I thought this should be separate from the Relationships and Dating thread because this is a very specific aspect of that.
Being a young Black male, the whole discussion around dating outside of your race is a tricky one to have. Personally, my preference is Black > , but that doesn't stop me from being attracted to women of other ethnicity. But whenever I bring up the topic for discussion, I notice that people deal in absolutes in regards to racial dating.
Take my mom, for instance. I remember when I was a kid, she would always ice grill me for being attracted to White women. She'd say things like "Look, don't bring home no mixed grandbabies!" Hell, I remember one time she slapped the dog shit out of my sister for possibly implying that she thought Justin Timberlake was cute. A few of my other relatives would joke about interracial dating, saying things like "Dog, you gotta get you a White girl, they got good credit and shit." I never really thought much about it.
But then as I got older, I started noticing that people actually believe that kind of shit. I had a friend who legit said to me that he dates Asian women because he thinks they're more "submissive". I had another who only fucks with White women because he thinks they are are inherently better than Black women and don't embarrass you in public as much. And that was just the circle I grew up around.
I also noticed that people like to project their own insecurities and issues with race and/or dating onto others as if others are responsible for said insecurities. Like, for instance, the old logic of "All I've dated are Black men. All of those Black men weren't shit; therefore, all Black men ain't shit." Or, as another example, a few of Jessica Williams' (yes, THAT one) Tumblr posts like this one about Black men not being attracted to her because she considers herself to be "White-washed" because she likes more mainstream things that White people like, like Arrested Development. And that somehow makes her seem "weird" and unattractive to Black men. She also has some pretty fantastic things to say about Black men in general on that same Tumblr.
Of course, you also have the people who date certain races because of a physical feature they tend to value. We all know the physical stereotypes about Black men & women, for example.
It all makes it difficult for someone like me to become attracted to a woman of a different race because I would be constantly second-guessing myself, as well as her... asking myself questions like "Do I like her for her, or because she's Asian? Does she see me for who I am, or for my skin color?" Idk, maybe I'm thinking too much about it...
Being a young Black male, the whole discussion around dating outside of your race is a tricky one to have. Personally, my preference is Black > , but that doesn't stop me from being attracted to women of other ethnicity. But whenever I bring up the topic for discussion, I notice that people deal in absolutes in regards to racial dating.
Take my mom, for instance. I remember when I was a kid, she would always ice grill me for being attracted to White women. She'd say things like "Look, don't bring home no mixed grandbabies!" Hell, I remember one time she slapped the dog shit out of my sister for possibly implying that she thought Justin Timberlake was cute. A few of my other relatives would joke about interracial dating, saying things like "Dog, you gotta get you a White girl, they got good credit and shit." I never really thought much about it.
But then as I got older, I started noticing that people actually believe that kind of shit. I had a friend who legit said to me that he dates Asian women because he thinks they're more "submissive". I had another who only fucks with White women because he thinks they are are inherently better than Black women and don't embarrass you in public as much. And that was just the circle I grew up around.
I also noticed that people like to project their own insecurities and issues with race and/or dating onto others as if others are responsible for said insecurities. Like, for instance, the old logic of "All I've dated are Black men. All of those Black men weren't shit; therefore, all Black men ain't shit." Or, as another example, a few of Jessica Williams' (yes, THAT one) Tumblr posts like this one about Black men not being attracted to her because she considers herself to be "White-washed" because she likes more mainstream things that White people like, like Arrested Development. And that somehow makes her seem "weird" and unattractive to Black men. She also has some pretty fantastic things to say about Black men in general on that same Tumblr.
Of course, you also have the people who date certain races because of a physical feature they tend to value. We all know the physical stereotypes about Black men & women, for example.
It all makes it difficult for someone like me to become attracted to a woman of a different race because I would be constantly second-guessing myself, as well as her... asking myself questions like "Do I like her for her, or because she's Asian? Does she see me for who I am, or for my skin color?" Idk, maybe I'm thinking too much about it...
Well, as a white dude who has predominately dated black women, I don't know what it is. My ex-wife is black and my current girlfriend is too. For whatever reasons, most women that flirt with me happen to be black but that may be due to me living in Atlanta now. Either way, I've never been in a relationship with a white woman. I haven't been avoiding them or purposefully looking for black women but it's just what's happened.
