By Random Ass Username Go To PostImagine trying to smash in Alabama given what's going on.He likes them younger and religious too š
By reilo Go To PostHe likes them younger and religious too šOh no lol
i dont know how you find a way to involve yourself so heavily (basically any involvement) in that shit
you simply must enjoy it. feeling things.
you simply must enjoy it. feeling things.
Can you imagine the kind of person still single there? Why would you do that to yourself? Move the fuck out. Place hates the idea of women (girls) who aren't pregnant and having kids by 13 by their daddies. LEAVE.
By Random Ass Username Go To PostCan you imagine the kind of person still single there? Why would you do that to yourself? Move the fuck out. Place hates the idea of women (girls) who aren't pregnant and having kids by 13 by their daddies. LEAVE.
Ijs
By Random Ass Username Go To PostCan you imagine the kind of person still single there? Why would you do that to yourself? Move the fuck out. Place hates the idea of women (girls) who aren't pregnant and having kids by 13 by their daddies. LEAVE.
By Smokey Go To PostIjs
+1
Your wife and mother in law are arguing and your there trying to stay out of it. Your wife looks to you for validation in her argument mid argument what do you do...
By Kidjr Go To PostYour wife and mother in law are arguing and your there trying to stay out of it. Your wife looks to you for validation in her argument mid argument what do you doā¦Imitate a text sound and tell her you have to go to work.
By Kidjr Go To PostYour wife and mother in law are arguing and your there trying to stay out of it. Your wife looks to you for validation in her argument mid argument what do you doā¦
By Kidjr Go To PostYour wife and mother in law are arguing and your there trying to stay out of it. Your wife looks to you for validation in her argument mid argument what do you doā¦depends but just side with your wife lol your mum in law will love you forever
also you dont sleep with your mum in law (i think)
yo guys i see where you both are coming from. valid points across the board
here all day for bad advice
By Kidjr Go To PostYour wife and mother in law are arguing and your there trying to stay out of it. Your wife looks to you for validation in her argument mid argument what do you doā¦How close is the nearest window?
By Kidjr Go To PostYour wife and mother in law are arguing and your there trying to stay out of it. Your wife looks to you for validation in her argument mid argument what do you doā¦My wifeās side obviously
How often am I really seeing my MIL? Who cares if sheās mad at me. Even if my wife was wrong Iāll let her know in private.
MIL will get over it because she knows when she was in the same situation she would have been furious if her husband didnāt take her side
I've been trying to make sense of the breakup. It has been two weeks. Wondering if she is a narcissist. Listed a whole bunch of things.
- dumped me via text before our trip to her home country
- dumped me a second time via phone, without actually saying the words
- told me the reason she has been seeing me a second time around is she has not seen her therapist for a month
- lied about her reasons in the past and in the present, her future desires too
- told me I have a small one, for the jokez. Says I tease her the same way. I do not. Says she used to do it all the time with her ex. Well, I'm not a fuckboy who comments about her tits' size.
- said to other dude (and told me she phrased it as such) she has been single during the time we were dating (could have said ābroke up with X in septemberā if she did not want to mention me)
- frequent reminders that guys hit on her
- told me she wanted to live with a guy who likes her
- mentions a friendās suicide in 2014 or how she wanted to commit suicide, in our breakup conversations. She hides behind pain when she inflicts pain
- went hot and cold at incredible speed, going from āiāll settle in this apartment/wear your sweater all the timeā to āi donāt like you that muchā in a blink, when i wasnāt asking for much
- misconstrues to play the victim
- said selfishness is just a trait of hers, acknowledged she feels no empathy even tho she is concerned on a conscious level (but not emotional) she is like her dad, thus asked me to just be okay with it
- was never appreciative of kind gestures, only saw them as reasons Iām devalued, dumped me after two occasions when i was either giving something of importance or cooking for her
All that and yet, I'm still not over it, 14 days after. I'm conflicted. I feel like I want some fairness, and I'm still attached/hopeful. I can't miss what I went through. I just have a hard time giving my hopes up for what it could have been.
Like, all this, I don't feel comes down to me feeling insecure. She just did not do much for me to feel secure.
- dumped me via text before our trip to her home country
- dumped me a second time via phone, without actually saying the words
- told me the reason she has been seeing me a second time around is she has not seen her therapist for a month
- lied about her reasons in the past and in the present, her future desires too
- told me I have a small one, for the jokez. Says I tease her the same way. I do not. Says she used to do it all the time with her ex. Well, I'm not a fuckboy who comments about her tits' size.
