By Kidjr Go To PostLondon house prices are just as bad if not worse.Living in the City is the worst. Sucking in car fumes always surrounded by other cunts. Sounds like hell on earth. I live 300m from the beach. That's living.
Funny I spend more on my dates with my wife now than I did when we were dating. Purely of my own doing, as I nurtured her taste for things like black cod and wagu beef.
By Apollo Go To PostI'm dating someone just as crazy as I am and I love it
By Apollo Go To PostI'm dating someone just as crazy as I am and I love itI’d have to go to a psychiatric ward for that to happen.
By FortuneFaded Go To PostI’d have to go to a psychiatric ward for that to happen.
By Apollo Go To PostI'm dating someone just as crazy as I am and I love itSounds like a recipe for disaster. I need that equilibrium.
By Lunatic Go To PostLiving in the City is the worst. Sucking in car fumes always surrounded by other cunts. Sounds like hell on earth. I live 300m from the beach. That's living.
Or access to actual world class food, shows, sporting events, concerts, great night life, variety in shopping. Sure you get those in smaller towns and I don't doubt beach is great but horses for courses and all that.
It's all a matter of what you want to and what you're into. If you're in the mountains or ocean side it wouldn't hurt to be into surfing/hiking/skiing or anything else you can do there. A lot of people aren't and are good with just a vacation to those places because if you're not into a certain hobby or culture you're basically just bored to tears after a while.
There are definitely a lot of nights where I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this. And I have nowhere to really vent it. I don't want to post it on facebook. I don't want to text friends because I've tried before and they don't really understand(the only one that ever did, we don't really talk anymore for a lot of reasons) so I guess I just explode on here tonight because I don't know where else to take it.
Just feel isolated, stuck, and not good enough. I don't know how people do it. I don't know how people don't destroy themselves at least once a week in their head. Therapy didn't help at all. Venting only helps in the short term.
Just feel isolated, stuck, and not good enough. I don't know how people do it. I don't know how people don't destroy themselves at least once a week in their head. Therapy didn't help at all. Venting only helps in the short term.
Assuming you talk about the hardship and isolation of the single and trying to date life.
Let me put it this way.
How important is it to you to find someone you can be happy with?
Very, I assume.
How important is it that you improve at a given video game?
Not really, in truth, it's a past-time. It's fun but whatevz.
And people will spend thousands of hours improving their aim in first person shooters... yet they will be discouraged in dating after dedicating a fraction of those hours to okcupid/tinder.
Put it another way. Love is too important for you to expect quick results. It takes thousands of hours of self-care (culture, gym, pleasures) and thousands of hours of meeting people.
Cheer up, chin up. The better you feel, the easier it'll be. Make that decision.
Let me put it this way.
How important is it to you to find someone you can be happy with?
Very, I assume.
How important is it that you improve at a given video game?
Not really, in truth, it's a past-time. It's fun but whatevz.
And people will spend thousands of hours improving their aim in first person shooters... yet they will be discouraged in dating after dedicating a fraction of those hours to okcupid/tinder.
Put it another way. Love is too important for you to expect quick results. It takes thousands of hours of self-care (culture, gym, pleasures) and thousands of hours of meeting people.
Cheer up, chin up. The better you feel, the easier it'll be. Make that decision.
By Gaby Go To PostPut it another way. Love is too important for you to expect quick results. It takes thousands of hours of self-care (culture, gym, pleasures) and thousands of hours of meeting people.Most people get into relationships without even trying.
By FortuneFaded Go To PostMost people get into relationships without even trying.This.
I mean, of course you have to put yourself out there in some capacity - you've got to actually meet people in order to form a relationship - but actively looking to fall in love (or for somebody to fall in love with you) isn't generally how love or relationships work.
By FortuneFaded Go To PostMost people get into relationships without even trying.
Yes, divorce courts are filled with people who lucked themselves into a relationship. People meet and they settle, accept things they shouldn't, etc. But if you're demanding, then you better be proactive.
By Francis Go To Postactively looking to fall in love (or for somebody to fall in love with you) isn't how love or relationships work."Love" isn't something that just happens to you. It's not a state. It's actions. It's 2018, people don't just go for their neighbor anymore, or stay with their high school crush. Life happens. And past 25, you can't just date classmates.
