By Laboured Go To Post*taps the sign*
ah....that might be worth 4K then
By DY_nasty Go To PostTrying to understand how people are together for just a year and talk about money like "we"
What are you doing with someone for a year if you haven’t started talking like that?
"A Master Chief suit, huh? Well, I hope it keeps your broke ass warm at night. Pack your shit and go."
By Kibner Go To PostJoint accounts always seem to cause problems, tbh. Especially if one of the people is controlling and /or there is a break up or divorce.
Wat 😂
By Dipro Go To Postabsolutely not a we situation.
it becomes "we" after marriage or if you have a child/house together.
It wouldnt be a we situation cause I would be walking the fuck out if my SO did that
“Did you just spend 4K on a costume when WE can hardly scrape rent together”
“Who the fuck you think you are discussing my finances after only a year”
Thank you internet
“Who the fuck you think you are discussing my finances after only a year”
Thank you internet
By Fenderputty Go To Post“Did you just spend 4K on a costume when WE can hardly scrape rent together”
“Who the fuck you think you are discussing my finances after only a year”
Thank you internet
By Fenderputty Go To PostWhat are you doing with someone for a year if you haven’t started talking like that?
By Fenderputty Go To Post“Did you just spend 4K on a costume when WE can hardly scrape rent together”I mostly agree but damn you dun fucked up being with someone for over a year and they have that attitude lol. Red flags every where
“Who the fuck you think you are discussing my finances after only a year”
Thank you internet
By Perfect Blue Go To Posty'all seem to have some strange views on relationships tbh
they're well earned unfortunately
By Perfect Blue Go To PostI mostly agree but damn you dun fucked up being with someone for over a year and they have that attitude lol. Red flags every where
Yeah you did. Which is why you walk the fuck out immediately.
By DY_nasty Go To Postmake it make sense sy
You’re wasting valuable time in your life, time you can never get back, if you’ve spent a year with someone and can’t have serious financial discussions.
You gonna wait until year 3 to find out if the person is capable of saving a dime? Maybe you’ll wait until year 3 to find out if you can deal a financial issue together as a couple. By year 7 yuh may even feel comfortable enough to get a promise ring
Breh you’re not a spring chicken
By Fenderputty Go To PostWat 😂I don't have enough fingers and toes to count how many times I have been around fights (several times with police involvement) due to joint bank accounts and bad splits.
By Fenderputty Go To PostSomeone re-title the relationship thread to “I have trust issues and this is my outlet”
Or... all the threads tbh.
By Kibner Go To PostI don't have enough fingers and toes to count how many times I have been around fights (several times with police involvement) due to joint bank accounts and bad splits.
Conversely my friends marriage is so toxic they steal each other’s phones to spy in their separate accounts
By DY_nasty Go To PostShelter the homeless and call it a relationship brehs
i don't keep up with the relationship thread, but does this post mean dy dates homeless women?
You can generally find out who's a dumbass with their money in no more than 2-3 months. I don't know why anyone needs a year to be surprised by people.
By Fenderputty Go To PostSomeone re-title the relationship thread to “I have trust issues and this is my outlet”Being too trusting is a trust issue of privilege, circumstance, and luck 😂 yal happily married "we were together at our lowest, doitshia.gif" points sound worse than the SoundCloud rappers who made it
By DY_nasty Go To PostYou can generally find out who's a dumbass with their money in no more than 2-3 months. I don't know why anyone needs a year to he surprised by people.
If you want a successful ling term marriage you better be aligned in several areas. Finances being a main one. You want or don’t want kids, and will that be a game changer? You gonna wait until year 2 to find out?
What fuck are you doing in a relationship if all you’re gonna do is fiddle fuck around and read between the lines.
By DY_nasty Go To PostBeing too trusting is a trust issue of privilege, circumstance, and luck 😂 yal happily married "we were together at our lowest, doitshia.gif" points sound worse than the SoundCloud rappers who made it
These words, or anything close, leaves someone’s mouth on any date in anytime period and I’m peacing the fuck out.
By Fenderputty Go To PostConversely my friends marriage is so toxic they steal each other’s phones to spy in their separate accounts
i bet that family Xmas card is the picture of perfection tho
Most people shouldn't even be looking at even beginning an exclusive relationship until those boxes are checked.
I mean if you've actually got shit to lose, plans, and all that good stuff.
I mean if you've actually got shit to lose, plans, and all that good stuff.
By Fenderputty Go To PostIf you want a successful ling term marriage you better be aligned in several areas. Finances being a main one. You want or don’t want kids, and will that be a game changer? You gonna wait until year 2 to find out?So you just out here trusting people based on nothing but warm and fuzzy feelings? stop it lol
What fuck are you doing in a relationship if all you’re gonna do is fiddle fuck around and read between the lines.
These words, or anything close, leaves someone’s mouth on any date in anytime period and I’m peacing the fuck out.
Fender i'd happily discuss my finances with my SO after one year but they are not theirs and her's are not mine. it's not a we situation. If i'm rich and she's not after a year "we" aren't rich. Still just me.
If we are married are funds our both of us. Heck even after like 5 years they may bleed together but 1?? That's so little time.
If we are married are funds our both of us. Heck even after like 5 years they may bleed together but 1?? That's so little time.
By Laboured Go To PostOr… all the threads tbh.Definitely describes Arsenal fans
By DY_nasty Go To PostSo you just out here trusting people based on nothing but warm and fuzzy feelings? stop it lol
What part of “I’m bouncing if someone shows signs of trust issues” makes you assume I trust people based on nothing?
