By LFMartins86 Go To PostI've been away from the "game" from far too long.
Started talking to a friend of a friend this week. Trivial talk and she takes a long while too respond, I gave her plenty of chances were she could have stopped replying but she always has something to say even if it is at weird timings like in the middle of a dinner, when she got home at 2 in the morning or at 8 in the morning (I think I woke up with a message from her almost every day this week).
That's why I hate talking through the internet, I am pretty good at reading people IRL but I don't know if she is talking because she is friendly, if she is shy or something else.
The friend we have in common says she is always complaining that she is invisible to boys.
I really need to find out more about it.
There's no big mystery here. She's vague because she hasn't decided yet, but is willing to keep the conversation going to see where it leads.
I've learned some women like the attention cause their bored and enjoy stringing guys along (#teamwastehistime)...... Its arguably selfish as hell but some just do (men do it too but usually after sex). When it comes to text, I go for quantity of text over everything so if she is sending you a lot of text in burst or matching or exceeding you per text bubble/text length its a very good sign. The amount is usually wayyyyy more important than the when
Also if she texts you at a bad time do not respond until its no longer a bad time. Unless you guys are dating she shouldn't get that level of commitment to the conversation. 8 in the morning maybe is ok, 2 in the morning is "she's gonna have to wait" status.
Also got to get to the point you push for that phone call and from there within a week go for the real life date. If she is feeling you and you do not escalate she will lose interest.
Also if she texts you at a bad time do not respond until its no longer a bad time. Unless you guys are dating she shouldn't get that level of commitment to the conversation. 8 in the morning maybe is ok, 2 in the morning is "she's gonna have to wait" status.
Also got to get to the point you push for that phone call and from there within a week go for the real life date. If she is feeling you and you do not escalate she will lose interest.
Been told by several friends -
the stunning girl at work who so happens to be the daughter of one of the higher-ups who is kind of like a friend.
Really complicates the unhelpful. So I am steering clear....
thanks you guys,
great talk.
the stunning girl at work who so happens to be the daughter of one of the higher-ups who is kind of like a friend.
Really complicates the unhelpful. So I am steering clear....
thanks you guys,
great talk.
I've been friends with this girl for like 3 years on Facebook. We met through my old job and barely talked after that. I'd occasionally drop her a comment and she might like it but that was about it. She came by my work the other day without knowing I worked there and seeing how i look now. Keep in mind when I met her, I was my old fat, fucked teeth self. Now we've been suddenly talking a WHOLE lot more on Facebook. She comments nearly all my posts or likes them.
I'm not assuming anything and there's a high chance that we just started talking when I said 'hey did I see you at work?' but at the same time I'm like 'oh I get why shes talking to me now' which I totally dont mind. It feels awesome.
I'm not assuming anything and there's a high chance that we just started talking when I said 'hey did I see you at work?' but at the same time I'm like 'oh I get why shes talking to me now' which I totally dont mind. It feels awesome.
So my situation turned into something completely stupid. Met him with my friend and the girl I was interested Friday night. It became clear the girl was not into me and I thought that would be the end of it.
Saturday night I went out alone to a bar to see a friend of mine play. While I was there, eventually a group arrived and moved in front of me.
The girl who I was interested in was with them, we said hello and I continued to watch the show.
The bar was pretty hot and I was trying to stay on a place that had a constant stream of cold air from the air conditioning and at a same time have a clear view of my friend who was playing.
Problem was that the girl kept popping up in front of me and I got the impression that she was getting annoyed that I was near her.
It's a small bar with a very limited space in front of a stage but I didn't move because I was there to listen to my friend, who I know for 16 years, who played his first public gig in my 18th birthday and has just signed a record deal.
She eventually moved to my back and ended up going outside with the rest of her group.
Bar closed at 2 in the morning, talked with my friend for a bit and went outside to call another friend who was supposed to meet me after a dinner he went but the guy was running late and my phone's battery was about to run out so we decided to meet outside another bar on a zone were there are two of the only bars that are open until 4 in the city.
