Where to even begin...
Let's see, I met this girl in one of my classes this semester and I'm pretty into her, the whole situation is a bit complicated. We have a lot in common, she has good taste in music, is outdoors oriented, super cute and very outgoing (one negative I guess is that she is vegetarian). The problem is she is constantly giving me mixed signals and hinting at a relationship, but she has a boyfriend currently.
So at first it starts with walking her to her car alone, then she invites me to go running with her two times a week, then she wants to go out to dinner, touching me and flirting constantly. Needless to say, I kissed her and she didn't exactly pull away. My reservations is that she is just using me though and she seems super emotional, she suggested that we go to Whole Foods to get some lunch and surprise surprise that's where her boyfriend works. Two days ago we were running and she said she "sprained" her ankle and needed me to carry her piggyback the rest of the way. I hardly believed her, but I took her up on it anyway...
Back off before I get my ass whooped? Or YOLO?
Did you end up carrying her back to Simpville?
Not worth it, my man.
Did you end up carrying her back to Simpville?Haha, I know. I really shouldn't be bending over backwards for this girl (literally), but I rarely feel this much of a connection with someone. She actually just texted me, but I'm going to play her cold for now. If she wants to dump her boyfriend, I'll let her make that decision, till then I'll keep my options open for someone else.
Not worth it, my man.
Luckily, another lady friend of mind is introducing me to someone else this weekend. Hopefully that can take my mind off it. That or the Knicks getting absolutely destroyed again tonight.
Well, on the flip side, if you really are that crazy about her, women who really push that button in you are not that easy to come by. In all honesty, sometimes I think it's worth taking a beating to get something out of your system, rather than shying away because you were afraid of what might happen. What seems like a beating today, might just feel like a minor challenge down the road, once you've had practice.
Unless you catch something or knock her up you'll never sit there years from now and go "man, I shouldn't have nailed that cute chick," even if you end up hating her, but there will for sure be "I wonder if..." moments if you pass. It really comes down to how much you like her, and what you think she'll do for you. Some guys will say "plenty of fish in the sea" etc., but I'm not so sure. In any given guy's life there can be lots of women, but only a few will really matter in the end.
That said - if she's a cheater, screw that. If she's willing to break up with her boyfriend to get with you fine. If not, well, sex with her would be wrong but I'm not going to tell you I've been above that. But if you stick around after that and catch feelings for someone who won't reciprocate, it's a huuuuge mistake. One of the toughest life lessons for me was to forget everything every romantic comedy ever taught me and learn to say - "if you don't want me, then you don't have what I want. Later." Instead of trying to "win" her or waging a long term romantic campaign whatever.
Unless you catch something or knock her up you'll never sit there years from now and go "man, I shouldn't have nailed that cute chick," even if you end up hating her, but there will for sure be "I wonder if..." moments if you pass. It really comes down to how much you like her, and what you think she'll do for you. Some guys will say "plenty of fish in the sea" etc., but I'm not so sure. In any given guy's life there can be lots of women, but only a few will really matter in the end.
That said - if she's a cheater, screw that. If she's willing to break up with her boyfriend to get with you fine. If not, well, sex with her would be wrong but I'm not going to tell you I've been above that. But if you stick around after that and catch feelings for someone who won't reciprocate, it's a huuuuge mistake. One of the toughest life lessons for me was to forget everything every romantic comedy ever taught me and learn to say - "if you don't want me, then you don't have what I want. Later." Instead of trying to "win" her or waging a long term romantic campaign whatever.
So how do I tell this girl that I already in an open relationship without being an asshole? This is gonna be date 2 and she's already crazy about me smh
Well, on the flip side, if you really are that crazy about her, women who really push that button in you are not that easy to come by. In all honesty, sometimes I think it's worth taking a beating to get something out of your system, rather than shying away because you were afraid of what might happen. What seems like a beating today, might just feel like a minor challenge down the road, once you've had practice.Thanks for the thoughtful writeup... everything you said makes sense. Especially the bolded.
Unless you catch something or knock her up you'll never sit there years from now and go "man, I shouldn't have nailed that cute chick," even if you end up hating her, but there will for sure be "I wonder if..." moments if you pass. It really comes down to how much you like her, and what you think she'll do for you. Some guys will say "plenty of fish in the sea" etc., but I'm not so sure. In any given guy's life there can be lots of women, but only a few will really matter in the end.