Being lazy about it is a bad basis on which to build a life. Finding someone right, as well as being a better person, takes as much work as it takes to nurture a positive relationship once it has started. It's usually men who are just content letting life come to them.
Relationships are not owed to anyone. It takes effort to find a good one, and it takes effort to keep it going. Self-pity is the making of incels.
By data Go To PostThere are definitely a lot of nights where I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this. And I have nowhere to really vent it. I don't want to post it on facebook. I don't want to text friends because I've tried before and they don't really understand(the only one that ever did, we don't really talk anymore for a lot of reasons) so I guess I just explode on here tonight because I don't know where else to take it.It took a lot of time, discipline, and failures for me to get in a better headspace. The change I made that affected me the most, though, was removing the elements in my life that generated negative energy/thoughts. It's amazing how much better you feel when others aren't telling or insinuating how they feel you are a failure.
Just feel isolated, stuck, and not good enough. I don't know how people do it. I don't know how people don't destroy themselves at least once a week in their head. Therapy didn't help at all. Venting only helps in the short term.
Like, seriously, get away from people with bad attitudes/personalities and you will be much better off.
By Kibner Go To PostLike, seriously, get away from people with bad attitudes/personalities and you will be much better off.I moved to a new country by myself
By Kidjr Go To PostCome London mate
I might, mainly depends on where my mum is.
By Kidjr Go To PostOr access to actual world class food, shows, sporting events, concerts, great night life, variety in shopping. Sure you get those in smaller towns and I don't doubt beach is great but horses for courses and all that.
Pretty much my view.
By data Go To PostThere are definitely a lot of nights where I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this. And I have nowhere to really vent it. I don't want to post it on facebook. I don't want to text friends because I've tried before and they don't really understand(the only one that ever did, we don't really talk anymore for a lot of reasons) so I guess I just explode on here tonight because I don't know where else to take it.
Just feel isolated, stuck, and not good enough. I don't know how people do it. I don't know how people don't destroy themselves at least once a week in their head. Therapy didn't help at all. Venting only helps in the short term.
Good that you can use this place to vent, and please do. Lot of great members on here too who are always willing to listen.
By Kidjr Go To PostOr access to actual world class food, shows, sporting events, concerts, great night life, variety in shopping. Sure you get those in smaller towns and I don't doubt beach is great but horses for courses and all that.When you get older you will understand. Living just outside the City is a much better environment. Also you can order anything you need. Also night life gets stale as you get older so vacations are much more sensible. You just had a kid recently so I suspect your opinion will change when they get older.
By FortuneFaded Go To PostI moved to a new country by myselfI have it on good authority that you were kicked out
By NinjaFridge Go To PostI have it on good authority that you were kicked outBrexit means brexit
My final week at my current job has been crazy. Haven't really been doing much, but the reach outs from people from my older groups to meet and have lunch before I leave has taken me by surprise tbh. I only have a few days left, and I won't even be able to get everybody in. Today one guy took me to lunch where I tried octopus as an appetizer for the first time:
Never had it before, and I can say I probably would've never tried it if it was coming from my own pocket. Once i got over the appearance and took a bite it was a wrap. Dipped in the sauce it was 🔥. It almost tastes like a higher end crab? Will be heading to different spots with different people for the rest of the week. I'll definitely keep in touch with some of them as they've provided really solid life advice and are good people in general.
Never had it before, and I can say I probably would've never tried it if it was coming from my own pocket. Once i got over the appearance and took a bite it was a wrap. Dipped in the sauce it was 🔥. It almost tastes like a higher end crab? Will be heading to different spots with different people for the rest of the week. I'll definitely keep in touch with some of them as they've provided really solid life advice and are good people in general.
Octopus is amazing if prepared well. Great in a ceviche too.
I almost feel guilty they're incredibly intelligent. Almost.
Also ... it's nice to feel wanted ehh?
I almost feel guilty they're incredibly intelligent. Almost.
Also ... it's nice to feel wanted ehh?
By Fenderputty Go To PostOctopus is amazing if prepared well. Great in a ceviche too.
I almost feel guilty they're incredibly intelligent. Almost.
