It's like I could feel that shit. One of my high school friends just got killed by a drunk driver. Every time I log in to facebook to check stuff someone's either dead or doing something stupid. And all this RIP shit from people who used to make that guy's life hell on a daily basis before he went to college.
He was a good guy. Did almost everything I had to do to get out too and it didn't even matter.
He was a good guy. Did almost everything I had to do to get out too and it didn't even matter.
You're more sympathetic than the people we grew up with pouring one out right now 😂
I'll get over the dying thing because shit happens. But how I deal with the fact that I genuinely don't interact with people as much as I used to because the common theme is that the average person is trash is not getting better.
I'll get over the dying thing because shit happens. But how I deal with the fact that I genuinely don't interact with people as much as I used to because the common theme is that the average person is trash is not getting better.
My condolences breh.
That last bit is some shit that I'm currently dealing with. Easy as hell to not bother or even try, because of it.
That last bit is some shit that I'm currently dealing with. Easy as hell to not bother or even try, because of it.
I appreciate the condolences and all but I've never been more apathetic and seeing a bunch of half ass RIPs from people that bullied the guy relentlessly is the last thing I want to process this year. The same people saying "We'll miss you forever" are the ones that kicked his dog and aired out his private health ordeals. Death is death, I can handle that part just fine. Got plenty of practice grieving these past few years.
I'm running out of ways to deal with people though and the person I pretend to be around others is becoming as bad as the real me. Even the people I legitimately like tax whatever I got left in the tank.
I'm running out of ways to deal with people though and the person I pretend to be around others is becoming as bad as the real me. Even the people I legitimately like tax whatever I got left in the tank.
By Yurtlicious Go To Postdy dont give up on people i promise there are plenty of real ones out thereYes, what he said.
HMU if you’re ever in Toronto I’ll show you a fun time (open to anyone)
Fam, I've been struggling not to turn into Pac-12 v.2, in regards to dealing with family: including the one that I'm currently taking care of. I empathize whole heartedly.
Holding on to that little bit of warmth in humanity is draining and difficult af, especially when being ain't shit is at an all time high.
Holding on to that little bit of warmth in humanity is draining and difficult af, especially when being ain't shit is at an all time high.
Sometimes i feel like yall are running into the wrong crowds or something. I feel most of the people I meet are genuinely good people. Maybe its just that i don't use social media.
By diehard Go To PostSometimes i feel like yall are running into the wrong crowds or something. I feel most of the people I meet are genuinely good people. Maybe its just that i don't use social media.Also: "If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole."
In this situation with Dy, it's more like having the most infinitesimal standard of being a decent person and not a whole ass hypocrite, and people failing to reach that. Sometimes, it really ain't you, even if you can be one.
The surface level of most people is generally decent, sure. I mean you kinda have to have that in order to even provide for yourself in one way or another. But then again "Them? But they always looked so put together and happy? :O" is super routine.
I'm convinced I was fucked by being raised to listen to others. If my head was left up my ass like God intended I'd be an astronaut by now.
I'm convinced I was fucked by being raised to listen to others. If my head was left up my ass like God intended I'd be an astronaut by now.
Being a genuine and decent person is a tight rope walk.
Pretending you're decent? Fuckin' easy street.
Pretending you're decent? Fuckin' easy street.
By Perfect Blue Go To PostAlso: "If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole."Wrong conversation. Most of the happiest people I've met are monsters. Content, purposed, secure, confident, etc
It's the good hardworking types that are the rarity. The ones that don't just give away what they can spare, I'm talking about giving what they actually work for and giving their time. The only reason I've gotten as far is because I shake everyone's hand all the same. Shit, they genuinely believe they're the same.
Best lie I ever told was to my best friend. He asked after crying all day about how sorry he was that he essentially forced me to report him for an arrest if he'd be a good father one day. I was so convincing that years later he's turned his whole fucking life around and been dad of the year 5 years running. I threw up in my car after leaving that conversation. Haven't spoken to him since.
Clearly I'm playing life on hard mode. If you use people the right way, they'll thank you for it.
By DY_nasty Go To PostWrong conversation. Most of the happiest people I've met are monsters. Content, purposed, secure, confident, etc
It's the good hardworking types that are the rarity. The ones that don't just give away what they can spare, I'm talking about giving what they actually work for and giving their time. The only reason I've gotten as far is because I shake everyone's hand all the same. Shit, they genuinely believe they're the same.
Best lie I ever told was to my best friend. He asked after crying all day about how sorry he was that he essentially forced me to report him for an arrest if he'd be a good father one day. I was so convincing that years later he's turned his whole fucking life around and been dad of the year 5 years running. I threw up in my car after leaving that conversation. Haven't spoken to him since.
Clearly I'm playing life on hard mode. If you use people the right way, they'll thank you for it.
Hard mode is a bit of an understatement.
I dont know what practical advice I can give, I'm sure you've done therapy. But that outlook sounds exhausting for a number of reasons and I dont see how that doesn't take its toll over time.
