Got a stomach virus last night and haven't really slept since. Probably going to call out of work today.
By Kibner Go To PostGot a stomach virus last night and haven't really slept since. Probably going to call out of work today.Bad shit, had one last month and it took me out for 3 days.
Thoughts and prayers kib
Nothing worse than a stomach virus 🤢. Really feel like this is it, gg, see yall on the other side.
Nothing worse than a stomach virus 🤢. Really feel like this is it, gg, see yall on the other side.
i used to wonder how much i'd have to make to get to a point where payday would come and go w/o me even thinking about it
a lot less than i thought
a lot less than i thought
By domino Go To Posti used to wonder how much i'd have to make to get to a point where payday would come and go w/o me even thinking about it
a lot less than i thought
I sometimes am slightly amused at payday
Generally, after my 401K is fully funded for the year during summer
"Oh, that's a nice bounce," as I look at my savings account
hashtag damn I ought to still be a Republican
Should start next week, we made it folks. Now that I'll be working in an office I'll know why everyone gets pissed at my nonsense posts.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Invisalign/comments/e6pxxp/tray_130_and_the_finished_result_i_started_my_2nd/I'm only on my 3rd tray. Shit's wild.
There's just something about... My dad's side of my family asking for money that always rubs me the wrong way.
I really need to get over certain shit and be an adult about certain things but damn.
I really need to get over certain shit and be an adult about certain things but damn.
my uncle quit coming home cause his fam would always ask him for money and coming home less would make them ask less
By domino Go To Postmy uncle quit coming home cause his fam would always ask him for money and coming home less would make them ask lessI'm with that. But these guys BEEN had money. I remember being broke as fuck in college and my dad made a big deal about me asking them to send me some fucking canned food. Another time I called asked him if he knew how to change out spark plugs and he went back and told everyone I wanted him to pay to fix my car - this was while my uncle in law was literally helping me push my shit to an abandoned lot after he happened to see me on the side of the road lol.
I love my brother and none of that old history got anything to do with him. But they just asked me to donate some cash to his basketball team and I can't deny how much it's bothering me.
Nothing wrong with that bothering you, imo. It's pretty shitty. My lil bro was always treated different than me, too. I wasn't allowed to go out as often as I would have liked during my summers in high school because I had to babysit my 5-6 years younger brother. When I was his age during the summer, I was still babysitting him and doing chores that included things like push-mowing the half-acre lawn with no supervision all the time.
Don't get me started when I had to drive him a single mile to his high school summer job because he wrecked his car when I was walking a mile to summer private lessons carrying my 25 pound french horn when I was in middle school.
Still salty.
Don't get me started when I had to drive him a single mile to his high school summer job because he wrecked his car when I was walking a mile to summer private lessons carrying my 25 pound french horn when I was in middle school.
Still salty.
oh nah that's trifling af lol.
i'd send some cash to the bball team but he'd have to ask me himself. fuck that senior family guilt trip shit.
i'd send some cash to the bball team but he'd have to ask me himself. fuck that senior family guilt trip shit.
By domino Go To Postoh nah that's trifling af lol.I literally just spoke to him last week. And gave him and my sister (too much) cash for the holidays/birthdays. Ain't hear shit about a basketball fundraiser. Matter of fact, my stepmom's last message to me is almost a full year ago. I might've got three "how you doing out there wherever you are"s from her in the last decade.
i'd send some cash to the bball team but he'd have to ask me himself. fuck that senior family guilt trip shit.
By Kibner Go To PostNothing wrong with that bothering you, imo. It's pretty shitty. My lil bro was always treated different than me, too. I wasn't allowed to go out as often as I would have liked during my summers in high school because I had to babysit my 5-6 years younger brother. When I was his age during the summer, I was still babysitting him and doing chores that included things like push-mowing the half-acre lawn with no supervision all the time.I try not to even tell them how much different things were between us growing up. Even little shit like the kind of friends I had in middle school wasn't good enough for those people.
Don't get me started when I had to drive him a single mile to his high school summer job because he wrecked his car when I was walking a mile to summer private lessons carrying my 25 pound french horn when I was in middle school.
Still salty.
Now that my sister is out of college, she kinda gets why I don't even respect the shit they try and say about me - good or bad. But my brother is just a weird spot for me personally.
If I learned anything from toxic family members is to just ignore them. I've gone years without going to the holidays on my dad's side just because of how negative some of my relatives where... Just last year my cousin called me and told me that she totally understood why I stopped coming around lol. I go back now since I have kids and wife, and overall shit has mellowed out but yeah, I use to just internalize shit but now I clap back on sight.
I remember one time I got at it with an uncle and my wife (gf at the time) shut his ass up.