- said to other dude (and told me she phrased it as such) she has been single during the time we were dating (could have said ābroke up with X in septemberā if she did not want to mention me)
- frequent reminders that guys hit on her
- told me she wanted to live with a guy who likes her
- mentions a friendās suicide in 2014 or how she wanted to commit suicide, in our breakup conversations. She hides behind pain when she inflicts pain
- went hot and cold at incredible speed, going from āiāll settle in this apartment/wear your sweater all the timeā to āi donāt like you that muchā in a blink, when i wasnāt asking for much
- misconstrues to play the victim
- said selfishness is just a trait of hers, acknowledged she feels no empathy even tho she is concerned on a conscious level (but not emotional) she is like her dad, thus asked me to just be okay with it
- was never appreciative of kind gestures, only saw them as reasons Iām devalued, dumped me after two occasions when i was either giving something of importance or cooking for her
All that and yet, I'm still not over it, 14 days after. I'm conflicted. I feel like I want some fairness, and I'm still attached/hopeful. I can't miss what I went through. I just have a hard time giving my hopes up for what it could have been.
Like, all this, I don't feel comes down to me feeling insecure. She just did not do much for me to feel secure.
I've broken up with women for like less than any of things you listed
attached to what m8 she sounds like a fucking nightmare to be around, not even worth overthinking this. Guess she enjoyed treating you like a boomerang...eh I can do whatever to this dude and he'll still wanna come back
attached to what m8 she sounds like a fucking nightmare to be around, not even worth overthinking this. Guess she enjoyed treating you like a boomerang...eh I can do whatever to this dude and he'll still wanna come back
By Gaby Go To PostI've been trying to make sense of the breakup. It has been two weeks. Wondering if she is a narcissist. Listed a whole bunch of things.
- dumped me via text before our trip to her home country
- dumped me a second time via phone, without actually saying the words
- told me the reason she has been seeing me a second time around is she has not seen her therapist for a month
- lied about her reasons in the past and in the present, her future desires too
- told me I have a small one, for the jokez. Says I tease her the same way. I do not. Says she used to do it all the time with her ex. Well, I'm not a fuckboy who comments about her tits' size.
- said to other dude (and told me she phrased it as such) she has been single during the time we were dating (could have said ābroke up with X in septemberā if she did not want to mention me)
- frequent reminders that guys hit on her
- told me she wanted to live with a guy who likes her
- mentions a friendās suicide in 2014 or how she wanted to commit suicide, in our breakup conversations. She hides behind pain when she inflicts pain
- went hot and cold at incredible speed, going from āiāll settle in this apartment/wear your sweater all the timeā to āi donāt like you that muchā in a blink, when i wasnāt asking for much
- misconstrues to play the victim
- said selfishness is just a trait of hers, acknowledged she feels no empathy even tho she is concerned on a conscious level (but not emotional) she is like her dad, thus asked me to just be okay with it
- was never appreciative of kind gestures, only saw them as reasons Iām devalued, dumped me after two occasions when i was either giving something of importance or cooking for her
All that and yet, I'm still not over it, 14 days after. I'm conflicted. I feel like I want some fairness, and I'm still attached/hopeful. I can't miss what I went through. I just have a hard time giving my hopes up for what it could have been.
Like, all this, I don't feel comes down to me feeling insecure. She just did not do much for me to feel secure.
By reilo Go To PostGaby, let us know when you get the eventual drunk "I miss you!" text.
Big facts
I knew posting it was a good idea. Just lol at you guys. Thanks.
As for the drunk text about her missing me, there was something weird.
I unfriended her on FB as goodbyes were said, couple weeks back. Just did not want to see when she's online, etc, and was uncomfortable with her looking over my stuff. This last sunday, she liked my profile picture. And yesterday she undid the like.
No idea what to make of it.
As for the drunk text about her missing me, there was something weird.
I unfriended her on FB as goodbyes were said, couple weeks back. Just did not want to see when she's online, etc, and was uncomfortable with her looking over my stuff. This last sunday, she liked my profile picture. And yesterday she undid the like.
No idea what to make of it.
I have an idea for you Gaby, list all the stupid toxic shit you did in that relationship as well. Look at it and ask yourself if that's the person you want to be again since you're still caught up in your feels about her. What about your feels about who you are with her.
Also kidjr you side with your wife at the moment unless it's something that she needs to be called out on right then and there. She's the person you're living with 24/7, you can always compromise the issue or tell her she's wrong in private.
Also kidjr you side with your wife at the moment unless it's something that she needs to be called out on right then and there. She's the person you're living with 24/7, you can always compromise the issue or tell her she's wrong in private.
By Gaby Go To PostI knew posting it was a good idea. Just lol at you guys. Thanks.she playing with her favourite boomerang
As for the drunk text about her missing me, there was something weird.
I unfriended her on FB as goodbyes were said, couple weeks back. Just did not want to see when she's online, etc, and was uncomfortable with her looking over my stuff. This last sunday, she liked my profile picture. And yesterday she undid the like.