After my phone call, I saw the girl leave in the opposite direction of where I was going.
Went to the other bar, had a drink, talked with a few people and was waiting for my friends when the girl and her group arrived, I jokingly say "again?", she laughs and goes her way.
At this point I am trying to avoid her and move a bit away from the door of the bar but can't move too far because I was supposed to wait for my friends there and my phone has died.
After waiting for a while in a place further apart from the main door of the bar, I decide to check back to the main door of the bar, there's an outside bar near the door and that was a bit crowded so I decide to go around it as it was quicker.
The place I am passing through is a bit dark and I saw two people talking but I couldn't make out who they were.
Just I am passing near them, I see that one of them is the girl but at this time it would be too ridiculous to turn around and I just move quickly.
Eventually I spot my friends and we end up spending the next hour moving between bars.
I didn't see her again or at least I didn't think I did because I was with my friends and was no longer constantly looking around to find them.
Went out for coffee with another group of friends today and mentioned to them that I kept bumping to the girl all night even though I didn't want to see her.
A few minutes later, the friend who me and the girl have in common arrives and she is annoyed at me saying that the girl had accused me of stalking her.
I tried to explain the situation to my friend and she didn't seem to believe me at first but she must have said something to the girl because the girl is apparently annoyed at her now.
I didn't push the subject because they're close friends and I don't want to cause any problems between just because some stupid misunderstanding.
Saturday night I went out alone to a bar to see a friend of mine play. While I was there, eventually a group arrived and moved in front of me.
The girl who I was interested in was with them, we said hello and I continued to watch the show.
The bar was pretty hot and I was trying to stay on a place that had a constant stream of cold air from the air conditioning and at a same time have a clear view of my friend who was playing.
Problem was that the girl kept popping up in front of me and I got the impression that she was getting annoyed that I was near her.
It's a small bar with a very limited space in front of a stage but I didn't move because I was there to listen to my friend, who I know for 16 years, who played his first public gig in my 18th birthday and has just signed a record deal.
She eventually moved to my back and ended up going outside with the rest of her group.
Bar closed at 2 in the morning, talked with my friend for a bit and went outside to call another friend who was supposed to meet me after a dinner he went but the guy was running late and my phone's battery was about to run out so we decided to meet outside another bar on a zone were there are two of the only bars that are open until 4 in the city.
After my phone call, I saw the girl leave in the opposite direction of where I was going.
Went to the other bar, had a drink, talked with a few people and was waiting for my friends when the girl and her group arrived, I jokingly say "again?", she laughs and goes her way.
At this point I am trying to avoid her and move a bit away from the door of the bar but can't move too far because I was supposed to wait for my friends there and my phone has died.
After waiting for a while in a place further apart from the main door of the bar, I decide to check back to the main door of the bar, there's an outside bar near the door and that was a bit crowded so I decide to go around it as it was quicker.
The place I am passing through is a bit dark and I saw two people talking but I couldn't make out who they were.
Just I am passing near them, I see that one of them is the girl but at this time it would be too ridiculous to turn around and I just move quickly.
Eventually I spot my friends and we end up spending the next hour moving between bars.
I didn't see her again or at least I didn't think I did because I was with my friends and was no longer constantly looking around to find them.
Went out for coffee with another group of friends today and mentioned to them that I kept bumping to the girl all night even though I didn't want to see her.
A few minutes later, the friend who me and the girl have in common arrives and she is annoyed at me saying that the girl had accused me of stalking her.
I tried to explain the situation to my friend and she didn't seem to believe me at first but she must have said something to the girl because the girl is apparently annoyed at her now.
I didn't push the subject because they're close friends and I don't want to cause any problems between just because some stupid misunderstanding.
By reilo Go To PostHow are you gonna be the stalker when you arrive first lmaoTo both goddamn places. At times she was even separated from her group, who were coming and going a lot of times while I never moved more than 1 or 2m. I was either looking at my friend playing or I had my eyes close, just taking in the music.