Wasn't raised around that kind of stuff, never second guessed attraction. Sounds like the adults around you did you a disservice.
I feel like if you're a grown ass adult looking to date people who are compatible with you, at some point "racial preferences" should fly out the fuckin' window. Why limit yourself. I've met people of all kinds of social classes and attitudes from all races, so I frankly don't get it.
By MorisWasn't raised around that kind of stuff, never second guessed attraction. Sounds like the adults around you did you a disservice.
Yeah. It was a lot of typical "White people are the devil" shit from my mom.
However, I had always thought that came from a place of hatred instead of what that really was: a place of pain and experience. I'll never agree with her views on interracial dating, but at least I now know and understand why she feels that way.
By jWILL253By MorisWasn't raised around that kind of stuff, never second guessed attraction. Sounds like the adults around you did you a disservice.
Yeah. It was a lot of typical "White people are the devil" shit from my mom.
However, I had always thought that came from a place of hatred instead of what that really was: a place of pain and experience. I'll never agree with her views on interracial dating, but at least I now know and understand why she feels that way.
Yea, as an adult I understand how someone can get to that mindset given having to deal with some bullshit, just can't co-sign it.
Is there a question in that OP somewhere?
I have literally written books (PLURAL!) on this topic between in a digital journal I kept from about 2007-ish-201-ish, and also my dissertation. The catalyst of my porn addiction from 2000-2013 was when I discovered West Coast Productions while I was in college.
I lived in the Deep South for 23 years of my life. The concept of interracial...anything...was unfathomable to me, let alone sex. I was completely enchanted. The internet offered any combination that I could think of, some in more or less variety than others. Stereotypes (and my soul) be damned, I was gonna get my fix. Joined a forum/torrent site that specialized in exclusively in ethnic and IR stuff and I was devoured by it. Almost lost my marriage because of it. Certainly cost me my career in teaching; when I was supposed to be doing scholarly research, I was looking up more smut instead. It didn't help that much of the literature I was reading (neo-slave novels) are engaged in this quasi-revisionist, semi-historiographic discourses revolving around black/white interactions (examples include Shirley Anne Williams' Dessa Rose and Valerie Martin's Property). I have read so much slave lit that I had (have?) become both angered and aroused by rape (examples include Gayl Jones' Corregidora, Marlon James' The Book of Night Women and Delores Phillips' The Darkest Child, though the latter isn't a (neo)slave narrative, its themes follow the trajectory of slave narratives, the tragic mulatto, and the Af Am Vernacular tradition) . Therefore, my moral compass in regards to sex is broken this day, I have been unsuccessful in being able to generate outrage at rape.
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I attended a school that was something like 96% white, 2% black, and 2% "other." I knew one IR family. Those bi-racial kids got a bunch of questions growing up, you know? There were feelings but nobody bothered to cross that barrier. "If that can't use your comb, don't bring them home" was the (un)written rule. The scars are deep. I've actually seen professional help on the matter. I still struggle with "what if" questions and such.
I'm either taking the weight of all of this to my grave, or I can have an affair. Or maybe I can finish my diss. Only God knows.
I have literally written books (PLURAL!) on this topic between in a digital journal I kept from about 2007-ish-201-ish, and also my dissertation. The catalyst of my porn addiction from 2000-2013 was when I discovered West Coast Productions while I was in college.
I lived in the Deep South for 23 years of my life. The concept of interracial...anything...was unfathomable to me, let alone sex. I was completely enchanted. The internet offered any combination that I could think of, some in more or less variety than others. Stereotypes (and my soul) be damned, I was gonna get my fix. Joined a forum/torrent site that specialized in exclusively in ethnic and IR stuff and I was devoured by it. Almost lost my marriage because of it. Certainly cost me my career in teaching; when I was supposed to be doing scholarly research, I was looking up more smut instead. It didn't help that much of the literature I was reading (neo-slave novels) are engaged in this quasi-revisionist, semi-historiographic discourses revolving around black/white interactions (examples include Shirley Anne Williams' Dessa Rose and Valerie Martin's Property). I have read so much slave lit that I had (have?) become both angered and aroused by rape (examples include Gayl Jones' Corregidora, Marlon James' The Book of Night Women and Delores Phillips' The Darkest Child, though the latter isn't a (neo)slave narrative, its themes follow the trajectory of slave narratives, the tragic mulatto, and the Af Am Vernacular tradition) . Therefore, my moral compass in regards to sex is broken this day, I have been unsuccessful in being able to generate outrage at rape.