That said - if she's a cheater, screw that. If she's willing to break up with her boyfriend to get with you fine. If not, well, sex with her would be wrong but I'm not going to tell you I've been above that. But if you stick around after that and catch feelings for someone who won't reciprocate, it's a huuuuge mistake. One of the toughest life lessons for me was to forget everything every romantic comedy ever taught me and learn to say - "if you don't want me, then you don't have what I want. Later." Instead of trying to "win" her or waging a long term romantic campaign whatever.
Sounds like you've been through some shit. This is my first real experience of hunting down a girl who already had a boyfriend, everything else has come much easier before this. Or I was simply smarter before and didn't bother with this kind of fucking garbage.
I'm not throwing the white flag just yet though. You think I should be blunt and mention to her that she should dump her boyfriend if she wants to be with me rather than continuing to beat around the bush? Or just play it out?
Heh, the funny thing is that LFK hasn't been through some "shit". That's, unfortunately, par for the course.
I'd be more shocked if most guys haven't gone through that situation. I know I have... Tough lesson, but LFK might be right that you should go through it so you don't make that mistake down the road. Better to get it out of your system now.
If you were to ask that question, maybe phrase it like this...
"So are you finally dumping your boyfriend tonight so we can hook up?" It gives you a bail out door.
I'd be more shocked if most guys haven't gone through that situation. I know I have... Tough lesson, but LFK might be right that you should go through it so you don't make that mistake down the road. Better to get it out of your system now.
If you were to ask that question, maybe phrase it like this...
"So are you finally dumping your boyfriend tonight so we can hook up?" It gives you a bail out door.
So how do I tell this girl that I already in an open relationship without being an asshole? This is gonna be date 2 and she's already crazy about me smh
Well you only really have two options, be honest or lie. Either way she's gonna find out at some point.
While part of me believes humans weren't meant for monogamy especially going through what I am I also know there are rare examples of two people having incredibly successful marriages. Its like the Knicks knowing they're not winning a chip anytime soon but because they won a couple 40 years ago they still play each game.
What I want to know is if ph33 ph33 ever hooked up with that Popeyes girl.lol no
But lately i have tried Zoosk. I can already tell it is a really shitty site grabbing money. a chick said she had interest in me and I was like, why not, so I said yes---on top of paying for a membership they wanted me to pay MORE so we could continue talking, lmao
It seems like all the chicks who want a piece of me (messaging me first) fall into one of these three categories
1) huge
2) huge
3) asian
blah lol. I kinda regret taking it too easy with this one girl and letting her slip away without giving a single fuck ... but she also wanted to move fast and I aint about that life right now
What I want to know is if ph33 ph33 ever hooked up with that Popeyes girl.lol no
But lately i have tried Zoosk. I can already tell it is a really shitty site grabbing money. a chick said she had interest in me and I was like, why not, so I said yes---on top of paying for a membership they wanted me to pay MORE so we could continue talking, lmao
It seems like all the chicks who want a piece of me (messaging me first) fall into one of these three categories
1) huge
2) huge
3) asian
blah lol. I kinda regret taking it too easy with this one girl and letting her slip away without giving a single fuck ... but she also wanted to move fast and I aint about that life right now
You should try Tinder. I've had mad success with that app so far
What I want to know is if ph33 ph33 ever hooked up with that Popeyes girl.lol no
But lately i have tried Zoosk. I can already tell it is a really shitty site grabbing money. a chick said she had interest in me and I was like, why not, so I said yes---on top of paying for a membership they wanted me to pay MORE so we could continue talking, lmao
It seems like all the chicks who want a piece of me (messaging me first) fall into one of these three categories
1) huge
2) huge
3) asian
blah lol. I kinda regret taking it too easy with this one girl and letting her slip away without giving a single fuck ... but she also wanted to move fast and I aint about that life right now
You should try Tinder. I've had mad success with that app so far
I had none and ended up deleting it after one of my female friends saw me on there (I wasn't embarrassed I'd seen her on OKC a few years prior). I think I don't have good photos and the fact that I live in LA where half the people have god damn head shots makes it pretty hard to compete.
