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How about a thread where we just talk about stuff?

How is everybody doing?

I hate looking for jobs and I'm not sure I'll ever find one :( Been graduated for almost a year and nothing yet.

What did you major in? Thought about going back to school? My sis in law was in same spot 2 years ago. She got a BA in psychology. Couldn't find anything, so she went to back to school for her masters in business I believe. Took full advantage of networking and other tools. Got hired on by Ford and has been making a ton of money since.

Downside is she now lives in Detroit.

I'm pissed off as fuck. I just found out my company's out of state health insurance plan doesn't cover jack or shit and it's all out of pocket if I need a dentist or specialty doc. No one told me how shitty this plan was, and worst of all, I've been paying the same for it for the past 8 months I've had it. Fucking unreal.

Now I'm talking to our company's health care rep to sort this shit out.

LOL. When I moved and they sent me a new health care card, they transferred over my name and address...but did not apply any of my past benefits to the new plan. Hahahaha. Had I been in an accident, GOD FORBID, I'd be fucked.

Just getting through school. I'm at my second semester at a UC after transferring from a community college. Life is good so far, nothing to complain about.

Left Spokane, moved to Atlanta. Studying for another insurance license. Refusing to support Atlanta sports teams.

Left Spokane, moved to Atlanta. Studying for another insurance license. Refusing to support Atlanta sports teams.

Like a true Atlanta native.

Left Spokane, moved to Atlanta. Studying for another insurance license. Refusing to support Atlanta sports teams.

Like a true Atlanta native.

lol!

How about a thread where we just talk about stuff?

How is everybody doing?

I hate looking for jobs and I'm not sure I'll ever find one :( Been graduated for almost a year and nothing yet.

What did you major in? Thought about going back to school? My sis in law was in same spot 2 years ago. She got a BA in psychology. Couldn't find anything, so she went to back to school for her masters in business I believe. Took full advantage of networking and other tools. Got hired on by Ford and has been making a ton of money since.

Downside is she now lives in Detroit.

I have a marketing degree, but don't want to do sales at all. I honestly should have expected this, but ughhhal;skjfa;sljkg

Everywhere I apply to doesn't even send a rejection, just silence. Oh well

Thinking about just leaving the country for a while as we have a house in Taiwan. Stay there a few months to brush up on my Chinese or something.

I've been at a CC since 08 and I'm still lost with what I want to do. Thought compsci might be for me but my teacher this semester was useless and I couldn't just figure out C++ on my own. So I dropped it before it could show up on my transcript. I also didn't want to stay and get hilariously behind. Now I'm back working this retail job part time and not getting like any hours. Have too much free time on my hands but I know I need to get full time somewhere at least and hope I can get more than min wage. Besides that I'm just trying to enjoy myself and figure out what I want in a career.

How about a thread where we just talk about stuff?

How is everybody doing?

I hate looking for jobs and I'm not sure I'll ever find one :( Been graduated for almost a year and nothing yet.

I was lucky and was only unemployed for about a month and a half after I graduated. That being said I've been unemployed a couple of other times since, longest stretch was 8 months.

My current roommate has been without full time work for like 9 months now. He just started a new temp job this past week, maybe you should try a placement agency? If you have basic computer skills you could at least get a short term gig doing data entry or something.

As for me, life is decent enough. Having a roommate bums me out (had to get one for financial reasons) but my current job is pretty stable so that's good. I have to work this weekend though but I get over time so huzzah. Other than that, I wish I could motivate myself to get back into the dating game but its kind of a pain in the ass in LA.

You don't even want to know the list of shit thats gone wrong in my life.

Then whats good?

I'm in the pit orchestra for Beauty and the Beast this week.

Which means I already have that shit stuck in my head. FML.

You don't even want to know the list of shit thats gone wrong in my life.

Not getting an escort in Spain is definitely one.

naw, i think i'll be able to live with my self on that one.

You don't even want to know the list of shit thats gone wrong in my life.

