices though…when you out of the literal honeymoon phase it hits you in the face like some bricks.
Wife keeps asking me about Mexico but really not about that Mexico life. Cartels got me spooked.
thing is I don't want to go somewhere tropical when its already sunny over here...puttin out mad bread when I can drive an hour and literally be on a beach with wild ponies running around n shit
but yea, id love to start saving for a trip to hawaii for when that cold ass shit starts up again...but ill probably cheap out and go to the bahamas or puerto rico or something
By Dark PhaZe Go To Postthing is I don't want to go somewhere tropical when its already sunny over here…puttin out mad bread when I can drive an hour and literally be on a beach with wild ponies running around n shit
but yea, id love to start saving for a trip to hawaii for when that cold ass shit starts up again…but ill probably cheap out and go to the bahamas or puerto rico or something
I don't know, vacation's supposed to make you feel good about yourself and stuff. Virginia Beach is nice and all, but that's like a day trip.
I just like the idea of going somewhere far away where I don't have to check my work emails.
"Sorry! Out of the country. Don't ask me to do shit!"
yal don't understand how nice it is out here. i really do think that if i was anywhere else in the country dealing with my separation issues i'd have been on wshh by now.
the cost of living is LOL but it is seriously worth it. also, it took me 7 months but i finally found a damned good barber (didn't want to be around military but that's where all the brehs are apparently)
the cost of living is LOL but it is seriously worth it. also, it took me 7 months but i finally found a damned good barber (didn't want to be around military but that's where all the brehs are apparently)
By DY_nasty Go To Postyal don't understand how nice it is out here. i really do think that if i was anywhere else in the country dealing with my separation issues i'd have been on wshh by now.
the cost of living is LOL but it is seriously worth it. also, it took me 7 months but i finally found a damned good barber (didn't want to be around military but that's where all the brehs are apparently)
i understand. i've been trying to get back there for damn near a year. I really want to go to either Maui or Kauai. But Maui got them tiger sharks tho and i can't fuk with that. A lady just got got over there a few days ago :x. Thoughts immediately came flashing back when I was in Hanauma Bay last year. Snorkling my ass off but my wife wasn't about it. So I took off for about a hour with just my GoPro. I reached a point past the reef where the water all of a sudden went from warm to a little cold and it got a bit deeper. Nope. Turned my ass back around. Probably wasn't the smartest thing doing that by myself.
I ended up on the other side of the bay and found my wife on the beach just staring into the bay. I was apparently about a minute away from her going to the lifeguard. Lost track of me in the water.
By Smokey Go To Posti understand. i've been trying to get back there for damn near a year. I really want to go to either Maui or Kauai. But Maui got them tiger sharks tho and i can't fuk with that. A lady just got got over there a few days ago :x. Thoughts immediately came flashing back when I was in Hanauma Bay last year. Snorkling my ass off but my wife wasn't about it. So I took off for about a hour with just my GoPro. I reached a point past the reef where the water all of a sudden went from warm to a little cold and it got a bit deeper. Nope. Turned my ass back around. Probably wasn't the smartest thing doing that by myself.I haven't been island hopping yet but I need to. Almost took a job on Kauai a while back too.
I ended up on the other side of the bay and found my wife on the beach just staring into the bay. I was apparently about a minute away from her going to the lifeguard. Lost track of me in the water.
When and if you do move out here though, make some local friends. I won't get in water or take a hike in a place my homegrown people don't co-sign and greenlight first. Rent and food prices got a bit easier to stomach once I realized I was constantly paying for the location before anything else.
By DY_nasty Go To PostI haven't been island hopping yet but I need to. Almost took a job on Kauai a while back too.
When and if you do move out here though, make some local friends. I won't get in water or take a hike in a place my homegrown people don't co-sign and greenlight first. Rent and food prices got a bit easier to stomach once I realized I was constantly paying for the location before anything else.
How do they treat full time resident black people out there
I know some locals hate white folks with a passion. That extend to other races too?
well got a job, really hoping I can really improve my art so I can start making money with that in the next year.
^that's what up psy
on top of that, what other reason would a young, fit black guy have to be out in hawaii other than military most of the time? its just not all that common. that being said, once you're down with some good people out here they'll hold you down through fucking anything. as long as you're not the dude who talks too much and doesn't give a fuck about who he disrespects, you should be fine.
im 100% serious about getting in good with some local folks though when you get here. or at least someone that's been here for a few years already. you absolutely need someone to give you the run down on the dos and donts, wherenottobe, etc.
and if someone tells you to chill out in waianae with them don't hesitate to call the police right then and there
By Smokey Go To PostHow do they treat full time resident black people out thereeh... its really more of a dislike towards douche-military. cool military people? yeah they're down with them (in public to an extent) its just a matter of general distrust. like... how do you know that person in the military is one of the good ones? lol
I know some locals hate white folks with a passion. That extend to other races too?
on top of that, what other reason would a young, fit black guy have to be out in hawaii other than military most of the time? its just not all that common. that being said, once you're down with some good people out here they'll hold you down through fucking anything. as long as you're not the dude who talks too much and doesn't give a fuck about who he disrespects, you should be fine.
im 100% serious about getting in good with some local folks though when you get here. or at least someone that's been here for a few years already. you absolutely need someone to give you the run down on the dos and donts, wherenottobe, etc.
and if someone tells you to chill out in waianae with them don't hesitate to call the police right then and there
If you guys want to lose weight really quickly......
