By DY_nasty Go To Posti tried them out today actuallyRight, what finishing time can I get you to, Dy?
felt great - just didn't like the arch's that much. ended up settling for some sauconys in the meantime. i want to hit a half marathon by september or so, so i figure i'll course correct a bunch until then
Got five screens to work from today, almost getting dizzy from it. All good though, cat sitting Socks is making it all feel better š
By Batong Go To PostRight, what finishing time can I get you to, Dy?Just finishing at all is the goal lol
japan is still a goated country (as a tourist), sadly i have to give it to the weebs on this one.
with the yen in the dumpster i have been living like a king lol. south korea nekst.
with the yen in the dumpster i have been living like a king lol. south korea nekst.
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Promoted our local mental health running/social club and got this as a response š
Promoted our local mental health running/social club and got this as a response š
https://thepointmag.com/criticism/the-age-of-adolescence/
Arrested development, phew.
People refusing to grow up is a real thing.
I kinda get it. It's a form of escapism to something that feels better. Similar to "adult" coloring books.
At a certain point it crosses the threshold from escapism to their identity and refusal to grow up.
The amount of childless 20 and 30 somethings I know that frequent Disney Land/Disney World multiple times a year astounds me.
The amount of childless 20 and 30 somethings I know that frequent Disney Land/Disney World multiple times a year astounds me.
lmao, the meat behind this quote is as true today as it ever was:
Getting a first period, being bullied by classmates, feeling the stirrings of sexual desire, developing an eating disorder along the wayāthis was how you knew you were doing adolescence right, because this was how the characters in YA books did it. The backlash to this cultural script followed soon after, in an early demonstration of the recurring dynamics of the culture wars. Once YA books had successfully popularized this new conception of adolescence, parentsā reluctance to discuss these topics could be derided as prudery, which risked transmitting shame or ignorance to their children. The genreās critique of parental reticence provoked the opposition of culturally conservative families. Their outcry then drew new audiences to the books (especially educators and other professional defenders of free speech), thus fanning the genreās popularity: what was often little more than bland childrenās writing was now endowed with an urgent political purpose.
By reilo Go To PostAt a certain point it crosses the threshold from escapism to their identity and refusal to grow up.If they enjoy Disney, they enjoy Disney. š¤·
The amount of childless 20 and 30 somethings I know that frequent Disney Land/Disney World multiple times a year astounds me.
I literally have some friends that are Disney superfans (though still have the self-awareness about how evil the corporate side is) and they go to Disney World multiple times a year. Before and after they had children. They are still grownups, otherwise. One is a teacher and the other a public defense attorney. They actually raise their kids, too.
These are some really good points that I think I will have to chew on for a bit longer to fully grasp:
This was a really good/fun read. Thanks for the link!
Blume, for her part, has always maintained that her goal was simply to convey reality, how girls experience their own lives rather than how adults want them to experience them. But girls have developed breasts and menstruated since the beginning of time, and only in societies that practiced child marriage was this a decisive mark of maturation. Puberty is only the beginning of development pointing to reproduction and family, but while her heroines obsess over their changing bodies and kissing their crushes, the only thought they entertain about where these changes and crushes lead is the short-term dread of teen pregnancy. They worry about fitting in with classmates, but not even the character Blume insists is an academic āgenius,ā Rachel Robinson, gives a thought to life after high school. Of course, most adolescents donāt have a step-by-step plan for adulthood at the ready, but there is nothing essentially more ārealā about such a failure to imagine oneās future self. The time Anne from Anne of Green Gables spends contemplating (and changing her mind about) marriage with her friend Diana or that Little Womenās Jo spends writing in pursuit of her professional ambitions is not less realistic than the concentrated presentism of YA.
The older books depicted girlhood as a preparation for a future where happiness demands sacrifice and the suppression of unbecoming qualities that may very well be āwho we areā as adolescents but will not suffice for who we aspire to be in adulthood. In these books, as in life, coming of age requires agency, a conscious and concerted formation toward an ideal of who one hopes to be. When adulthood is no longer a moral achievement but a hormonal eventuality, there is nothing to aspire to or prepare forāno higher education, no vocation, no marriage or motherhood (except as an undesired mistake). Despite their ignorance of second-wave feminism, Louisa May Alcottās and L. M. Montgomeryās protagonists became, even in adolescence, significantly more intellectually and even professionally accomplished than Blumeās.
