By cRrusheR Go To PostHooked up once this one night and woke up next morning to dms with pictures of her dogs.
At least you didn't get pics of her horses
I'm not sure if it's positive or not if a girl knows my real age on a date and tells me that I must be using botox 🤔
By domino Go To PostShe jelly of that good skin lolI told her I play a lot of seamen
By Smokey Go To PostSeen domino respond, was looking for some vday fukkeryi got nothing rn i'm moving to Atlanta in a month and i packed it up as far as dating for real around here a couple months ago
Leave disappointed
By Dark PhaZe Go To PostMy girl generally doesn't want kids, and she's made it known, but I'm wondering if it's unfair if I try to actually debate/convince her of at least debating the issue. If relationships are about compromise, and I want like 2 and she wants 0, can we meet in the middle and do 1?
I'm sayin
Going back some pages here, but I don’t think it’s an awful option to discuss things and see how things currently stand between you and your partner.
I never thought I wanted kids, I’ve been with my partner now for 7 years and I made it clear from the beginning that I wasn’t interested in having kids at all.
However, she did want us to have a kid together eventually and I’ve personally changed my mind on it over the past few months after discussing it together a few times.
People can change. Just don’t force the issue.
By domino Go To Posti got nothing rn i'm moving to Atlanta in a month and i packed it up as far as dating for real around here a couple months ago
ATL huh
been a while friends. i need an objective opinion. been seeing this girl for a month now, started texting back before christmas. i've fallen really hard and i feel like it's clouding my judgment. earlier this week she says to me that while she appreciates all the things i do for her (giving gifts and doing things for people is how i express my feelings), she's looking for someone who's inspirational, someone she can look up to, which she hasn't found that in me yet. i didn't know what to make of it, but we agreed to take a soft reset. she's going on a ski trip this weekend and that gives me some time to think.
is this just coded SF toxicity ('you're not a founder, a VC, or a stanford phd'), and i should stay far away, or am i just in my head too much here? we agreed to see each other exclusively after date three for what it's worth, so it's not like this is a casual investment on her part either, which is what's making it tough.
is this just coded SF toxicity ('you're not a founder, a VC, or a stanford phd'), and i should stay far away, or am i just in my head too much here? we agreed to see each other exclusively after date three for what it's worth, so it's not like this is a casual investment on her part either, which is what's making it tough.
By DY_nasty Go To Postremember your roots adam pls
By FortuneFaded Go To PostPride becomes before the fall
I am above this.
By HasphatsAnts Go To Postbeen a while friends. i need an objective opinion. been seeing this girl for a month now, started texting back before christmas. i've fallen really hard and i feel like it's clouding my judgment. earlier this week she says to me that while she appreciates all the things i do for her (giving gifts and doing things for people is how i express my feelings), she's looking for someone who's inspirational, someone she can look up to, which she hasn't found that in me yet. i didn't know what to make of it, but we agreed to take a soft reset. she's going on a ski trip this weekend and that gives me some time to think.
is this just coded SF toxicity ('you're not a founder, a VC, or a stanford phd'), and i should stay far away, or am i just in my head too much here? we agreed to see each other exclusively after date three for what it's worth, so it's not like this is a casual investment on her part either, which is what's making it tough.
Haspha, gonna be honest with you, bro. Bolded is possibly you lovebombing a little bit too much, and what she's saying is that she honestly isn't that much into you and is trying to let you down gently.
Just my honest opinion, but it's happened to me in the past, so I can relate.
letting you down easy imo. it be like that sometimes
By Adam Go To PostI am above this.debatable
By HasphatsAnts Go To Postbeen a while friends. i need an objective opinion. been seeing this girl for a month now, started texting back before christmas. i've fallen really hard and i feel like it's clouding my judgment. earlier this week she says to me that while she appreciates all the things i do for her (giving gifts and doing things for people is how i express my feelings), she's looking for someone who's inspirational, someone she can look up to, which she hasn't found that in me yet. i didn't know what to make of it, but we agreed to take a soft reset. she's going on a ski trip this weekend and that gives me some time to think.That’s some ol bullshit and an insult. Cut her off
is this just coded SF toxicity ('you're not a founder, a VC, or a stanford phd'), and i should stay far away, or am i just in my head too much here? we agreed to see each other exclusively after date three for what it's worth, so it's not like this is a casual investment on her part either, which is what's making it tough.
Someone she can look up to and be inspired by, like all the time or just sometimes?
Sounds like a standard predicated on the absurd, an expectation no one can meet.
Or maybe I'm reading too much into it too.
It's a weird requirement.
Sounds like a standard predicated on the absurd, an expectation no one can meet.
Or maybe I'm reading too much into it too.
It's a weird requirement.
By Daz Go To PostSomeone she can look up to and be inspired by, like all the time or just sometimes?
Sounds like a standard predicated on the absurd, an expectation no one can meet.
Or maybe I'm reading too much into it too.
It's a weird requirement.
So that's what it came across to me. And my thought is, those were the people she was drawn to before, and the fact she's here means they didn't work out for reasons that seem clear to me. She even admitted as much to me that they've never shown the level of care or thought that I'd shown. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt that she's sincere in trying to make this work, but I just can't shake the feeling that whatever happens from here on out is very much out of my hands.