Also … it's nice to feel wanted ehh?
Yeah, I enjoyed it. Will get again.
I've never had any issues with my co workers though out my different assignments. It sucks having to essentially start over and read people from the ground up though. Trying to figure out who is a key player who's not. Meh. But the time came to make a move, and I feel like where I'm going will propel me professionally to a different level (on top of it being a upgrade in every aspect in pay, benefits, responsibilities, etc).
Never actually had octopus before, here in Cayman we call it "Sea Cat". I've used it as bait before because it's basically impossible to rip off a hook and on top of that, big mutten, dog tooth, and lagoon snappers love it. Also works well for deep drops. Because I've dealt with it as fish bait I have an aversion to associating it as food. Have the same problem with Calamari and Sprat.
I love octopus. I have had it as sashimi(freshly killed is a unique eating experience), sushi, takoyaki, and in soups. It is a pretty stable part of the Korean diet.
I can't do squid and octopus but that being said if you dig it Smokey go try some takoyaki, seafood pancakes, etc.
One of my favorite desserts I've ever had was candied baby octopus. Little bite size fuckers coated with caramel and sprinkled nuts.
By Random Ass Username Go To PostI can't do squid and octopus but that being said if you dig it Smokey go try some takoyaki, seafood pancakes, etc.
WHAT
By Apollo Go To PostRaw octopus is great
that's too far for me. this was perfect. straight up raw octopus, not ready for that.
By Smokey Go To PostWHAT
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pajeon
Nice thing is you can make your own. I've done the one with just scallions and made the sauce. Was good.
By Smokey Go To PostWHAT
that's too far for me. this was perfect. straight up raw octopus, not ready for that.
Japanese do a seafood pancake called okonomiyaki. They also do a pork belly version.
It's pretty fantastic. Make it as a treat around here probably once every 6 months or so.
By YungMagus Go To PostI'm sayin………I would love to go to Nagoya... but if people are coming from out of Japan... Nagoya, really?
p.s can Nagoya be the meet up spot?
By Kibner Go To Post
This was a good read about how people are using physical activity to cope with various issues from being on the back half of their lives.
This was me at like 22. Might happen again soon enough lol
I mentioned it in discord (thanks for the support!) but my mom had surgery to repair a fractured tibia yesterday. I stayed with her last night in case she needed anything.
Her nerve blockers will wear off at some point today, and she will feel excruciating pain when they do. She will also have her leg immobilized and not allowed to put weight on it for the next three months. For a person that moves around as much as she does, this is going to be killer. :(
I'm so damn glad her sister lives next door and her niece and godson both live down the road so that she is able to reach help more timely than me living a five minute drive away. I'm watching her dog right now so it doesn't get underfoot while she can't walk. Visit her during my lunch break every day to make sure she ate and doesn't need anything.
This is rough, but it's going to be nothing compared to when she eventually gets too old to care for herself. :(
Her nerve blockers will wear off at some point today, and she will feel excruciating pain when they do. She will also have her leg immobilized and not allowed to put weight on it for the next three months. For a person that moves around as much as she does, this is going to be killer. :(
I'm so damn glad her sister lives next door and her niece and godson both live down the road so that she is able to reach help more timely than me living a five minute drive away. I'm watching her dog right now so it doesn't get underfoot while she can't walk. Visit her during my lunch break every day to make sure she ate and doesn't need anything.
This is rough, but it's going to be nothing compared to when she eventually gets too old to care for herself. :(
By Dark PhaZe Go To PostMan that must have been extremely painful. Hope she heals up without too much of a struggle.She was a nurse for 40+ years before retiring recently, so I hope that gives her an advantage in knowing how to care for herself during recovery and rehab.
By Kibner Go To PostShe was a nurse for 40+ years before retiring recently, so I hope that gives her an advantage in knowing how to care for herself during recovery and rehab.
Sorry to hear about your mum, good that she has nearby assistance, and I hope she makes a speedy recovery.
By blackace Go To PostI would love to go to Nagoya… but if people are coming from out of Japan… Nagoya, really?
Nigga we just an't stopin in Nagoya.
Edit: Sorry to hear Kib, hope yo moms gettin better ASAP