...my cousin went did intermittent fasting plus a calorie limit for a month and lost 50 pounds.
:O
I don't know how healthy that is though lol
...my cousin went did intermittent fasting plus a calorie limit for a month and lost 50 pounds.
:O
I don't know how healthy that is though lol
Thx. Let's hope I dont have it for too long. I'm gonna have to really start putting in work in my art. I've been slacking.
By dark_prinny Go To Postlol
Anita Sarkeesian recommended an article from a really fucking weird SWERF+TERF and then blocked me when I called her on it, nooooo.
White Feminism consumes too many.
White Feminism consumes too many.
https://theconversation.com/no-feminism-is-not-about-choice-40896
And then the author went on a weird Twitter rant about how it's literally impossible for Playboy to ever publish a pro-women article.
The article has the word ("neo-liberal") in it as well.
And then the author went on a weird Twitter rant about how it's literally impossible for Playboy to ever publish a pro-women article.
The article has the word ("neo-liberal") in it as well.
By Nelo Ice Go To PostI think I get what you mean. Sometimes I doubt myself and feel like I'm taking an L being happy with a Costco job.
Is it sad that I'm about to get a raise that pays me slightly less than an entry level job in one of the five fields I'm technically qualified for? I could ride this POS job at $12 an hour into security for the next three years but don't want to do it because it's n the same town that I got my undergrad degree in.
By IWMTB19 Go To Posthttp://www.economist.com/news/united-states/21646220-it-depends-what-you-study-not-where
I'd pay good money to have this turned into a searchable database.
By Smokey Go To PostSchool \ College from an employment perspective is all about networking. It just makes it easier to get yourself in front of companies for opportunities. Once you have a degree its all congrats and celebrations, but you are not guaranteed anything because of it. Plenty of people make it without college and the total shitfest that is tuition costs are keeping more and more people out . I think I have something like 20k in student loans. Compared to others that's a drop in a bucket .it's ridiculous .
I wish I had 20K in student loans. That's doable on the low level as well.
My members of Congress are ranting and raving everywhere in the media about how the religious will be permanently harmed and marginalized if gay people are allowed to marry and I'm like: Dudes, go to a therapist and then I drink their tears.
we've basically hit a point where a lot of people are just straight up villains now, and the worst part of it is the cognitive dissonance that comes with it--you try to tell someone their thoughts are fucked up and they just shut down
all yall brehs that are on about hawaii...have any of yall been to any east coast islands? does it compare? that hawaii plane ticket...
all yall brehs that are on about hawaii...have any of yall been to any east coast islands? does it compare? that hawaii plane ticket...
By Dark PhaZe Go To Postwe've basically hit a point where a lot of people are just straight up villains now, and the worst part of it is the cognitive dissonance that comes with it–you try to tell someone their thoughts are fucked up and they just shut down
all yall brehs that are on about hawaii…have any of yall been to any east coast islands? does it compare? that hawaii plane ticket…
I havent. I dunno...i don't really want to visit the east coast outside of NY tbh. By default that extends to any of the islands. When thinking of trips I immediately think of the western part of the country.
By Dark PhaZe Go To Postall yall brehs that are on about hawaii…have any of yall been to any east coast islands? does it compare? that hawaii plane ticket…It's cheaper for me to fly to Hawaii than say.... St. Louis or some other shit hole.
By IWMTB19 Go To Posthttps://theconversation.com/no-feminism-is-not-about-choice-40896
And then the author went on a weird Twitter rant about how it's literally impossible for Playboy to ever publish a pro-women article.
The article has the word ("neo-liberal") in it as well.
I get part of their point. "Choice" regarding feminism is only as good as the options women have but it goes both ways for me. Certain things are going to be options for women because of how society is right now. And I don't see various things like objectification taking a hike. You can however make headway in the contexts in which shit like objectification wont be tolerated though.
By Dark PhaZe Go To Postwe've basically hit a point where a lot of people are just straight up villains now, and the worst part of it is the cognitive dissonance that comes with it–you try to tell someone their thoughts are fucked up and they just shut downi used to visit the outer banks off the coast of NC yearly
all yall brehs that are on about hawaii…have any of yall been to any east coast islands? does it compare? that hawaii plane ticket…
it doesn't compare at all
Anyway, hate to play that "we got bigger problems" card but why nitpick how to go about a specific kind of feminism when we're still dealing with this retrograde shit: http://rhrealitycheck.org/article/2015/04/28/texas-tea-partier-says-grieving-pregnant/
Fuck outta here.
argued that the state must force pregnant Texans to try to carry dying, deceased, or non-viable fetuses as long as they can.
Fuck outta here.
I can't remember the last time my attitude was this positive... Optimistic. It's fun again. The reality of a new city is settling in and I'm getting real excited.
By db Go To PostBay Area is a lot of new cities too ;p.Yea, I'm looking forward to that, too. The closest city to Portland is Seattle and I'm ambivalent about it.