While part of me believes humans weren't meant for monogamy especially going through what I am I also know there are rare examples of two people having incredibly successful marriages. Its like the Knicks knowing they're not winning a chip anytime soon but because they won a couple 40 years ago they still play each game.D: captain, what are you going through
whats wrong
What I want to know is if ph33 ph33 ever hooked up with that Popeyes girl.lol no
But lately i have tried Zoosk. I can already tell it is a really shitty site grabbing money. a chick said she had interest in me and I was like, why not, so I said yes---on top of paying for a membership they wanted me to pay MORE so we could continue talking, lmao
It seems like all the chicks who want a piece of me (messaging me first) fall into one of these three categories
1) huge
2) huge
3) asian
blah lol. I kinda regret taking it too easy with this one girl and letting her slip away without giving a single fuck ... but she also wanted to move fast and I aint about that life right now
You should try Tinder. I've had mad success with that app so far
Yeah I'm gonna try that out...
I keep getting messages from people I don't want lol
answer meeeWhile part of me believes humans weren't meant for monogamy especially going through what I am I also know there are rare examples of two people having incredibly successful marriages. Its like the Knicks knowing they're not winning a chip anytime soon but because they won a couple 40 years ago they still play each game.D: captain, what are you going through
whats wrong
While part of me believes humans weren't meant for monogamy especially going through what I am I also know there are rare examples of two people having incredibly successful marriages. Its like the Knicks knowing they're not winning a chip anytime soon but because they won a couple 40 years ago they still play each game.D: captain, what are you going through
whats wrong
Divorce.
:(While part of me believes humans weren't meant for monogamy especially going through what I am I also know there are rare examples of two people having incredibly successful marriages. Its like the Knicks knowing they're not winning a chip anytime soon but because they won a couple 40 years ago they still play each game.D: captain, what are you going through
whats wrong
Divorce.
I know it was basically brought upon by your self. But i do feel bad for you. We've had our disagreeances (mainly you think i hate you), but that's rough on everyone. I just hope it ends as well as it can.Divorce.:(
It is what it is.
I know it was basically brought upon by your self. But i do feel bad for you. We've had our disagreeances (mainly you think i hate you), but that's rough on everyone. I just hope it ends as well as it can.Divorce.:(
It is what it is.
Giri, that was a long time ago. I wasn't the easiest guy to get along with back then. I don't hold any negative feelings towards you at all, just the opposite. I saw GAF and the chat room as my outlet if you will during the rough times in my marriage which is one reason I was annoying at times. Even though what I'm going through now I'm in a better place. But I appreciate your post, thank you.
Damn Cloving good luck with that shit
I'm waiting for my date at a sports bar and she is 2 hours late smh. If she flakes on me im drinking this whole pitcher of beer
I'm waiting for my date at a sports bar and she is 2 hours late smh. If she flakes on me im drinking this whole pitcher of beer
Damn Cloving good luck with that shitHow have you not drunk a whole Jug of beer in 2 hours? 0_o
I'm waiting for my date at a sports bar and she is 2 hours late smh. If she flakes on me im drinking this whole pitcher of beer
I'd be on the 2nd Jug.
Where to even begin...that all just sounds like a headache
Let's see, I met this girl in one of my classes this semester and I'm pretty into her, the whole situation is a bit complicated. We have a lot in common, she has good taste in music, is outdoors oriented, super cute and very outgoing (one negative I guess is that she is vegetarian). The problem is she is constantly giving me mixed signals and hinting at a relationship, but she has a boyfriend currently.
So at first it starts with walking her to her car alone, then she invites me to go running with her two times a week, then she wants to go out to dinner, touching me and flirting constantly. Needless to say, I kissed her and she didn't exactly pull away. My reservations is that she is just using me though and she seems super emotional, she suggested that we go to Whole Foods to get some lunch and surprise surprise that's where her boyfriend works. Two days ago we were running and she said she "sprained" her ankle and needed me to carry her piggyback the rest of the way. I hardly believed her, but I took her up on it anyway...
Back off before I get my ass whooped? Or YOLO?