It would be unrealistic to deny the existence of young readers who wish for books to play back and amplify their struggles and anxieties, to wrap them in a hug of affirmation for who they are right now, rather than trouble them with the risks and possibilities of who they might one day become. It would be likewise unrealistic to deny that middle-aged women might wistfully recall their own experiences as such readers. As Blume has admitted, the Margaret movie is not for children so much as it is for the ānostalgia audience,ā their parents who grew up with the book.
But what would be most unrealistic of all would be to believe that such books speak to the deepest or most universal desires of girlhood. In its quest for realism, YA has lost sight of the fact that young girls possess equally real aspirations for intellectual and ethical self-development that canāt be satisfied or replaced by literary sex ed. An adolescence that never even threatens to issue in adulthood is a distortion of experience, not its honest rendering.
This was a really good/fun read. Thanks for the link!
By reilo Go To Postnow many of those are harry potter fans
https://thepointmag.com/criticism/the-age-of-adolescence/
Arrested development, phew.
People refusing to grow up is a real thing.
By i can get you a toe Go To PostDisneyworld or Land on shrooms must be amazing tho.That would be the perfect recipe for a panic attack lol
By i can get you a toe Go To PostDisneyworld or Land on shrooms must be amazing tho.
If you can handle crowds it is. I prefer weed edibles. Less
Chaotic
By i can get you a toe Go To PostI was thinking like low dose where colors and taste is enhanced for sure not full blown trip.
I had fun regardless but yeah microdosing would have been way more fun hahah š
By reilo Go To PostPeople refusing to grow up is a real thing.is there any studies on why this is the case? i mean millenials are the first generation like that.
for the record i don't think this is a bad thing. i'm certainly not in a hurry to grow up myself.
i mean my dad's generation had maybe a hidden toy train in the attic that only close personal friends would be allowed to look at but my generation runs around with graphic t's, plays video games and goes to disneyland alone and nobody bats an eye.
At a guess, I'd imagine it's in some part related to the traditional metrics of adulthood feeling further out of reach to a fair portion of the younger generations.
Can't own a home or really afford to have kids, so maybe that money goes to childish pursuits instead?
Can't own a home or really afford to have kids, so maybe that money goes to childish pursuits instead?
By JesalR Go To PostAt a guess, I'd imagine it's in some part related to the traditional metrics of adulthood feeling further out of reach to a fair portion of the younger generations.It's exactly that. 'Future's been stolen so they live in the past'
Can't own a home or really afford to have kids, so maybe that money goes to childish pursuits instead?
By DiPro Go To Postis there any studies on why this is the case? i mean millenials are the first generation like that.Socially things just change. There was a time when you couldn't like role playing games and sports without living a double life..
for the record i don't think this is a bad thing. i'm certainly not in a hurry to grow up myself.
i mean my dad's generation had maybe a hidden toy train in the attic that only close personal friends would be allowed to look at but my generation runs around with graphic t's, plays video games and goes to disneyland alone and nobody bats an eye.
Stranger Things actually that part lol
By DiPro Go To Postis there any studies on why this is the case? i mean millenials are the first generation like that.My das started working at 14, got drafted in the army and then got married and had kids.
for the record i don't think this is a bad thing. i'm certainly not in a hurry to grow up myself.
i mean my dad's generation had maybe a hidden toy train in the attic that only close personal friends would be allowed to look at but my generation runs around with graphic t's, plays video games and goes to disneyland alone and nobody bats an eye.
No time for personal hobbies, had to work 10 hrs a day just to take care of us.
But everytime he passes one of this carnival shooting galleries, he has to do a round and go for a stuffed animal.
Not sure millennials are the first generation tbh, been coming for a while. Nihilism and escapism as we have reached comfortable lives (at least in the west).
I love going to Disneyland, I still watch cartoon movies all the time and did before kids, I play video games, I love Harry Potter
You gotta define what growing up is and if your definition of growing up means growing out of the things you liked as a kid, then youāre doing so in the most boomer way possible
Kib said it above. Are you socially adjusted individual , have a job and take care of your responsibilities? Then you grew up
Part of the reason I think boomers have a hard time in retirement is that theyāve defined who they are as individual by their labor for most of their lives. Millennials do not
You gotta define what growing up is and if your definition of growing up means growing out of the things you liked as a kid, then youāre doing so in the most boomer way possible
Kib said it above. Are you socially adjusted individual , have a job and take care of your responsibilities? Then you grew up
Part of the reason I think boomers have a hard time in retirement is that theyāve defined who they are as individual by their labor for most of their lives. Millennials do not
Nobody is talking about doing all of that and keeping hobbies.