My mom's side isn't so bad for me personally, but my mom has had to deal with mych more shit since she's been the most successful one so shems had to deal with a lot of resentment and she use to try and buy her family's love without realizing it. I told her she just needed to stop and worry about heself and since then she's felt much better.
point of the story, cut out negative people out of your life, if you got something to say, say it. Dont be a dick about it but if you have to state facts, state them.
I remember one time I got at it with an uncle and my wife (gf at the time) shut his ass up.
My mom's side isn't so bad for me personally, but my mom has had to deal with mych more shit since she's been the most successful one so shems had to deal with a lot of resentment and she use to try and buy her family's love without realizing it. I told her she just needed to stop and worry about heself and since then she's felt much better.
point of the story, cut out negative people out of your life, if you got something to say, say it. Dont be a dick about it but if you have to state facts, state them.
I almost had to cut my own mom out of my life because she wouldn't stop dogging me if I did something she didn't approve of. Had to tell her that the next time she does that, I wouldn't return any calls or contact her for like two weeks, with that time period escalating each time it happens.
It took her a few months, but she stopped tearing me down when we talk to each other and now does the opposite and is more supportive of me than she has ever been.
My dad's side of the family I cut completely out of my life once he died due to a whole bunch of shady shit they pulled in the aftermath of his death.
My brother was too young to really understand what was going on and is friends with them and trusts their word over mine over what happened. I told him that I don't care if he is friends with them, just don't expect me to ever have anything to do with them ever again. It's been over 20 years and I've held true to that, so far.
It took her a few months, but she stopped tearing me down when we talk to each other and now does the opposite and is more supportive of me than she has ever been.
My dad's side of the family I cut completely out of my life once he died due to a whole bunch of shady shit they pulled in the aftermath of his death.
My brother was too young to really understand what was going on and is friends with them and trusts their word over mine over what happened. I told him that I don't care if he is friends with them, just don't expect me to ever have anything to do with them ever again. It's been over 20 years and I've held true to that, so far.
Its not that simple FF. I love my sister and brother. My dad is... he's a dick but I understand why. I'm also the closest thing he even has to a friend anymore. That relationship between us only exists as it is now because both of us have almost died several times and we may as well be cool because why the fuck not. No one else understands why I think the way I do and no one else understands (or has the patience for) the shit he does. If either of us needs perspective, we have each other for that. Right now things are good, but even if they're bad we know to stay in touch if for no other reason than to ground the other.
My stepmom floats between being disturbingly emotionless, full fucking tilt over nothing, and a nice woman who knows she's gotten to where she is by being indifferent and putting up with life's bullshit (and she's had more than her fair share) - but she's got a huge problem with looking at me and only seeing my dad. I shouldn't have had to grow up with that given their odd relationship and didn't. We have no relationship. And she runs that house. Completely. Except I eat free at the house and help look after 'her' kids. I basically lived solo after I turned 16.
So I got no problem just ignoring or just throwing whatever shit THEY say to the side. Fuck they gonna do. But I'm pretty much the only person who knows how fucked my sister and brother are by growing up in that household.
I just particularly hate how much they revolve around money. Too many times I deal with them, its about money.
Maybe it was best that I was broke as fuck for so long. Money doesn't really factor into how I look at relationships more than the way people interact for it.
My stepmom floats between being disturbingly emotionless, full fucking tilt over nothing, and a nice woman who knows she's gotten to where she is by being indifferent and putting up with life's bullshit (and she's had more than her fair share) - but she's got a huge problem with looking at me and only seeing my dad. I shouldn't have had to grow up with that given their odd relationship and didn't. We have no relationship. And she runs that house. Completely. Except I eat free at the house and help look after 'her' kids. I basically lived solo after I turned 16.
So I got no problem just ignoring or just throwing whatever shit THEY say to the side. Fuck they gonna do. But I'm pretty much the only person who knows how fucked my sister and brother are by growing up in that household.
I just particularly hate how much they revolve around money. Too many times I deal with them, its about money.
Maybe it was best that I was broke as fuck for so long. Money doesn't really factor into how I look at relationships more than the way people interact for it.
Word, obviously any family situation is always going to be complicated. For money, I think it would be better to help with say something more productive like a with the basketball than giving them personal gifts.
At least from what I've seen that worked best for my mom, she is inherently a helper but now she's more measured about it and I'd say happier about it. I think her breaking point was when she paid most of the funeral for my GMa, while her siblings (8 in total) put in very little while they also had some money.
With my dad I had to just cut him off because he's ego really is so big that he never admits his wrong doing, like bro you ruined two
marriages because of your affairs lol, but he's kinda chilled with age and now that I'm a dad I just want a decent relationship with him and want my kids to have a grandpa, if he can be a good Gpa with them, then I'll call it evens lol.