Both places are small, I bumped into quite a lot of people on both places.
The second place was a bit larger and I managed to keep away from her besides that one time she was in a darker corner.
She went from always complaining to her friend that she was invisible to guys from going to "that guy is clearly interested in me and he happens to be on the same bar as me (the only bar with live music, one of the things that we both love) so he must be stalking me".
By reilo Go To PostHow are you gonna be the stalker when you arrive first lmaowhen you're a good stalker
By reilo Go To PostIsn't your town also small as hell?Yup. There was at least 10 people who I bumped into in both places.
remember the married girl i mentioned before that still wants to be friends? and then she tried to put distance between us?
she's coming at me again
she's coming at me again
By DY_nasty Go To Post
literally the entire east coast
"the uber should be outside waiting for you. If not, you will be outside waiting for it." lmaoooooooooooo
By data Go To PostShe sticks her hand under my shirt when we hug because it's 'warm'
YKNOW FRIENDS SHIT
Let her know it's warmer in your pants......
By Facism Go To Postdata, if she's going to cause problems, be the adult and tell her to stop.
Depends what data wants tbh, I feel like part of him wants to which in that case.
Tell her straight up, you wanna that directors cut dick... the full length, and see what she says.
data is entering a new realm of struggle
when you meet a nice, smart girl and really like just hanging out but out of nowhere she just starts trying to give you handjobs in starbucks
when you meet a nice, smart girl and really like just hanging out but out of nowhere she just starts trying to give you handjobs in starbucks
This really is the side dick thread. Lmao.
Either you want her or you don't. Tell her to cut that shit out if you're not feeling it. If she presses on it's harassment. Point blank period. I know you're coming from a different you, but put some respect on your name, emotional state and dick.
Also be prepared for any consequences that come from engaging in this fuckery to begin with. She sounds messy af, and not like the type of cheater you should be fucking with (only the ones with an actual directive and no moral qualms about it). This is how you get caught up. It sounds like she's running game on you.
Don't let new found attention get you feeling like the old you in a new body.
Either you want her or you don't. Tell her to cut that shit out if you're not feeling it. If she presses on it's harassment. Point blank period. I know you're coming from a different you, but put some respect on your name, emotional state and dick.
Also be prepared for any consequences that come from engaging in this fuckery to begin with. She sounds messy af, and not like the type of cheater you should be fucking with (only the ones with an actual directive and no moral qualms about it). This is how you get caught up. It sounds like she's running game on you.
Don't let new found attention get you feeling like the old you in a new body.
I'm just coasting at this point. I tried getting emotionally invested and making the move and it didn't go well, but it's right back to where we were as 'friends' which is what I told her would happen.
If she wants to try something, it's all her now. I'm just along for the ride. I was honestly prepared to ditch her when she was mad at me but she came back at me and we talk to each other and get along so well outside of those moments that it just kind of puts us in the same position.,
Like I said, I'm coasting. Its on her at this point. She keeps telling me she's planning on moving anyways.
If she wants to try something, it's all her now. I'm just along for the ride. I was honestly prepared to ditch her when she was mad at me but she came back at me and we talk to each other and get along so well outside of those moments that it just kind of puts us in the same position.,
Like I said, I'm coasting. Its on her at this point. She keeps telling me she's planning on moving anyways.
You're full of contradictions, my guy. If you were honestly prepared to ditch her, you would have been tossed her into the bushes and told her to gaze at the stars for entertainment. You didn't, because you like the attention.
"I'm just coasting"
"We're just friends"
"It's on them"
All things that people say to shift the spotlight from them to someone else, in the event something goes left. That shit turns into
"I don't know why they're with that person"
"I mean, it wasn't supposed to be like this"
"I miss them"
It's a fedora hat tip away from being a "nice guy".
It sounds like you really want the box, but are to shook to ask.
We clowned Vire, but he kept it 100.
If you do have a bunch of dates lined up, then my bad.
