By batong_injured Go To PostSo bored of the current (dating and life) situation that i jumped on the 'oh she just liked four random facebook posts of mine' that i have to message her train..
Sir that's never a bad train to be on?
Only way a dude like that makes her squirt is if he cuts her jugular on the attempted murder she'd be walking into.
mentioned to some other ppl here, but i've been really, really pissed off this past week
long story short, an old ex gf of mind had a divorce and - knowing how she is - i hit her up to make sure she wasn't planning to harm herself or do something stupid. that's all i wanted to do. check in on a friend at a low point. i tell her i'm calling every week or so just to check in and its nice to see her get better and turn a corner.
and then she hits me up several times with some "I want to ask you something" "i want to talk about something serious". i already knew. put it off for as long as i could hoping she'd surprise me and not fuck up.
nope
was some "what about us? lets try again." bullshit. really feel like being nice is just fucking harder and harder to do
long story short, an old ex gf of mind had a divorce and - knowing how she is - i hit her up to make sure she wasn't planning to harm herself or do something stupid. that's all i wanted to do. check in on a friend at a low point. i tell her i'm calling every week or so just to check in and its nice to see her get better and turn a corner.
and then she hits me up several times with some "I want to ask you something" "i want to talk about something serious". i already knew. put it off for as long as i could hoping she'd surprise me and not fuck up.
nope
was some "what about us? lets try again." bullshit. really feel like being nice is just fucking harder and harder to do
By DY_nasty Go To PostnopeYea bredrin this is how it is as we get older. You just don't have the capacity to take on other people's problems that you aren't connected to intimately. Too much other responsibilities to take on another you're not really into. It is what it is.
was some "what about us? lets try again." bullshit. really feel like being nice is just fucking harder and harder to do
shit sucks. i already got a habit of flowcharting people as is and this doesn't help.
didn't even get me drunk and fat, take me to a strippy club, gas up my career, breakout the throat magic or anything. just swung for the fences like fuck all that.
didn't even get me drunk and fat, take me to a strippy club, gas up my career, breakout the throat magic or anything. just swung for the fences like fuck all that.
By DY_nasty Go To Postshit sucks. i already got a habit of flowcharting people as is and this doesn't help.
didn't even get me drunk and fat, take me to a strippy club, gas up my career, breakout the throat magic or anything. just swung for the fences like fuck all that.
By Facism Go To PostYou married that girl yet dyfuck no lmao
By DY_nasty Go To PostDy just had this happen to him 🤣🤣🤣
By DY_nasty Go To PostI definitely blocked that girl on Friday. The IG post just made me laugh lol
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By domino Go To Postsounds like she was working on some fallback VDay plans in case what she really wanted fell throughYup. You got to strike while the iron's hot or someone is going to beat you to the punch.
By Kibner Go To PostYup. You got to strike while the iron's hot or someone is going to beat you to the punch.I definitely made offers to go out. It was 'too soon' after her divorce for her to start dating again then days after I find out she's taking to an old friend.
She went from 9/10 interest to a 4/10 a couple days later
This happens so often I gotta wonder if you're actually registering real attraction or just taking any non-negative interaction as a window or opportunity tbh
Like instead of all these women showing you mixed signals and the endless conundrum of is she/ain't she - do you actually reach out consistently enough in the first place to be able to gauge this?
You can't just be a passive passenger over and over again and at the same time wonder why things never go the way you want. Especially when you very clearly don't know what you want to begin with and haven't for years.
Like instead of all these women showing you mixed signals and the endless conundrum of is she/ain't she - do you actually reach out consistently enough in the first place to be able to gauge this?
You can't just be a passive passenger over and over again and at the same time wonder why things never go the way you want. Especially when you very clearly don't know what you want to begin with and haven't for years.
By data Go To PostI definitely made offers to go out. It was 'too soon' after her divorce for her to start dating again then days after I find out she's taking to an old friend.Sometimes things don't click. She wasn't feeling you, on to the next one
She went from 9/10 interest to a 4/10 a couple days later
By DY_nasty Go To PostThis happens so often I gotta wonder if you're actually registering real attraction or just taking any non-negative interaction as a window or opportunity tbhI mean, I got 'good morning' texts every day from her. That seems like a pretty high level of interest. We'd talk all day for a couple days then she started pulling back more and more and I'd try to reach out, but every time I'd try to make a date she either wouldn't respond or would change the subject.
Like instead of all these women showing you mixed signals and the endless conundrum of is she/ain't she - do you actually reach out consistently enough in the first place to be able to gauge this?
You can't just be a passive passenger over and over again and at the same time wonder why things never go the way you want. Especially when you very clearly don't know what you want to begin with and haven't for years.
Moving on either way. I just thought the turnaround was crazy.
By data Go To PostI mean, I got 'good morning' texts every day from her. That seems like a pretty high level of interest. We'd talk all day for a couple days then she started pulling back more and more and I'd try to reach out, but every time I'd try to make a date she either wouldn't respond or would change the subject.It's not. Little stuff like that costs nothing and makes her feel better because she gets guaranteed positive attention from you every time. Free personalized likes or upvotes.
Moving on either way. I just thought the turnaround was crazy.
When someone likes you, they actually *do* things. Show up at your job, demand to meet your friends, ask for your time at the cost of their own, be inconvenient, etc. I'm thinking that people are giving you exceptionally safe sides of themselves hoping to get some polarizing, jolting experience out of you - but you're playing it equally safe and as a result both parties are bored as fuck and have no direction.
I wouldn't even call that a loss of interest in a dating sense. It's like going to the petting zoo. Guys in your situation aren't some unique brand. Especially if you've got the social media and open-book situation that further identifies and labels you. You're the alpaca.
It's only bad oversharing when you're the only one doing it lol
Some people love that "I like how it feels to be falling for someone uwu" shit too to the point it may as well be a recreational drug. Recent divorcee? I bet that first pull hit different.
Some people love that "I like how it feels to be falling for someone uwu" shit too to the point it may as well be a recreational drug. Recent divorcee? I bet that first pull hit different.
if I've learned anything, its that there's no rulebook really? Anything could mean anything. I mean if you get ANY text from me, someone who never texts or calls anyone, then yeah I'm into you lmao.
so in the immortal words of Blackace, 'it depends' lol.
Go next baby data don't ovethink it shit happens shit happens <3
so in the immortal words of Blackace, 'it depends' lol.
Go next baby data don't ovethink it shit happens shit happens <3
By data Go To PostI mean, I got 'good morning' texts every day from her. That seems like a pretty high level of interest. We'd talk all day for a couple days then she started pulling back more and more and I'd try to reach out, but every time I'd try to make a date she either wouldn't respond or would change the subject.Sounds like she just lost interest. It happens and don't waste time trying to make sense out of it or what you did wrong. Just on to the next one, m8.
Moving on either way. I just thought the turnaround was crazy.
By i can get you a toe Go To PostTexts are such low effort a person can send them getting their back blown out by someone else.Amen to that. I usually do them while practicing my splits.
By i can get you a toe Go To PostTexts are such low effort a person can send them getting their back blown out by someone else.Imagine getting a copy and pasted text and thinking you made it.
By domino Go To PostMans seen a full house and was inspired to fill something else lolOne can only hope he cleared the dining table in a fury first for full irony