I wanna know the real giri

You don't even want to know the list of shit thats gone wrong in my life.

Nicole leaving Kara?

You don't even want to know the list of shit thats gone wrong in my life.

Nicole leaving Kara?

No.

Well. Yes. That's depressing as hell. But not the cause of my drama

It's always said but I highly recommend an internship for those still in school. Or join some type of group that relates to your major. Once you get out of school it's a battlefield. Employers won't higher you because of no experience, but you need someone to hire you for that to happen. Unless you have a phenomenal GPA, it seems really hard to get a full time position with out an internship. I didn't take my career fairs seriously at all until my senior year. I managed to get an internship that summer and the company hired me full time later that year after my graduation. Feel like if that didn't fall my way I would've been fucked big time.

Yeah, I really wish I got an internship or actually cared enough to go for one. I was never motivated, not sure why.

I seriously have no idea where to go. I hate my retail job at home depot, I've been there way too long. I wish places like that had an easy way to get into corporate as I wouldn't mind moving to Atlanta to work for Home Depot, but that's probably never going to happen :(

Yeah, I really wish I got an internship or actually cared enough to go for one. I was never motivated, not sure why.

I seriously have no idea where to go. I hate my retail job at home depot, I've been there way too long. I wish places like that had an easy way to get into corporate as I wouldn't mind moving to Atlanta to work for Home Depot, but that's probably never going to happen :(

Are you applying for marketing/sales jobs? Have you thought about other business areas? If you haven't tried putting your name out there in other areas try that.

I just learned a lesson: try not putting your paychecks in the same pile as junk mail.

I can't believe I just had to sort through my entire trash bin to find a fucking check. SMFH

Currently training for Nursing Leadership and dabbling in an open relationship :)

i'm studying to be a paramedic. might become a firefighter on the way to that, and if i like being a FF i may stay in that profession. end goal is paramedic/RN tho.

Just waiting for middle of march to figure out where I'm doing psychiatry residency, just about to graduate medical school. I'm looking to stay in Florida, close to family and friends. Plus, I can't stand any other type of weather (I love the weather in Florida)

I know I'm going to match somewhere in Florida (Univ. Florida sent me an e-mail that's pretty close to saying 'you're ranked to match here'), but I really wanna stay here in Tampa.

I just learned a lesson: try not putting your paychecks in the same pile as junk mail.

I can't believe I just had to sort through my entire trash bin to find a fucking check. SMFH

Direct Deposit is your friend...

I just learned a lesson: try not putting your paychecks in the same pile as junk mail.

I can't believe I just had to sort through my entire trash bin to find a fucking check. SMFH

i'm assuming you don't have direct deposit because you offer lessons...but if it's not because of that then...

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I'm 99% sure I'm getting out of the army. Only way I'd stay in is if some crusty old Colonel sat down on the park bench next to me and inspired me to take the uniform seriously again. I love my job. I have no fucks to give for the army though. And if I stay in, I'd be doing a disservice to everyone underneath and around me.

Looking at being out for good around September or so. My mind's stuck on three things after that though - either chill out for a few months doing nothing but relaxing, moving immediately to Hawaii to pick up where I left off in school, or go backpacking through Europe.

What happened after you got ran over DY? I never followed the thread.

Also both your options sound super legit.. Hawaii or travel Europe... sounds like a win-win

Long story short, the injury wouldn't let me get to a level where I felt comfortable going to Ranger school. And after a long, long time of dealing with it by myself because the healthcare at this specific post I just kinda gave up. Rehabbing pretty much solo for 8 months made me a real angry person lol. It was always okay though because this is the perfect environment for a manchild in that situation but eventually I realized the pointlessness of it. I shoot with my offhand better than anyone else in my unit does with their primary. I'm the best at my job that's never deployed here by far. My team takes home the cake every time we go to the field - and I've been on a different team each time.