Edit: What I'm really getting at is, if you're not about that savage living, don't be. Spare yourself, and keep it moving.
"I'm just coasting"
"We're just friends"
"It's on them"
All things that people say to shift the spotlight from them to someone else, in the event something goes left. That shit turns into
"I don't know why they're with that person"
"I mean, it wasn't supposed to be like this"
"I miss them"
It's a fedora hat tip away from being a "nice guy".
It sounds like you really want the box, but are to shook to ask.
We clowned Vire, but he kept it 100.
If you do have a bunch of dates lined up, then my bad.
Edit: What I'm really getting at is, if you're not about that savage living, don't be. Spare yourself, and keep it moving.
"She's doing it all"
nah dude, lol, by just allowing yourself to be in that position you're meeting her halfway.
nah dude, lol, by just allowing yourself to be in that position you're meeting her halfway.
Yeh you just end up being the sexless sponge for whatever intimacy she's missing in her marriage.
Praying for you lad
Praying for you lad
By EldritchTrapStar Go To PostYou're full of contradictions, my guy. If you were honestly prepared to ditch her, you would have been tossed her into the bushes and told her to gaze at the stars for entertainment. You didn't, because you like the attention.lmao so true
"I'm just coasting"
"We're just friends"
"It's on them"
All things that people say to shift the spotlight from them to someone else, in the event something goes left. That shit turns into
"I don't know why they're with that person"
"I mean, it wasn't supposed to be like this"
"I miss them"
It's a fedora hat tip away from being a "nice guy".
It sounds like you really want the box, but are to shook to ask.
We clowned Vire, but he kept it 100.
If you do have a bunch of dates lined up, then my bad.
Edit: What I'm really getting at is, if you're not about that savage living, don't be. Spare yourself, and keep it moving.
that's the only reason he's still alive too
hit with her with a few "i'm just a man!"s guaranteed
and yeah for real, a lot of bullshit in relationships people straight up 100% ask for or walk right into. if you're reluctantly playing games you're still playing
If you don't set up your boundaries and enforce 'em who will? Certainly not the person looking to stomp 'em.
I cut her off last night
and I have still been dating through apps and friends throughout. They just didn't click as well. Like I know what I was doing was shitty, I just had this thought that it would change because I was hallucinating. I told her to stop touching me in a way she'd be uncomfortable if I touched her that way, and I told her to stop drunk texting me and to stop talking if she wasn't walking. She told me prior to that that we were 'friends with boundaries' and I told her the boundaries all seem to be on my end.
I got a date Sunday
and I have still been dating through apps and friends throughout. They just didn't click as well. Like I know what I was doing was shitty, I just had this thought that it would change because I was hallucinating. I told her to stop touching me in a way she'd be uncomfortable if I touched her that way, and I told her to stop drunk texting me and to stop talking if she wasn't walking. She told me prior to that that we were 'friends with boundaries' and I told her the boundaries all seem to be on my end.
I got a date Sunday
Good work, future data will thank you for this decision.
What are you all going to your partners for xmas, actually quite stuck for ideas, short breaks are just a hassle to organise and out of ideas really tbh.
What are you all going to your partners for xmas, actually quite stuck for ideas, short breaks are just a hassle to organise and out of ideas really tbh.
Hey friends,
Just wanted to provide a special update as you have been here for me on this journey since the beginning. Next weekend I will be proposing to her.
To have the support of my friends and family as they all approve of her is a wonderful feeling. My mom gave me one her family diamonds to put in the ring setting that I picked out two weeks ago. (It's crazy how long a ring takes to be made!). I bought tickets to the Nut Cracker Ballet in downtown Miami for this Saturday and I will be asking her there... The exact details I haven't figured out, (maybe someone could suggest something!), but I couldn't be more excited, nervous and happy.