At least from what I've seen that worked best for my mom, she is inherently a helper but now she's more measured about it and I'd say happier about it. I think her breaking point was when she paid most of the funeral for my GMa, while her siblings (8 in total) put in very little while they also had some money.
With my dad I had to just cut him off because he's ego really is so big that he never admits his wrong doing, like bro you ruined two
marriages because of your affairs lol, but he's kinda chilled with age and now that I'm a dad I just want a decent relationship with him and want my kids to have a grandpa, if he can be a good Gpa with them, then I'll call it evens lol.
By DY_nasty Go To PostI'm with that. But these guys BEEN had money. I remember being broke as fuck in college and my dad made a big deal about me asking them to send me some fucking canned food. Another time I called asked him if he knew how to change out spark plugs and he went back and told everyone I wanted him to pay to fix my car - this was while my uncle in law was literally helping me push my shit to an abandoned lot after he happened to see me on the side of the road lol.I'd be heated if my sister came to me for money. And I know it wouldn't be her fault because I love her to death but it's be because her husband isn't pulling his weight. They already come to my parents for crazy amounts of money as is.
I love my brother and none of that old history got anything to do with him. But they just asked me to donate some cash to his basketball team and I can't deny how much it's bothering me.
By data Go To PostNot that I have teeth like that but asked my dentist if I should I do it and he straight up said it will be harder to clean your gum and teeth if you do it. Maybe he's afraid of losing customers 😂
I'm only on my 3rd tray. Shit's wild.
My dad is probably the most well off from his family.
We pretty much stay away from any arguments about the lands the family inherited. As far as we are concerned, they can sort it out themselves.
We pretty much stay away from any arguments about the lands the family inherited. As far as we are concerned, they can sort it out themselves.
By batong Go To PostNot that I have teeth like that but asked my dentist if I should I do it and he straight up said it will be harder to clean your gum and teeth if you do it. Maybe he's afraid of losing customers 😂My dentist straight up recommended the orthopedic doing mine
Damn guys I literally have zero problems with my family. As I get older I've come to notice that I'm the exception not the rule.
By reilo Go To PostI'd be heated if my sister came to me for money. And I know it wouldn't be her fault because I love her to death but it's be because her husband isn't pulling his weight. They already come to my parents for crazy amounts of money as is.I think I told you when I went back home for the first time in years my dad pulled me aside and asked me for a fucking car payment after I took my brother and sister shopping.
By Lunatic Go To PostDamn guys I literally have zero problems with my family. As I get older I've come to notice that I'm the exception not the rule.Are you an only child?
By i can get you a toe Go To PostAre you an only child?For my mother. But I'm the first of 8 for my dad. Most of my extended family on both sides of my family live on this island and I get on with them. My mom's side is particularly harmonious. To be honest I'm probably related to 30% of the Caymanians here.
By Lunatic Go To PostDamn guys I literally have zero problems with my family. As I get older I've come to notice that I'm the exception not the rule.
Same. My cousin's a ho ass nigga but whatever.
Mom and my Aunt isolated us so much from the rest of the fam that we don't even know the rest of our family even though they all live in town pretty much.
It's a regular thing for me to get stopped out and about like "Tell your folks Cousin Junebug said hello"
Mom who tf is Cousin Junebug
By Flutter Go To PostMy dad is probably the most well off from his family.My dad might be entitled to a percentage of a very valuable plot of land/apartment building in Mumbai which the extended family over there has been fighting over for about 30 years now. I'm personally not bothered in the slightest about it, never met my grandad and by all accounts was pretty lucky not to have, and have no interest whatsoever in my Indian heritage (or Irish for that matter)
We pretty much stay away from any arguments about the lands the family inherited. As far as we are concerned, they can sort it out themselves.
Feel like it'd just be a bit weird if I ended up getting a windfall from a relative I never knew, in a country I'll probably never visit, as a result of legal proceedings that I have no part in.
There's a point where you realise blood isn't shit and you have to cut them out of your life forever.
Speaking of parents, one of my homie's dad is a retired pastor who was making good money, he was a preist in various areas and for a while was a pastor at a rich ass church in Santa Cruz. Anyways after some life events, divorce, got fired, etc. My homie's dad is now hitting him up for money for a condo in downtown SC and to cosign for lne of those 100k travlers van. 😂
By FootFungus Go To PostSpeaking of parents, one of my homie's dad is a retired pastor who was making good money, he was a preist in various areas and for a while was a pastor at a rich ass church in Santa Cruz. Anyways after some life events, divorce, got fired, etc. My homie's dad is now hitting him up for money for a condo in downtown SC and to cosign for lne of those 100k travlers van. 😂
"ask your boy jesus lol"
I don't have any drama with my parents but I think I've posted here before that my boss once told me he was proud of me and I told him that's the first time anyone's ever told me that. Parents just never showed any love or affection. Like basically roommates. When I began to get out of my depression, I started noticing how extremely negative they are about pretty much everything.