By Dipro Go To PostFender i'd happily discuss my finances with my SO after one year but they are not theirs and her's are not mine. it's not a we situation. If i'm rich and she's not after a year "we" aren't rich. Still just me.
If we are married are funds our both of us. Heck even after like 5 years they may bleed together but 1?? That's so little time.
The situation is a “we” situation if you’re discussing it with them though. This is true even if you find the money to be your possession alone.
By Fenderputty Go To PostWhat part of “I’m bouncing if someone shows signs of trust issues” makes you assume I trust people based on nothing?Define your trust issues. Because this is messy 😂
The situation is a “we” situation if you’re discussing it with them though. This is true even if you find the money to be your possession alone.
I'm firmly in the belief that you earn every bit of respect and trust outside one's basic courtesy when dating. I'm not wagering my livelihood on someone that's not proven themselves to be self aware.
By /sy Go To PostPeople who are awful with and around money usually can't shut the fuck up about it either.I'm saying. People always "surprised" by stuff like they haven't trained themselves to either accept someone else's bullshit or look away. Lost count of how many co-workers have been utterly stunned by the obvious.
Know couples who've been together decades with separate accounts for spending especially if one loves to blow it on a hobby.
Know couples who've been together decades with all joint accounts and just agree on spending.
If it's impacting your living situation like paying bills time to gtfo. Already know someone's priorties are fucked if they are jobless for months and you're financially supporting them though. Never comes out of left field tbh.
Know couples who've been together decades with all joint accounts and just agree on spending.
If it's impacting your living situation like paying bills time to gtfo. Already know someone's priorties are fucked if they are jobless for months and you're financially supporting them though. Never comes out of left field tbh.
By DY_nasty Go To PostDefine your trust issues. Because this is messy 😂
I'm firmly in the belief that you earn every bit of respect and trust outside one's basic courtesy when dating. I'm not wagering my livelihood on someone that's not proven themselves to be self aware.
How does someone earn your trust if you’re not putting some level faith in them so they can earn it? Baby steps trust your way to a 7 year promise to get engaged to me day ring path
By Fenderputty Go To PostHow does someone earn your trust if you’re not putting some level faith in them so they can earn it?Don't even need to get that far with some people lol
recent dating experiences, and living completely alone for the first time, have made me realize being alone isn't as bad as i thought it was.
being in a relationship just to be in one, which is what most people are doing if we're being honest and i almost did it myself, is dumb as hell.
being in a relationship just to be in one, which is what most people are doing if we're being honest and i almost did it myself, is dumb as hell.
By domino Go To Postrecent dating experiences, and living completely alone for the first time, have made me realize being alone isn't as bad as i thought it was.Around here not only do people get in relationships to be in relationships, they have kids just to have kids . With the same person they don't even like.
being in a relationship just to be in one, which is what most people are doing if we're being honest and i almost did it myself, is dumb as hell.
One girl told me flat out she thought she'd like her husband more if they had kids
I think it's crazy dating apps have 'want to have kids' as an option. Like you're going into every relationship with that assumption? I thought you figure out if you want kids with that specific person after you date that specific person
By i can get you a toe Go To PostDon't even need to get that far with some people lol
yeah but this all started because discussing finances at a year was like a huge deal or some shit.
If you’re with the person you’re describing a year in .... wheeeeew
By /sy Go To Post"base level faith"???? struggling to see the issue here.
what the fuck lmaoo
He clearly means not getting into things with the worst possible outlook. Dating in bad faith
By DY_nasty Go To PostShelter the homeless and call it a relationship brehs
Honestly I don't think I would have a joint account unless I was certain this was a prospective life partner. Especially if we are living together a joint account for food and bills is sensible as it is only used for that purpose. Outside of vacations anything else I would be apprehensive about sharing funds with.
By data Go To PostI think it's crazy dating apps have 'want to have kids' as an option. Like you're going into every relationship with that assumption? I thought you figure out if you want kids with that specific person after you date that specific personNot crazy at all especially into thirties. Why waste each other's time if a person is adamantly no kids. Some shit can't be taken back. And if they've already had a procedure that's been settled permanently. (I know adoption exists but lets not get into the shit.)
By Lunatic Go To PostHonestly I don't think I would have a joint account unless I was certain this a was a prospective life partner. Especially if we are living a joint account for food and bills is a sensible one as it is only used for that purpose. Outside of vacations anything else I would be apprehensive about sharing funds with.It's what I did early but it was just practical and each of us have separate ones as well. And even with separate ones still discuss major purchases. It's more like "i respect your input" and also if you share a living space and are bringing physical things into the house, damn straight you better discuss it plainly or just get mad I guess.
By Fenderputty Go To Postyeah but this all started because discussing finances at a year was like a huge deal or some shit.I thought the topic was on sharing finances a year in, not discussing it.
If you’re with the person you’re describing a year in …. wheeeeew
It all just really depends and who is bringing in the money, if you're both basically on par with each other, maturity levels and where you see the relationship going. That being said a lot of people have terrible barometers for who they should trust to start with.
By Lunatic Go To PostHonestly I don't think I would have a joint account unless I was certain this a was a prospective life partner. Especially if we are living a joint account for food and bills is a sensible one as it is only used for that purpose. Outside of vacations anything else I would be apprehensive about sharing funds with.
We didn’t combine accounts until married. My brother is married and doesn’t. To each their own. I’m not talking about that, really.
By /sy Go To PostI thought the topic was on sharing finances a year in, not discussing it.
By DY_nasty Go To PostTrying to understand how people are together for just a year and talk about money like "we"
What are you doing with someone for a year if you haven’t started talking like that?