By domino Go To PostBoy do I really know this
By domino Go To Postnah people just suck.
the stories my grandma used to tell me growing up used to have me shook
I don't understand, I used to cheat but you quickly learn the fall out just isn't worth it and you always end up getting caught. I don't understand how guys haven't been through this and haven't realised. And if you can't trust yourself to recognise that the outcome in the heat of the moment then don't put yourself in situations.
By Kidjr Go To PostUmm y'all hangaround some terrible couples, or maybe you lot are young?
By Kidjr Go To PostI don't understand, I used to cheatm8, I don't think WE understand
By reilo Go To Postm8, I don't think WE understand
Sorry as in like when I was 17 - 22 didn't really respect having a gf, and the women I led on didn't take too kindly to it so ended up with getting tied up and beat down. As in I thought it was something people did in there younger carefree years or when they didn't value or respect relationships, life quickly teaches you those lessons.
By Kidjr Go To PostI don't understand, I used to cheat but you quickly learn the fall out just isn't worth it and you always end up getting caught. I don't understand how guys haven't been through this and haven't realised. And if you can't trust yourself to recognise that the outcome in the heat of the moment then don't put yourself in situations.
many people don't ever learn that though. and even if they do then a lot of them just flat out don't care how their actions affect people.
By reilo Go To PostEvery Asian friend I have has a grandpa that has multiple families.because buying sex isn't cheating in Asia in general...
A lot of the cheating I know about, older folks did too. All I took issue with was "everyone." With a lot of people I know they're basically happy just to be intimate with the one person, another would be too much. That being said a lot of cheating comes later in relationships when resentment builds up but people have refused to break up or divorce because of sunk cost fallacy. So they go find intimacy or even respect elsewhere.
So I wasn't even going to post about this because I don't have the energy for it, but it's another fun chapter in Data's weird '''''''dating''''''' life and I figure I owe it to my public.
I've been talking to an ex-co worker for months kind of on and off. Never anything serious but we had both expressed interest. At the time, she was still seeing a guy so I said , 'no problem.' This is the 21 year old girl that is heavily Christian. She tried calling me once but I never picked up becuase I was asleep. Later, I couldnt text her or call her. Which was weird. I told her about this, asking if she blocked me and she was like 'Oh I didn't block you!' she never struck me as the deceitful type(I told you I'm new at this) so i'm like ok weird but she would continue snapchatting me daily. i had told her when this happened, 'if you dont want to continue this just tell me. I'd rather just know than be led on' which she ensured me wasn't the case and would even occasionally message me 'i miss you' During those months we stopped working together, we went out one night. She would always flirt with me whenever we'd run into each other if I had to stop by my old location for things which would happen every so often. A month or two ago she asked me if I could hang out sometime this week. I told her a time and she said 'ok if im free that sounds really nice' so i messaged her 'hey i'm free now if you still want to do something' no response. couple weeks later she snapchats me, ' i have some free time this week if you still want to get together' i was already skeptical so i was like 'ok message me your schedule and let's figure something out' now she would hang out with other guys we worked with together in a group setting. but she would only hang out with me one on one which was suspect. anyways, she never messaged me her schedule
so one day we were both closing and she messaged me some work related stuff and i was like 'hey if we're both closing we should do something after work' and she's like 'that sounds good' so i get off and i message her 'when do you want to meet up?' nothing. and its snapchat so i know she read it. so a few hours later i finally just message her like 'hey whats with you and all this wishy washy stuff lately, why do you say you want to do something and the never go through with it. why are you trying to waste my time?' no response. the last 3 months she barely sent me anything on snapchat so i'm like 'ok she's not interested anymore' week later 'i miss you' message. i respond with a 'miss you too' because i did really really like this girl. like liked her enough id pretend to enjoy sitting in a church sermon if it made her happy
cut to today. i had to go by my old location for my boss. she's there. she sees me and there's this mixture of happiness and nerves. so we talk for a bit about bullshit while i wait on what i need to pick up. she compliments my jacket, flirts a little, whatever. i could tell something was off though. finally, she goes 'so have you heard the rumors?' and i'm like 'no. what?' she seemed surprised that no one told me. that she would have to tell me herself. she says, 'i'm going to a wedding' so in my head i'm already thinking 'SURELY she isnt about to say what I think she is going to say' so I go 'why are you going to a wedding?' and she pulls her phone out and shows me a picture of the ring on her hand, she's like 'i'm getting married in august'
so we're in a public place so i just stare at her for a minute and she kind of stares back. definitely a top 5 most uncomfortable moments for me. so finally i'm just like, 'well congratulations' and she goes 'you know you're invited' and i respond, 'i don't think that would be a good idea' and she's like 'why' ' i just dont think it would be' she looked like she was about to cry. then i was finally like, 'well i need to head back to work' and that's probably the last time i'll ever see that girl.