My point was merely pointed at those that fail to the things you are doing naturally and as a baseline: married, children, steady job / career, etc. Sprinkle in the other stuff? Expand your hobbies even? Great!
Only do the Harry Potter and Disneyland shit because you're too afraid to taking risks / chances on yourself on those other things? yikes
My point was merely pointed at those that fail to the things you are doing naturally and as a baseline: married, children, steady job / career, etc. Sprinkle in the other stuff? Expand your hobbies even? Great!
Only do the Harry Potter and Disneyland shit because you're too afraid to taking risks / chances on yourself on those other things? yikes
I donāt see a reason to align adulthood with children or marriage either. DY is most definitely an adult even if he doesnāt see the kids he has. š
I mean I get what you guys are going for. 40 year old virgin was prophetic in some ways but outside of parental dependency in oneās 30ās Iām not sure how you consistently define āgrew upā outside of: socially adjusted, independent with job
I mean I get what you guys are going for. 40 year old virgin was prophetic in some ways but outside of parental dependency in oneās 30ās Iām not sure how you consistently define āgrew upā outside of: socially adjusted, independent with job
Just my take and I could be wrong but the reason I see a lot of adults reading YA books these days is because those kinds of books didnāt really exist much back in their days growing up. Especially these days youāve got ones dealing with queer themes, mental illness, friendship, etc that were a lot less mainstream and less available even in the early 2010s. So now people who didnāt feel as seen back then are able to read these stories they essentially missed out on in the past.
By s y Go To PostLife is hard enough as it is. Who the fuck caresBut yeah, also this.
Honestly I think people were always like this they just hid it to look āadultā
These days we can be open with our arrested development hobbies
These days we can be open with our arrested development hobbies
My kid got a black eye in BJJ and all the kids in school asked him if he lived in an abusive household and if he needed them to tell someone
By Perfect Blue Go To PostJust my take and I could be wrong but the reason I see a lot of adults reading YA books these days is because those kinds of books didnāt really exist much back in their days growing up. Especially these days youāve got ones dealing with queer themes, mental illness, friendship, etc that were a lot less mainstream and less available even in the early 2010s. So now people who didnāt feel as seen back then are able to read these stories they essentially missed out on in the past.
All this has existed in literary fiction forever. People like E. M. Forster, W. Somerset Maugham, Patricia Highsmith, and James Baldwin tackled all those themes. It's not new. They're just not passive in their text and require the reader to think about the themes. YA is the marvelization of literature. Everything is stated but not explored.
By Kibner Go To PostI'm just saying, Animorphs remains the best.True story. I tried to follow up and head into more science fiction after that. Had no clue how hit or miss or straight propped up some stuff is.
Read Jurassic Park afterwards and couldn't believe the fall off. Kept reading Crichton. Kept seeing mid. Was confused and infuriated.
By Fenderputty Go To PostI donāt see a reason to align adulthood with children or marriage either. DY is most definitely an adult even if he doesnāt see the kids he has. šI feel like you're reading what you want to read with my posts lmao
I mean I get what you guys are going for. 40 year old virgin was prophetic in some ways but outside of parental dependency in oneās 30ās Iām not sure how you consistently define āgrew upā outside of: socially adjusted, independent with job
there's an "etc." right in there, bro
By s y Go To PostLife is hard enough as it is. Who the fuck caresDraw a titty you child
By reilo Go To PostI feel like you're reading what you want to read with my posts lmao
there's an "etc." right in there, bro
I could be doing that to the topic in general . As a grown up I will apologize to you kind people š
By Call Sign: Apollo Go To PostAll this has existed in literary fiction forever. People like E. M. Forster, W. Somerset Maugham, Patricia Highsmith, and James Baldwin tackled all those themes. It's not new. They're just not passive in their text and require the reader to think about the themes. YA is the marvelization of literature. Everything is stated but not explored.Donāt really see the problem if a mfer just wants to be comforted from the real world by reading something easy. Ditto with Marvel films. I just donāt care, do what you like. I donāt even read YA or watch Marvel and superhero films myself.
By Call Sign: Apollo Go To PostAll this has existed in literary fiction forever. People like E. M. Forster, W. Somerset Maugham, Patricia Highsmith, and James Baldwin tackled all those themes. It's not new. They're just not passive in their text and require the reader to think about the themes. YA is the marvelization of literature. Everything is stated but not explored.
I mean ā¦. what would you classify a Michael Crichton book?