This has felt like the longest journey and in a lot ways I felt like it never would reach this point. Overcoming the impossible is what I felt like I was going through about a year ago. The odds had been stacked against us, but I really feel like there is something out there like fate or destiny. Separated by 5000 miles across the world, and to happenstance meet each other only to find out that was the least of my concerns. For her to risk everything for a chance with me, still makes me weepy.
Here's to many more years of happiness.
Just wanted to provide a special update as you have been here for me on this journey since the beginning. Next weekend I will be proposing to her.
To have the support of my friends and family as they all approve of her is a wonderful feeling. My mom gave me one her family diamonds to put in the ring setting that I picked out two weeks ago. (It's crazy how long a ring takes to be made!). I bought tickets to the Nut Cracker Ballet in downtown Miami for this Saturday and I will be asking her there... The exact details I haven't figured out, (maybe someone could suggest something!), but I couldn't be more excited, nervous and happy.
This has felt like the longest journey and in a lot ways I felt like it never would reach this point. Overcoming the impossible is what I felt like I was going through about a year ago. The odds had been stacked against us, but I really feel like there is something out there like fate or destiny. Separated by 5000 miles across the world, and to happenstance meet each other only to find out that was the least of my concerns. For her to risk everything for a chance with me, still makes me weepy.
Here's to many more years of happiness.
By vire Go To PostHey friends,If you don't want to do the whole get down on one knee thing, don't take the ring in a box. It's very hard to disguise. Most places will give you a bag to keep the ring in, that you can put in your pocket.
Just wanted to provide a special update as you have been here for me on this journey since the beginning. Next weekend I will be proposing to her.
To have the support of my friends and family as they all approve of her is a wonderful feeling. My mom gave me one her family diamonds to put in the ring setting that I picked out two weeks ago. (It's crazy how long a ring takes to be made!). I bought tickets to the Nut Cracker Ballet in downtown Miami for this Saturday and I will be asking her thereā¦ The exact details I haven't figured out, (maybe someone could suggest something!), but I couldn't be more excited, nervous and happy.
This has felt like the longest journey and in a lot ways I felt like it never would reach this point. Overcoming the impossible is what I felt like I was going through about a year ago. The odds had been stacked against us, but I really feel like there is something out there like fate or destiny. Separated by 5000 miles across the world, and to happenstance meet each other only to find out that was the least of my concerns. For her to risk everything for a chance with me, still makes me weepy.
Here's to many more years of happiness.
By vire Go To PostHey friends,
Just wanted to provide a special update as you have been here for me on this journey since the beginning. Next weekend I will be proposing to her.
To have the support of my friends and family as they all approve of her is a wonderful feeling. My mom gave me one her family diamonds to put in the ring setting that I picked out two weeks ago. (It's crazy how long a ring takes to be made!). I bought tickets to the Nut Cracker Ballet in downtown Miami for this Saturday and I will be asking her thereā¦ The exact details I haven't figured out, (maybe someone could suggest something!), but I couldn't be more excited, nervous and happy.
This has felt like the longest journey and in a lot ways I felt like it never would reach this point. Overcoming the impossible is what I felt like I was going through about a year ago. The odds had been stacked against us, but I really feel like there is something out there like fate or destiny. Separated by 5000 miles across the world, and to happenstance meet each other only to find out that was the least of my concerns. For her to risk everything for a chance with me, still makes me weepy.
Here's to many more years of happiness.
Has anyone every told you that your post read like a teenage girl that just got her first dick and is sprung?
I hope she says yes and you have a good life.
Congrats vire you did it (Well hopefully will do) geniunely happy for you.
This is true
By data Go To PostDon't lie to women
especially when they know you real fucking well
This is true
By giririsss Go To PostIf you don't want to do the whole get down on one knee thing, don't take the ring in a box. It's very hard to disguise. Most places will give you a bag to keep the ring in, that you can put in your pocket.Yeah I realized this... the box they gave me is fucking huge and I don't think it would be easy at all to hide this. I'll stop by back at the jewelers to get something more manageable. Or maybe I'll just wait till Christmas Eve and do it then. I was going to make homemade pasta for the two of us and have a nice romantic evening alone.