No idea what to make of it.
she sounds like the kinda b that will come crawling back if you ghost her
By Random Ass Username Go To PostI have an idea for you Gaby, list all the stupid toxic shit you did in that relationship as well. Look at it and ask yourself if that's the person you want to be again since you're still caught up in your feels about her. What about your feels about who you are with her.Great advice. After the first breakup, I was all about self-criticism. Was I too needy, pushy, etc. And to some extent I was. But in hindsight, I was nothing too crazy, I just told her, look i've been your male mistress for a while (which i was) etc, if you want to get it going, it better be something in the end. My mistake, which I don't think was toxic but a bit too codependent, was tell her, change your ways, without being ready to walk. I did not want to walk. I should have been more distant, but by doing so, I hurt myself, not her.
Today, to be honest, I don't feel like feeling I fucked up. She's irresponsible because she's that charming that she's used to men being doormats.
By DY_nasty Go To Post
When your feeling ain't the same and your body don't want to
But you know gotta let it go 'cause the party ain't
Jumping like it used to, even though this might bruise you
Let it burn, let it burn, gotta let it burn
Deep down, you know it's best for yourself, but you
Hate the thought of her being with someone else
But you know that it's over, we knew it was through
Let it burn, let it burn, gotta let it burn
I'm twisted 'cause one side of me is telling me that I need to move on
On the other side, I wanna break down and cry, yeah
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh
Ooh, ooh, ooh (can you hear me burning?)
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh
By Gaby Go To PostGreat advice. After the first breakup, I was all about self-criticism. Was I too needy, pushy, etc. And to some extent I was. But in hindsight, I was nothing too crazy, I just told her, look i've been your male mistress for a while (which i was) etc, if you want to get it going, it better be something in the end. My mistake, which I don't think was toxic but a bit too codependent, was tell her, change your ways, without being ready to walk. I did not want to walk. I should have been more distant, but by doing so, I hurt myself, not her.I had quite a toxic friend who did some fucked up stuff, ended up just cutting them out but what bothered me most was I didn't like who I was around them when I had space to think about well everything. When I wavered on ever letting them back into the fold I just reminded myself how much I despised that person (me) and I how I wasn't interested in backsliding into that. Sometimes we get caught away too with vilifying some people even if they deserve it. But we have to look at how we were feeding into the toxicity or giving some of our own, without that you'll just make the same mistakes, befriend the same people, date the same shitheads because you're not recognizing how and where you fucked up, just the hurt they inflicted.
Today, to be honest, I don't feel like feeling I fucked up. She's irresponsible because she's that charming that she's used to men being doormats.
Yeah, that's wise. It's also about finding a dynamic that uplifts you, not make you something you don't want to be.
I get that. I wish I had done it for a relationship that ended in 2013.
But I've done that for 5 months with this one girl now.
No more. She hasn't done it for a day. I'm proud of how I acted, even my good-bye was true to myself, no insult, just support for her mental issues and good wishes.
But now, either she writes a book-long message self-reflecting, or she'll find silence when she writes me.
I get that. I wish I had done it for a relationship that ended in 2013.
But I've done that for 5 months with this one girl now.
No more. She hasn't done it for a day. I'm proud of how I acted, even my good-bye was true to myself, no insult, just support for her mental issues and good wishes.
But now, either she writes a book-long message self-reflecting, or she'll find silence when she writes me.
By Gaby Go To PostBut now, either she writes a book-long message self-reflecting, or she'll find silence when she writes me.
why not just let her find silence either way.
By domino Go To Postwhy not just let her find silence either way.i can't with this
domino, quick, upstage this by saying something horrible
By Gaby Go To PostBut now, either she writes a book-long message self-reflecting, or she'll find silence when she writes me.Dude just no. Ghost her and take a long look at yourself. I would never want or demand this from my toxic friend. And I got one and I binned it. Why are you interested in this? This is what I mean. You need to detox. Let her do whatever she wants to and go off and do your own thing. She doesn't owe you this. Move on. Do better.
yurt you ask and i deliver. i had a weird saturday. ran into the single mom at the gym. hadn't seen her in about 2 weeks and i haven't hit her up really beyond asking her how her foot was healing up. been busy going on dates and w/ work. went to our pool w/ the boys and she popped up there w/ her son and the baby daddy. she saw me before i saw her (she always does) so she went off on her own***. and we ended up meeting the son and the baby daddy w/o knowing who tf they were.