she blocked me months ago because she didnt want her hidden boyfriend to see our messages it wasn't 'her phone being weird', which is why she used snapchat instead. despite being a 'nice girl' she kept me in her backpocket incase things with him didnt work out(we spent all of christmas eve together by the way), she'd get cold feet about going out with me because she knew it wasn't just a platonic thing so we'd never actually go out other than the one time. so she didnt throw herself as directly as the married woman but she did it more indirectly and in a more cowardly manner via messages. And I fell for it again. Felt like a real gut punch when she told me she was getting married though cause I genuinely tried for that girl on and off for months.
I didn't think its get so long but my moral of the story is this, and i know yall are going to tell me 'well duh' and 'you should have seen it months ago' but i lived this experience so a young weab doesnt have to. if you ever feel like youre plan b/backup plan, run the fuck away. unless youre just trying to hook up but yall know im a softy
I've been talking to an ex-co worker for months kind of on and off. Never anything serious but we had both expressed interest. At the time, she was still seeing a guy so I said , 'no problem.' This is the 21 year old girl that is heavily Christian. She tried calling me once but I never picked up becuase I was asleep. Later, I couldnt text her or call her. Which was weird. I told her about this, asking if she blocked me and she was like 'Oh I didn't block you!' she never struck me as the deceitful type(I told you I'm new at this) so i'm like ok weird but she would continue snapchatting me daily. i had told her when this happened, 'if you dont want to continue this just tell me. I'd rather just know than be led on' which she ensured me wasn't the case and would even occasionally message me 'i miss you' During those months we stopped working together, we went out one night. She would always flirt with me whenever we'd run into each other if I had to stop by my old location for things which would happen every so often. A month or two ago she asked me if I could hang out sometime this week. I told her a time and she said 'ok if im free that sounds really nice' so i messaged her 'hey i'm free now if you still want to do something' no response. couple weeks later she snapchats me, ' i have some free time this week if you still want to get together' i was already skeptical so i was like 'ok message me your schedule and let's figure something out' now she would hang out with other guys we worked with together in a group setting. but she would only hang out with me one on one which was suspect. anyways, she never messaged me her schedule
so one day we were both closing and she messaged me some work related stuff and i was like 'hey if we're both closing we should do something after work' and she's like 'that sounds good' so i get off and i message her 'when do you want to meet up?' nothing. and its snapchat so i know she read it. so a few hours later i finally just message her like 'hey whats with you and all this wishy washy stuff lately, why do you say you want to do something and the never go through with it. why are you trying to waste my time?' no response. the last 3 months she barely sent me anything on snapchat so i'm like 'ok she's not interested anymore' week later 'i miss you' message. i respond with a 'miss you too' because i did really really like this girl. like liked her enough id pretend to enjoy sitting in a church sermon if it made her happy
cut to today. i had to go by my old location for my boss. she's there. she sees me and there's this mixture of happiness and nerves. so we talk for a bit about bullshit while i wait on what i need to pick up. she compliments my jacket, flirts a little, whatever. i could tell something was off though. finally, she goes 'so have you heard the rumors?' and i'm like 'no. what?' she seemed surprised that no one told me. that she would have to tell me herself. she says, 'i'm going to a wedding' so in my head i'm already thinking 'SURELY she isnt about to say what I think she is going to say' so I go 'why are you going to a wedding?' and she pulls her phone out and shows me a picture of the ring on her hand, she's like 'i'm getting married in august'
so we're in a public place so i just stare at her for a minute and she kind of stares back. definitely a top 5 most uncomfortable moments for me. so finally i'm just like, 'well congratulations' and she goes 'you know you're invited' and i respond, 'i don't think that would be a good idea' and she's like 'why' ' i just dont think it would be' she looked like she was about to cry. then i was finally like, 'well i need to head back to work' and that's probably the last time i'll ever see that girl.
she blocked me months ago because she didnt want her hidden boyfriend to see our messages it wasn't 'her phone being weird', which is why she used snapchat instead. despite being a 'nice girl' she kept me in her backpocket incase things with him didnt work out(we spent all of christmas eve together by the way), she'd get cold feet about going out with me because she knew it wasn't just a platonic thing so we'd never actually go out other than the one time. so she didnt throw herself as directly as the married woman but she did it more indirectly and in a more cowardly manner via messages. And I fell for it again. Felt like a real gut punch when she told me she was getting married though cause I genuinely tried for that girl on and off for months.