Three things happened at once. I finally got an MRI over a year and a half after the incident. Showed that I had a torn bicep and labrum and AC tear. And once I heard this, I immediately thought of every person who told me to tough it out, it was all in my head, we're all hurt, etc. My professional development and career progress was stonewalled because I was placed with a team that was severely handicapped by poor leadership. After putting up with them for 4 months, I made a formal complaint against her - only to be met with "she's got a good heart. the team needs someone like you to strong arm things when it gets rough. she has a different style." this only made it clear to me that I was working in a much larger system of incompetence than I expected. Normally I'd simply stand pat and wait for my eligibility for promotion to roll around pass her completely but our particular job is massively over-strength. No one is getting promoted for at least another year unless they change jobs. I love my job more than the Army and I've always felt that way. And lastly... I've always known that I don't need this shit lol. Going to Hawaii for school is my worst case scenario lol.

The injury is lingering and its a bitch. Again, I can't thank some of the guys here enough because I probably would've gone crazy if I didn't have a place where I could let my heavily medicated mind run free without running into any trouble. Some went way above and beyond what they ever needed to do to help me out and I'll always be thankful for it.

I wanna go to school in Hawaii but its grad school is shit :/

Direct Deposit is your friend…

i'm assuming you don't have direct deposit because you offer lessons…but if it's not because of that then…

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lol I can't get direct deposit from any of my "employers"

I freelance so that shit does not exist for me

yo phee did you ever go on your taiwan trip thing

yo phee did you ever go on your taiwan trip thing

nope

roommate bailed the fuck out on that trip as well as me

has anybody been to Hawaii

has anybody been to Hawaii

Went a while back. Will definitely go back within the next couple years.

Toxic leadership dy. Must suck man. Especially seeing as how you're basically considered a shit bag for going to suck call let alone being on profile. And I hope you're cool with your commander and first sergeant. I have a lot of buddies telling me how they weren't cool with the brass and were due for their stripes but didn't get them cause they wouldn't re up.

But that's nature of the business.


I just realized I have one week of spring break and it's back to school. Fuk dat shit

has anybody been to Hawaii

Shit changed my life man. I'll post a few pics later but as soon as I got off the plane at 10pm - couldn't even see that much - I was sold. I didn't even stay at a resort. Just chilled at my best friends spot. No words can describe mellow it gave me. Absolutely stunning environment. I was so caught up with taking it all in that I forgot to get laid.

has anybody been to Hawaii

Nice place.

Beaches are iffy.

American serving sizes are ridiculous.

Toxic leadership dy. Must suck man. Especially seeing as how you're basically considered a shit bag for going to suck call let alone being on profile. And I hope you're cool with your commander and first sergeant. I have a lot of buddies telling me how they weren't cool with the brass and were due for their stripes but didn't get them cause they wouldn't re up.

But that's nature of the business.


I just realized I have one week of spring break and it's back to school. Fuk dat shit

Dude... It got so much worse than that. Last month, someone made it a point to tell people that I was outperforming people a lot of people that weren't hurt and someone came to me and told me I was creating a hostile work environment. After that, I gotwritten up for working out on my own - like I had been for the past two years. I actually got demoted then promoted in the same day. The team that I had been assigned to to prop up kicked me off (after the squad leader literally cried in front of 6 people after being talked to sternly) and after I sat through a noted exercise in counseling which was labeled as BS 4 levels up I had the pleasure of watching two teams fight over me. That same day I got my own team.

I just can't work in a place that puts on a dog and pony show in order to prop up and support bad leadership the way that they did that day. I literally watched two NCOs cry over high school level shit - and instead of devouring them like the fatty scraps that they are, I have to play nice. Like we aren't in the military or something. And after all the shit I put up with over the past three years? Nope. Need to go.

But there was a lot shit that went down. These are all short versions. I could write a book.

So... People wanted to know what's up with me lately.