By DY_nasty Go To PostMaybe it was best that I was broke as fuck for so long. Money doesn't really factor into how I look at relationships more than the way people interact for it.
Same here. Being broke might have taken some years off of my life, but I am eternally grateful for some damn perspective. Just got into an argument with fam, recently, and was like...shit, we really weren't raised the same. I try to be an adult about my interactions, but certain shit just triggers you, ya know? Lol.
I just turned 30 two months ago and I already have to wear a knee brace for work otherwise I can barely move.
Life comes at you fast. Is it too late for me or am I going to be in a walker before 40...
Life comes at you fast. Is it too late for me or am I going to be in a walker before 40...
By Facism Go To Post"ask your boy jesus lol"
Time to live the monk life.
By aka Espi Go To PostI just turned 30 two months ago and I already have to wear a knee brace for work otherwise I can barely move.
Life comes at you fast. Is it too late for me or am I going to be in a walker before 40…
By aka Espi Go To PostI just turned 30 two months ago and I already have to wear a knee brace for work otherwise I can barely move.You gotta start taking better care of yourself. We can't always undo the damage, but we can manage it. I use to think I was going to live with a bad back in my early 20's but I was able to alleviate my symptoms with exercise and stretching.
Life comes at you fast. Is it too late for me or am I going to be in a walker before 40…
Life after 30 > any other age before it.
I could handle my anxiety better, got a lovely wife, and a job that didnt make me sleep under the table for a whole year straight.
I could handle my anxiety better, got a lovely wife, and a job that didnt make me sleep under the table for a whole year straight.
well i sure am enjoying having money and the freedom to do most of the things i want.
started a slow introduction at my new job last week. not starting officially until january though. 15 hour shifts dont seem that bad tbh, although i was only there like 7 the first day. basically i am baby sitting one 35 year old. he's extremely autistic and eats the same 7 things every week, got the same routine with everything as you expect. so basically i just have to wake him up (if he doesnt wake up by himself), feed him, take him out for a car ride to go somewhere and ... that's it, just try to make his day alright really. deal with if/when he becomes violent as well. he has his own little section of a semi large facility, where no one really disturbs him other than me and the 4 others working there.
so wearing an alarm all day, and in another section of the building, there is a prison kind of thing (for people with a diagnosis) as well. so can go there to socialize a little with other people at least. but really there is a lot of just sitting around time. so working about 2 days a week, on rare occasion 3 if someone is off work or whatever (and then a few meetings on top). will have plenty of time to read some books now, finally put that kindle to use. also more time than ever to shit post on slaent though.
started a slow introduction at my new job last week. not starting officially until january though. 15 hour shifts dont seem that bad tbh, although i was only there like 7 the first day. basically i am baby sitting one 35 year old. he's extremely autistic and eats the same 7 things every week, got the same routine with everything as you expect. so basically i just have to wake him up (if he doesnt wake up by himself), feed him, take him out for a car ride to go somewhere and ... that's it, just try to make his day alright really. deal with if/when he becomes violent as well. he has his own little section of a semi large facility, where no one really disturbs him other than me and the 4 others working there.
so wearing an alarm all day, and in another section of the building, there is a prison kind of thing (for people with a diagnosis) as well. so can go there to socialize a little with other people at least. but really there is a lot of just sitting around time. so working about 2 days a week, on rare occasion 3 if someone is off work or whatever (and then a few meetings on top). will have plenty of time to read some books now, finally put that kindle to use. also more time than ever to shit post on slaent though.
I'm in the best shape of my life at 30, but you know, I had to work for it. If you just let yourself wilt away then age isn't going to do you any favors.
And I'm just talking health. Not looks.
And I'm just talking health. Not looks.
Sedentary life-style of the modern age is a cancer.
Turning 32 in a month and boy, its getting harder and harder to stay in shape.
Turning 32 in a month and boy, its getting harder and harder to stay in shape.
By Daz Go To PostSedentary life-style of the modern age is a cancer.preach
Turning 32 in a month and boy, its getting harder and harder to stay in shape.
i didn't go to shit until i started this office job stuff
By DY_nasty Go To PostpreachYeah, got a desk job 2 years ago - I am now at war with my waistline.
i didn't go to shit until i started this office job stuff
Unfortunately, Standing desks cost like 5k apparently.
you can get an adjustable thing to put on your desk for like $100 bucks. a couple people at my job went out and got them.
By Pac-12 Go To PostYeah, blame working at a desk for that fact that you eat too much.speaking of
I actually just started one of those meal plan delivery service things. And fuck, its been worth every penny so far