By DY_nasty Go To Postletting you down easy imo. it be like that sometimesi thought that was the case too, but honestly the reason she gave me feel pretty hurtful and not at all easy lmao. if she just gave me some bullshit excuse i could see through easily, i wouldn't even be here asking for advice tbh.
debatable
By Daz Go To PostAsk her for an example of who she means.
By Daz Go To PostAsk her for an example of who she means.This seems bad to do with someone you aren't yet that close to.
By Daz Go To PostAsk her for an example of who she means.Don't do this, and move on. The less you do going forward the better your situation and position will be. Stop buying her gifts. She doesn't like you the way you like her.
An example of a dating scene where too many people are looking for the next best thing and have options at their finger tips.
By Daz Go To PostAsk her for an example of who she means.never do this lol
find out some shit you never wanted to know or plainly just make the L harder to hold. not worth it/10
By HasphatsAnts Go To Posti thought that was the case too, but honestly the reason she gave me feel pretty hurtful and not at all easy lmao. if she just gave me some bullshit excuse i could see through easily, i wouldn't even be here asking for advice tbh.if she wanted to see you grow into whatever she aspires to be attached to then its a very different convo and theme top to bottom
being able to catch feelings at all these days is pretty dope tbh. don't feel bad for feeling bad
By Dark PhaZe Go To Postshe wants a loaded alpha malesigma grindset is an epidemic
move on
By Daz Go To PostAsk her for an example of who she means.Noooooo
By DY_nasty Go To Postif she wanted to see you grow into whatever she aspires to be attached to then its a very different convo and theme top to bottom
being able to catch feelings at all these days is pretty dope tbh. don't feel bad for feeling bad
so that's along similar lines to what my friends have told me. She sees potential or else it wouldn't have been 5 dates and 2 months of back and forth. in hindsight i needed to be straight and just ask her what she sees in me and whether that's a strong enough foundation to build something. she's out this weekend, so maybe some distance will help crystalize things a bit.
By HasphatsAnts Go To Posti thought that was the case too, but honestly the reason she gave me feel pretty hurtful and not at all easy lmao. if she just gave me some bullshit excuse i could see through easily, i wouldn't even be here asking for advice tbh.
don't read too much into it...<3
The venn diagram of women that talk about wanting someone successful and with ambition and then turn around and date a bartender with a degree after you is a circle.
By HasphatsAnts Go To Postso that's along similar lines to what my friends have told me. She sees potential or else it wouldn't have been 5 dates and 2 months of back and forth. in hindsight i needed to be straight and just ask her what she sees in me and whether that's a strong enough foundation to build something. she's out this weekend, so maybe some distance will help crystalize things a bit.some ppl just like to feel wanted but that's got nothing to do with what they actually want themselves. and that's okay - but folks just ain't going to work that hard to tell you to stop being their zero investment positive affirmation is the thing.... its really easy to look up one day and realize you became the simp.
enjoy that distance and throw her number in the bushes before you trick yourself into diving in more heavily is all i can say really. if she realizes she's into you down the road, it won't be because you talked her into it
By reilo Go To PostThe venn diagram of women that talk about wanting someone successful and with ambition and then turn around and date a bartender with a degree after you is a circle.lol ive got nothing to add here
By reilo Go To PostThe venn diagram of women that talk about wanting someone successful and with ambition and then turn around and date a bartender with a degree after you is a circle.Yep
By Yurtlicious Go To Postwhat really happened to dy in dcHe's seen the door of truth and no longer needs a transmutation circle.
why is he so wise
I give bad relationship advice but usually when I'm confused this early in a relationship I pull the plug and move on
By Yurtlicious Go To Postwhat really happened to dy in dcpain. + im bored + i legit respect these career focused i-will-die-before-giving-birth-and-putting-my-career-on-hold-for-even-a-moment-women too much to derail their evil villainess dreams with my shenanigans and winging it lifestyle
why is he so wise
fender called me out ages ago, but its still true. i lose interest when people decide im more important than their aspirations/ambitions/goals. instantly check the fuck out.
"maybe i could just stay here instead of going right into that masters program. what do you think dy?"
By DY_nasty Go To Postpain. + im bored + i legit respect these career focused i-will-die-before-giving-birth-and-putting-my-career-on-hold-for-even-a-moment-women too much to derail their evil villainess dreams with my shenanigans and winging it lifestyleBeing able to find a path for each partner to achieve their goals while not stepping on relationship goals is HARD man. But if you find that path with someone you care about it's truly great.
fender called me out ages ago, but its still true. i lose interest when people decide im more important than their aspirations/ambitions/goals. instantly check the fuck out.
"maybe i could just stay here instead of going right into that masters program. what do you think dy?"
By HasphatsAnts Go To Postso that's along similar lines to what my friends have told me. She sees potential or else it wouldn't have been 5 dates and 2 months of back and forth. in hindsight i needed to be straight and just ask her what she sees in me and whether that's a strong enough foundation to build something. she's out this weekend, so maybe some distance will help crystalize things a bit.
Talking about she wants somebody and you not there yet got me fukt up let her go
By data Go To PostSki trip huhLol
By data Go To PostSki trip huhIt's a classic, OK?
But, seriously, Haps has a good head on his shoulders. Has the self awareness to reflect on the situation and consider his position. Most fellas don't get that far.