There are quite a few people here (mainly the guys from IRC) that will know that I've been working for an insurance company for the last 10 years. My family owned that insurance company. I worked a lot of hours. I mean, a LOT of hours. Out of the ~500 weekends in that time frame, i would have worked ~200 of them probably closer to 300. Stayed back countless nights. I normally start at 7am in the morning and finish at 5pm on a standard day, that's my minimum. I never took sick days (i have like 100 sick days saved) and rarely took holidays. I can't think of the last time I've gone to sleep, and i haven't been worrying about work things and thinking about it constantly.

I put a lot of my self into the company, but so did my Father, who started the place. I did a lot of the IT work, technical rate analysis, underwriting, sales, claims, i did a lot of reconciliations also.

We were one of the few profitable Agencies going around. We have an amazing loss ratio, great IT systems in place now, and we're in a position that should lead to growth. We're one of the few (count them, probably only 5% of agencies in AU) that can provide detailed statistics about the trucks we insure. And we are incredibly profitable. We were due to make our underwriter another AU$1.5 million this upcoming year, pure profit.

But, due to personalities higher up, and basically internal shit fighting between factions, we've lost our security. There's literally no good reason for it at all. It's all entirely personal, and even then, not personal with US, but people above us. It's really dumb.

This means, we have to close up shop. So i'm out of a job. That's official today.

It's sort of sad. I'll leave a lot of me behind in that place. And it is 10 years i'll have been there. And countless hours of just shit.

I can tell you, when we first got into trouble around Christmas, and writing was on the wall end of January / start of February, I spent a lot of sleepless nights. dry retching. Took it all pretty hard.

But now. I'm in relatively good place about it all. I'm going to get out of insurance. Going to get my masters (will only take a year as i have my bachelors). But next semester doesn't start till July. So i'll have a few months off. Which will let me get my ITB surgery (everyone on irc will have seen me complain about my knee and running). Focus on this site. I'll also get a 22 week redundancy pay out.

As for my apartment / living status. Originally, I had agreed with my parents to move back home, and rent out my apartment. I don't want to sell this place, but large mortgage + no income == failure. But my parents have said that they'll cover my mortgage and bills while i study, so i don't have to move home. Which is incredibly generous of them, and i'll have to see what becomes of that. But... even if it doesn't, moving home for a year isn't the worst thing.

My parents have said i should take my payout and fuck off to Europe (i have really good friends living in London) and then go to Ibiza, to quote my father, "to get drunk and laid" for a month. But i'll have to see how all that pans out.

But. I'm genuinely excited about going back and studying, and getting back into IT, and distancing my self from insurance. It's the first time in a long time, a looooooooong time, that i'm actually looking forward to the future.

I'll probably have my emo moments whilst it all really settles in once and for all. But thanks to those that have let me have bit of a rant lately. I can say, this whole experience has really changed me over the last few months.

well after 13 years I finally got my green card. woot woot

has anybody been to Hawaii

Went a while back. Will definitely go back within the next couple years.

Shit changed my life man. I'll post a few pics later but as soon as I got off the plane at 10pm - couldn't even see that much - I was sold. I didn't even stay at a resort. Just chilled at my best friends spot. No words can describe mellow it gave me. Absolutely stunning environment. I was so caught up with taking it all in that I forgot to get laid.

Nice place.

Beaches are iffy.

American serving sizes are ridiculous

Nice. I was wondering if it was over hyped. Probably going to go there for my honeymoon this summer. Still trying to decide on what island to stay at, activities to do etc. Told her we might have to take a second trip for a 5 year or something because right now it's expensive as fuck. Tons of options and trying to narrow down exactly what to do. I'm not sure I'm about that snorkle life...something about being in the ocean with the ability to see everything gets at me.

has anybody been to Hawaii

Went a while back. Will definitely go back within the next couple years.

Shit changed my life man. I'll post a few pics later but as soon as I got off the plane at 10pm - couldn't even see that much - I was sold. I didn't even stay at a resort. Just chilled at my best friends spot. No words can describe mellow it gave me. Absolutely stunning environment. I was so caught up with taking it all in that I forgot to get laid.