***she sent me an essay on IG once she realized that i was there to (among other things):
- apologize for missing my birthday (i didn't care and she wasn't invited to anything anyway)
- ask why i haven't hit her up in a bit
- wanted me to come check our her new place and gave me a little rundown on what she's been up to
- explain to me that her and the baby daddy arent together (don't care either way. good for her son that they can still be cordial)
- tell me to act like we've never met when she comes over to introduce herself to us (i thought this was kinda funny and i was a few lines deep so i was happy to play along)
- let me know that she'd delete all of this once she knew i read it
bet
so i basically just said hi and floated around the pool while they talked to my friends. i guess i played along well, because sure enough who's ringing me up that evening, late as all hell to come over.
and i keep coming back to the fact that all of this would've been avoided if the girl i was actually trying to see saturday would've just blown off her plans w/ her coworkers like she'd done a few times before for me.
***she sent me an essay on IG once she realized that i was there to (among other things):
- apologize for missing my birthday (i didn't care and she wasn't invited to anything anyway)
- ask why i haven't hit her up in a bit
- wanted me to come check our her new place and gave me a little rundown on what she's been up to
- explain to me that her and the baby daddy arent together (don't care either way. good for her son that they can still be cordial)
- tell me to act like we've never met when she comes over to introduce herself to us (i thought this was kinda funny and i was a few lines deep so i was happy to play along)
- let me know that she'd delete all of this once she knew i read it
bet
so i basically just said hi and floated around the pool while they talked to my friends. i guess i played along well, because sure enough who's ringing me up that evening, late as all hell to come over.
and i keep coming back to the fact that all of this would've been avoided if the girl i was actually trying to see saturday would've just blown off her plans w/ her coworkers like she'd done a few times before for me.
Jesus, it doesn't help when I find out people who come up with wise advice are fucking around just as much :))
By domino Go To Postyurt you ask and i deliver. i had a weird saturday. ran into the single mom at the gym. hadn't seen her in about 2 weeks and i haven't hit her up really beyond asking her how her foot was healing up. been busy going on dates and w/ work. went to our pool w/ the boys and she popped up there w/ her son and the baby daddy. she saw me before i saw her (she always does) so she went off on her own***. and we ended up meeting the son and the baby daddy w/o knowing who tf they were.u smashed?
***she sent me an essay on IG once she realized that i was there to (among other things):
- apologize for missing my birthday (i didn't care and she wasn't invited to anything anyway)
- ask why i haven't hit her up in a bit
- wanted me to come check our her new place and gave me a little rundown on what she's been up to
- explain to me that her and the baby daddy arent together (don't care either way. good for her son that they can still be cordial)
- tell me to act like we've never met when she comes over to introduce herself to us (i thought this was kinda funny and i was a few lines deep so i was happy to play along)
- let me know that she'd delete all of this once she knew i read it
bet
so i basically just said hi and floated around the pool while they talked to my friends. i guess i played along well, because sure enough who's ringing me up that evening, late as all hell to come over.
and i keep coming back to the fact that all of this would've been avoided if the girl i was actually trying to see saturday would've just blown off her plans w/ her coworkers like she'd done a few times before for me.
By Gaby Go To PostI've been trying to make sense of the breakup. It has been two weeks. Wondering if she is a narcissist. Listed a whole bunch of things.
- dumped me via text before our trip to her home country
- dumped me a second time via phone, without actually saying the words
- told me the reason she has been seeing me a second time around is she has not seen her therapist for a month
- lied about her reasons in the past and in the present, her future desires too
- told me I have a small one, for the jokez. Says I tease her the same way. I do not. Says she used to do it all the time with her ex. Well, I'm not a fuckboy who comments about her tits' size.
- said to other dude (and told me she phrased it as such) she has been single during the time we were dating (could have said ābroke up with X in septemberā if she did not want to mention me)
- frequent reminders that guys hit on her
- told me she wanted to live with a guy who likes her
- mentions a friendās suicide in 2014 or how she wanted to commit suicide, in our breakup conversations. She hides behind pain when she inflicts pain
- went hot and cold at incredible speed, going from āiāll settle in this apartment/wear your sweater all the timeā to āi donāt like you that muchā in a blink, when i wasnāt asking for much
- misconstrues to play the victim
- said selfishness is just a trait of hers, acknowledged she feels no empathy even tho she is concerned on a conscious level (but not emotional) she is like her dad, thus asked me to just be okay with it
- was never appreciative of kind gestures, only saw them as reasons Iām devalued, dumped me after two occasions when i was either giving something of importance or cooking for her
All that and yet, I'm still not over it, 14 days after. I'm conflicted. I feel like I want some fairness, and I'm still attached/hopeful. I can't miss what I went through. I just have a hard time giving my hopes up for what it could have been.
Like, all this, I don't feel comes down to me feeling insecure. She just did not do much for me to feel secure.
By domino Go To Postits easier to give good advice than to follow it.
mashallah brother you know it.