By DY_nasty Go To PostWrong conversation. Most of the happiest people I've met are monsters. Content, purposed, secure, confident, etcI'm probably on the other end of the spectrum in terms of how I think. This is going to be clichèd as all fuck but I generally find that most people are pretty decent and at the end of the day are fighting their own demons, battles, etc. so I try not to judge folks and give them the benefit of the doubt way more often than not. I do not walk in their shoes and really have no idea about their day to day trials and tribulations. Obviously YMMV with this, but it helps me to think this way and get by by not holding grudges or letting small conflicts get to me. Fuck, most things I don't even take personally anymore lol. Lived through some fucked up times in my childhood and growing up that lent me some perspective on things.
It's the good hardworking types that are the rarity. The ones that don't just give away what they can spare, I'm talking about giving what they actually work for and giving their time. The only reason I've gotten as far is because I shake everyone's hand all the same. Shit, they genuinely believe they're the same.
Best lie I ever told was to my best friend. He asked after crying all day about how sorry he was that he essentially forced me to report him for an arrest if he'd be a good father one day. I was so convincing that years later he's turned his whole fucking life around and been dad of the year 5 years running. I threw up in my car after leaving that conversation. Haven't spoken to him since.
Clearly I'm playing life on hard mode. If you use people the right way, they'll thank you for it.
All I'll say is if you think most people are decent it's because you probably grew up in insular areas
People are good to their own
People are good to their own
By Not Go To PostAll I'll say is if you think most people are decent it's because you probably grew up in insular areasNot all, my dude. Spent most of my childhood in the suburbs of Toronto that are incredibly diverse and cosmopolitan and my parents just barely made enough to scrape by. Wasn't even born in this country either, we only came to Canada because the country accepted us as refugees escaping ethnic violence and genocide amid the breakup of Yugoslavia. Didn't even know many people from that part of the world growing up outside of family that we managed to help immigrate over.
People are good to their own
Nah Not, I'd maybe say steady or something? Someone losing their job or scholarship and moving to a new area to never be seen again is whatever. Seeing them a few years down the road selling Kroger steaks out of their dirty jeans while offering to suck dick for some cash? That hits different and you'll be that much more aware and cognizant of the cost of losing any job or cushions in your life. Everyone who sees dramatic success or failure that has any "that can happen to me" in them changes up. Some see the floor more clearly than others - and not seeing it for a while is fine tbh... Most parents fight incredibly hard to make sure their kids never have that those thoughts at all.
And shit, being homeless wasn't even that bad lol. That's the crazy thing.
Last thing I want is some fake ass RIPs sprinkled on my grave by people that pulled guns on me for laughs.
And shit, being homeless wasn't even that bad lol. That's the crazy thing.
By Kidjr Go To PostHard mode is a bit of an understatement.I'm tired but I'm venting too. Just don't know what else to change.
I dont know what practical advice I can give, I'm sure you've done therapy. But that outlook sounds exhausting for a number of reasons and I dont see how that doesn't take its toll over time.
Last thing I want is some fake ass RIPs sprinkled on my grave by people that pulled guns on me for laughs.
PB, it's definitely fortunate to have your worldview colored by human kindness at a formative age. Unconditional acceptance or love without return or benefit takes more than a lot of people have. You're basically either pushing back against socially-reinforced biological survival instincts or you have some inclination to expand your compassion and empathy to outsiders. It's more complicated than that, but I think it helps if you feel like an outsider to begin with.
ugh sure not.
whatever, thanks slaent. haven't vented in a while and helped me realize i need to drink more and maybe find a go-to legal drug
whatever, thanks slaent. haven't vented in a while and helped me realize i need to drink more and maybe find a go-to legal drug
DY, I understand that you've been through some shit, man
I don't know if it's in the way you want me to, but I get it on some level. Venting is all we can do at times
Maybe I should've kept my mouth shut. That's ok too. A lot of times in my life when I come with an olive branch it ends up being an accidental insult to people
I don't know if it's in the way you want me to, but I get it on some level. Venting is all we can do at times
Maybe I should've kept my mouth shut. That's ok too. A lot of times in my life when I come with an olive branch it ends up being an accidental insult to people
Speaking of life, I signed a contract today on a new construction townhouse. Should be ready next spring.
I hope I like this one longer than my first one.
I hope I like this one longer than my first one.
By DY_nasty Go To Postugh sure not.
whatever, thanks slaent. haven't vented in a while and helped me realize i need to drink more and maybe find a go-to legal drug
Shit's hard on the wallet. I wouldn't advise it. I don't even want to calculate the amount of money that I've spent dealing with my situation. Plot that escape route and free yourself. And stop ducking that fucking therapist.....
In this instance, not that it even matters or is even the point, know you were realer than them and keep it moving. Ain't shit you can do about the actions of others: fraudulent or not.
By Kidjr Go To PostHard mode is a bit of an understatement.I'll never use people, if they (try to) use me thats on them (one strike=out), I wanna sleep at niiight lmao.
I dont know what practical advice I can give, I'm sure you've done therapy. But that outlook sounds exhausting for a number of reasons and I dont see how that doesn't take its toll over time.
in general I'm good at reading people/seeing their personas and filtering them out in one conversation
its not hard to pick the right people but family is the ones you can't pick
dy lemme roll u a joint hold on
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Yurt, I am glad the surgery didn't kill you and I hope you make a full and speedy recovery.
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you WILL get it.
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By Perfect Blue Go To PostInto the next round of one of the banking jobs I applied for, lads.Final round is a tail grab though
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