Thanks for the well wishes everyone, I don't think I'm nervous if she will say yes or not, just want to do this perfectly and for everything to go "right".
By DY_nasty Go To Posti'm just happy you're alive vireIt's funny you say that. Two weeks ago was her birthday and I stopped by the Russian market to get her a cake. So I walk up to the bakery in a bit of a hurry not paying attention to anything, and when I finish at the register there, I turn around and guess whose there? Her ex no more than 1 foot from my face.
you being happy is icing on the cake, gl bro (stay safe)
I didn't say a word, he didn't say a word and we just both went our own way.
Things have cooled down on that front though. Her friends (who were mutual good friends with him) openly accept me and even at the birthday party they gave a gift that was really for the both of us.
By Facism Go To PostWhat happened to my post??
I dug through the server logs and found a historically accurate depiction of you posting last night:
By reilo Go To PostI dug through the server logs and found a historically accurate depiction of you posting last night:
Sensational, thanks for clearing it up for me. Must have not clicked submit.
Data and Vire, good luck to the both of you.
You probably saw the reply window since it's meant to look like how it's submitted but didn't actually press the button. I've done that before.
So
what do you do when someone you're close with has a self-harm problem. She tells me about it but doesn't go into details and I don't want to pry or smother. I understand she has a lot of shit going on in her life and shes constantly in debt and unhappy and I try to help her the best I can as a friend. But I also can't pretend I know what she's going through or how she feels. I just try to tell her to call me next time she feels that way or text me before doing that but I also told her I understand feeling the need to be alone with it. She told me she's survived her whole life with it and she'll be fine but I know that shit wears on you.
what do you do when someone you're close with has a self-harm problem. She tells me about it but doesn't go into details and I don't want to pry or smother. I understand she has a lot of shit going on in her life and shes constantly in debt and unhappy and I try to help her the best I can as a friend. But I also can't pretend I know what she's going through or how she feels. I just try to tell her to call me next time she feels that way or text me before doing that but I also told her I understand feeling the need to be alone with it. She told me she's survived her whole life with it and she'll be fine but I know that shit wears on you.
By data Go To PostSothose are cases i have been burned too many times on, and just won't fuck with outside of being committed to the stance that is roughly "i can listen, but not to the point where i have to worry about you to the point where it hurts me. if you want help, i'll help you get it"
what do you do when someone you're close with has a self-harm problem. She tells me about it but doesn't go into details and I don't want to pry or smother. I understand she has a lot of shit going on in her life and shes constantly in debt and unhappy and I try to help her the best I can as a friend. But I also can't pretend I know what she's going through or how she feels. I just try to tell her to call me next time she feels that way or text me before doing that but I also told her I understand feeling the need to be alone with it. She told me she's survived her whole life with it and she'll be fine but I know that shit wears on you.
i tried and have helped a lot of people. a lot of people. but two things are truer than ever after all of that - you're not a professional therapist, you're just trying to be a good person. and secondly it absolutely takes a toll on you as well. even if you don't realize it, you will grow a bit of resentment towards a person after extended periods of bending over backwards in some form or another. no one has endless empathy.
so i'll say do you what you can, but referring people to real professionals for certain issues and not budging on that is often times the best you can do for them and for yourself
By vire Go To PostIt's funny you say that. Two weeks ago was her birthday and I stopped by the Russian market to get her a cake. So I walk up to the bakery in a bit of a hurry not paying attention to anything, and when I finish at the register there, I turn around and guess whose there? Her ex no more than 1 foot from my face.if it were me?
I didn't say a word, he didn't say a word and we just both went our own way.
Things have cooled down on that front though. Her friends (who were mutual good friends with him) openly accept me and even at the birthday party they gave a gift that was really for the both of us.
then slaent would've been sold to a russian tech startup. as long as you know you're lucky.
By Fenderputty Go To PostVire breh ā¦ how long until we see you in the parents thread!look at this curse weaving