I didn't think its get so long but my moral of the story is this, and i know yall are going to tell me 'well duh' and 'you should have seen it months ago' but i lived this experience so a young weab doesnt have to. if you ever feel like youre plan b/backup plan, run the fuck away. unless youre just trying to hook up but yall know im a softy
By domino Go To PostDepends on which circle of friends/colleagues for me.
The ones at a corporate tech I was in? Damn. We went to a conference and almost everyone tried to hook up with someone. Not even shy about it either, and even encouraging one another. One that pissed me off was this dude who constantly told me how stressed out he is over his marriage is about to fail.
At the conference we didnt see one minute of him because he was getting cozy with a prospective client.
My circle of closest friends though are so much the opposite that it makes me disgusted with myself at times.
Data man look on the bright side. You got lucky with it not working out. There are better women out there.
By FortuneFaded Go To PostAre women attracted to a guy with metal in his leg?
yeah breh injury stories are always a good lead in especially if you still have a cast or something.
it automatically makes folks sympathetic and open to you
wrapped things up in my mind w/ the chick from work once and for all. ended up getting lunch w/ her and her best friend at one day this week and at one point me and her friend had some 1v1 time and she basically just threw my coworker under the bus and ran over her over and over again. i knew her friend a bit and i knew she was supportive of me and the influence i had on her, so i was a little surprised to see her throw cold water on the whole thing. the big one for me was when her friend said i deserve someone that has no reservations/hesitations about being with me. i was kind of puzzled at what her friend meant and then she showed me some texts from a few days earlier from when we were hanging out about how uncomfortable she felt at this soul food spot with me because she could feel the stares and that she felt unwelcome as a white girl. and its not like i couldnt feel it myself at the time. if looks could kill we wouldn't have made it out of there alive. but i dont sweat that shit. and i didn't expect her to either but then again i've never taken her to something like that. beyond just being interested in her it made wonder if we could even be friends period if she felt uncomfortable just being around me in black settings. the whole thing just really killed my vibe and view of her.
Maaaaan, I get that Domino.
It's on her. I used to get uncomfortable eating at places where more Indian or Chinese frequent, but I made myself get used to it since there's nothing wrong with me being there.
It's also mostly paranoia too, unless you're at a place where people are absolutely racist.
It's on her. I used to get uncomfortable eating at places where more Indian or Chinese frequent, but I made myself get used to it since there's nothing wrong with me being there.
It's also mostly paranoia too, unless you're at a place where people are absolutely racist.
Data man
You did that to yourself. But that's not crazy - you gotta have ppl around you willing to slap you before getting that invested in a lost cause.
You did that to yourself. But that's not crazy - you gotta have ppl around you willing to slap you before getting that invested in a lost cause.
By FortuneFaded Go To PostAre women attracted to a guy with metal in his leg?I thought you didn't like girls.
By Baconsaurus Go To PostI thought you didn't like girls.I’m bi m8
By FortuneFaded Go To PostI’m bi m8I'm sorry I had no idea.
Chicks dig scars, or that's what the doctors always told me.
By Flutter Go To PostMaaaaan, I get that Domino.
It's on her. I used to get uncomfortable eating at places where more Indian or Chinese frequent, but I made myself get used to it since there's nothing wrong with me being there.
It's also mostly paranoia too, unless you're at a place where people are absolutely racist.
I wonder if it's such a big thing elsewhere in dating. Living in NC a little racism comes with everything like a side of fries. I can't wait for something to come from this job search and gtfo
Part of me doesn't want to be mad at her for feeling uncomfortable. But knowing that adds a lot of context to some things I picked up on but just overlooked.
By DY_nasty Go To Postalso, protip:
never trust anyone with a snapchat
Never.
By domino Go To PostI wonder if it's such a big thing elsewhere in dating. Living in NC a little racism comes with everything like a side of fries. I can't wait for something to come from this job search and gtfogonna be honest
Part of me doesn't want to be mad at her for feeling uncomfortable. But knowing that adds a lot of context to some things I picked up on but just overlooked.
Never.
where you go is part of the package, so if people can't feel comfortable or at least 'normal' around where you're going then its points off whether its acknowledged or not. yes, that it means becky with the good hair is walking with you through the yard at Central or she's never allowed to come or even think that you have fun there without her.
pawging in public got two sets of rules
I just can't bring myself to trust someone with my inner feelings and trust them to have my back when things aren't going well.
Please tell us one
By domino Go To Postnah people just suck.
the stories my grandma used to tell me growing up used to have me shook
Please tell us one
By FortuneFaded Go To PostI’m bi m8The amount of times i've used my injury as a pick up line..