Nice place.

Beaches are iffy.

American serving sizes are ridiculous

Nice. I was wondering if it was over hyped. Probably going to go there for my honeymoon this summer. Still trying to decide on what island to stay at, activities to do etc. Told her we might have to take a second trip for a 5 year or something because right now it's expensive as fuck. Tons of options and trying to narrow down exactly what to do. I'm not sure I'm about that snorkle life…something about being in the ocean with the ability to see everything gets at me.

First off, congratulations.

Secondly, Maui should be your choice if it's your honeymoon. It's the most romantic of the islands.

well after 13 years I finally got my green card. woot woot

Wait what you weren't a permanent resident/citizen?

Im still a permanent resident too :(

Well now I'm sad giri. :( I wish you luck at school. We can both suffer together.

Well now I'm sad giri. :( I wish you luck at school. We can both suffer together.

Wait, you're back at school too?

Giri when you went to Hawaii what meal did you have that let you know we don't fuck around with our food portions?

And were you man enough to finish it

Giri when you went to Hawaii what meal did you have that let you know we don't fuck around with our food portions?

And were you man enough to finish it

Uhhh, every meal?

Seriously, there wasn't a single meal i ate in 'murricah that was reasonable portioned. It left me with little doubt as to why you're all a nation of fat asses.

It got me every time. I ordered a cheese burger from some pub, and it came with sides. I asked for the onion rings. the guy looked at me and said "you want double rings?" me"huh, wait, you get both fries AND rings" him"oh, yeah, you get both the fries and the rings along with coleslaw with the burger, and bottomless softdrink refills". Meal was like $10 (excluding beer).

Neither of us finished our meals.


Is it tony romo's the rib place?

we were splitting take away meals from there.

There are quite a few people here (mainly the guys from IRC) that will know that I've been working for an insurance company for the last 10 years. My family owned that insurance company. I worked a lot of hours. I mean, a LOT of hours. Out of the ~500 weekends in that time frame, i would have worked ~200 of them probably closer to 300. Stayed back countless nights. I normally start at 7am in the morning and finish at 5pm on a standard day, that's my minimum. I never took sick days (i have like 100 sick days saved) and rarely took holidays. I can't think of the last time I've gone to sleep, and i haven't been worrying about work things and thinking about it constantly.

In another life, I was an insurance agent. Started as an underwriting assistant, aced the broker's exam, set the company record, I was ready to kill it. By the end I was so broken down by the atmosphere I completely flaked, I wound up walking away from it, no notice, nothing.

I can't speak to what your relationship with the company and the industry was like, since it was a family thing for you. For me, it was hands down the most soulless, sleazy industry I've ever been involved with. Just deeply evil people - like the kind of stuff Mr. Burns would say, the higher ups walked around saying all the time. Because the industry was so heavily regulated in Canada, most providers were effectively identical, so they basically tried to cheat customers constantly as the only way to get ahead of competitors. Managers joking about ripping people off, acting like they were "winning" a game. Employees treated like interchangeable cogs, ground into human-shaped mush. Sleazeball managers breathing down everyone's neck all the time, breathing twice as hard if they were female. The turnover rate was the highest I've ever seen. All kinds of regulations and employment laws stretched and broken. Commissions taken away.

And we were sales, the bright side. Claims? What everyone called the "dark side?" I learned there that if you get ripped off on a claim from an insurer, it was probably on purpose. They would regularly deny claims, hoping the customer didn't know the insurance act well enough to challenge them (they usually didn't).

And this was a major international company who knew exactly what they were doing, not some fly by night outfit. I won't name names, but hey, who likes soccer?


The whole experience left me deeply depressed and I wrote half a Gaiman-esque magical realist horror novel about the experience. It wasn't until I wound up working in tech, then academia, that my faith in humanity was restored, that work experiences didn't have to be sheer exploitation (though that never goes away).

So what I'm saying is, there's a good chance you're going to wind up in a much happier place after all this.