..more times than Coventry winning away this season.
By Bold 2 in One Go To PostAlways be suspect of those who push 'Open Relationships'lol facts
By Bold 2 in One Go To PostI just can't bring myself to trust someone with my inner feelings and trust them to have my back when things aren't going well.
Please tell us one
Well my grandma herself would just take off to NYC to spend time up with her boyfriend up there. My mom said it was just a normal thing and sometimes they spent whole summers up there.
Back in the day you couldn't even secure a divorce unless you had proof of infidelity, your SO had a mental illness or they abandoned the family. And that's just the legal crap not the stigma of the community or religion the person was apart of.
By Shanks D Zoro Go To PostIn Korea, cheating was illegal until a few years ago.really? In Japan it's illegal per se, (you can sue your spouse and or lover, which has born some epic blackmails and scams) But blowjobs, handjobs and so on for men are not considered cheating by law
https://www.google.co.kr/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2015/02/26/asia/south-korea-adultery/index.html
You could have ended up in jail along with the person you did it with. I think it was only when you were married.
You could have ended up in jail along with the person you did it with. I think it was only when you were married.
By Random Ass Username Go To Postnah some people lucky to have the one
The "one" for me probably died in a car accident or lives somewhere in Africa, lucky me.
I've given up on finding a woman that could be my best friend.
By blackace Go To Postreally? In Japan it's illegal per se, (you can sue your spouse and or lover, which has born some epic blackmails and scams) But blowjobs, handjobs and so on for men are not considered cheating by law
I'm gonna need examples of said epic scams
By You got 14 bricks right there? Go To PostThe "one" for me probably died in a car accident or lives somewhere in Africa, lucky me.This is a feeling I know all too well.
I've given up on finding a woman that could be my best friend.
The idea of your soul mate (if such a thing exists) being conveniently located in the same town you live in or a few cubicles down the office is absurd on a planet of 7 billion people.
By YungMagus Go To PostI'm gonna need examples of said epic scamsWell I don't need to sue both parties
By Bold 2 in One Go To PostAlways be suspect of those who push 'Open Relationships'
It's great. I ain't trying to get emotionally close to anyone but my wife. My dick can get in some other mouth though and that's dope.
By Apollo Go To PostIt's great. I ain't trying to get emotionally close to anyone but my wife. My dick can get in some other mouth though and that's dope.Not trying to be a bastard but...
How do you feel about other dicks in your wife's mouth?
If that's cool with you then... Boy
By Bold 2 in One Go To PostNot trying to be a bastard but…
How do you feel about other dicks in your wife's mouth?
If that's cool with you then… Boy
She can't blow dudes. I can't go down on women.
She hates sucking dick anyways so lol
Even better. She doesn't have sex with other dudes. But if she wants to she can and I can fuck other chicks.
By Bold 2 in One Go To PostThis is a feeling I know all too well.
The idea of your soul mate (if such a thing exists) being conveniently located in the same town you live in or a few cubicles down the office is absurd on a planet of 7 billion people.
It really makes no sense, but then again I'm jaded and never really connected with any non-related woman deeply enough to think soulmate.
By Apollo Go To PostShe can't blow dudes. I can't go down on women.
She hates sucking dick anyways so lol
Even better. She doesn't have sex with other dudes. But if she wants to she can and I can fuck other chicks.
She hates sucking YOUR dick, just wait until she uses that hall pass on someone more attractive than you and her kisses taste a lil funny
You playing with fire, not even gonna get into the prospect of pregnancy of your wife or the side chick.
By DY_nasty Go To Postalso, protip:
never trust anyone with a snapchat
👀👀👀
Nah she sucks my dick. She's had dudes offer her $2k for a blow job and she's like nah bro I don't suck dick. Her ex-BF used to get mad at her all the time because she didn't suck his dick.
My wife can't have kids btw so I am cool there.
People really believe open relationships are just two people fucking other people all the time but it doesn't work like that (and I know a shit load of people that are in open relationships). It's more like say I am at a bar a year from now in a different city. Meet a girl. Fuck her. Tell my wife it happened and she's cool with it. There are rules. You have to be honest, wear protection, and more importantly be receptive of the other person's feelings.
My wife can't have kids btw so I am cool there.
People really believe open relationships are just two people fucking other people all the time but it doesn't work like that (and I know a shit load of people that are in open relationships). It's more like say I am at a bar a year from now in a different city. Meet a girl. Fuck her. Tell my wife it happened and she's cool with it. There are rules. You have to be honest, wear protection, and more importantly be receptive of the other person's feelings.