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I attended a school that was something like 96% white, 2% black, and 2% "other." I knew one IR family. Those bi-racial kids got a bunch of questions growing up, you know? There were feelings but nobody bothered to cross that barrier. "If that can't use your comb, don't bring them home" was the (un)written rule. The scars are deep. I've actually seen professional help on the matter. I still struggle with "what if" questions and such.
I'm either taking the weight of all of this to my grave, or I can have an affair. Or maybe I can finish my diss. Only God knows.
What exactly has Jessica Williams said about black men?
yo...YO
By Zero ToleranceIs there a question in that OP somewhere?
I have literally written books (PLURAL!) on this topic between in a digital journal I kept from about 2007-ish-201-ish, and also my dissertation. The catalyst of my porn addiction from 2000-2013 was when I discovered West Coast Productions while I was in college.
I lived in the Deep South for 23 years of my life. The concept of interracial...anything...was unfathomable to me, let alone sex. I was completely enchanted. The internet offered any combination that I could think of, some in more or less variety than others. Stereotypes (and my soul) be damned, I was gonna get my fix. Joined a forum/torrent site that specialized in exclusively in ethnic and IR stuff and I was devoured by it. Almost lost my marriage because of it. Certainly cost me my career in teaching; when I was supposed to be doing scholarly research, I was looking up more smut instead. It didn't help that much of the literature I was reading (neo-slave novels) are engaged in this quasi-revisionist, semi-historiographic discourses revolving around black/white interactions (examples include Shirley Anne Williams' Dessa Rose and Valerie Martin's Property). I have read so much slave lit that I had (have?) become both angered and aroused by rape (examples include Gayl Jones' Corregidora, Marlon James' The Book of Night Women and Delores Phillips' The Darkest Child, though the latter isn't a (neo)slave narrative, its themes follow the trajectory of slave narratives, the tragic mulatto, and the Af Am Vernacular tradition) . Therefore, my moral compass in regards to sex is broken this day, I have been unsuccessful in being able to generate outrage at rape.
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I attended a school that was something like 96% white, 2% black, and 2% "other." I knew one IR family. Those bi-racial kids got a bunch of questions growing up, you know? There were feelings but nobody bothered to cross that barrier. "If that can't use your comb, don't bring them home" was the (un)written rule. The scars are deep. I've actually seen professional help on the matter. I still struggle with "what if" questions and such.
I'm either taking the weight of all of this to my grave, or I can have an affair. Or maybe I can finish my diss. Only God knows.
yo...YO
By Zero ToleranceI have read so much slave lit that I had (have?) become both angered and aroused by rape... Therefore, my moral compass in regards to sex is broken this day, I have been unsuccessful in being able to generate outrage at rape.
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EDIT: I mean, no judgments here, but... forreal?
By dbDidn't expect the thread to go in this direction...
'tis what happens when one such user's exposure to interracial relationships is limited to primarily pre-20th century behaviorisms and pornography.
By Zero ToleranceBy dbDidn't expect the thread to go in this direction...
'tis what happens when one such user's exposure to interracial relationships is limited to primarily pre-20th century behaviorisms and pornography.
Hate to be a douche but you limited yourself. There is whole wide world out there that didn't include such a narrow and messed up time.
By Zero ToleranceBy dbDidn't expect the thread to go in this direction...
'tis what happens when one such user's exposure to interracial relationships is limited to primarily pre-20th century behaviorisms and pornography.
but is it tho?
By dbBy Zero ToleranceBy dbDidn't expect the thread to go in this direction...
'tis what happens when one such user's exposure to interracial relationships is limited to primarily pre-20th century behaviorisms and pornography.
Hate to be a douche but you limited yourself. There is whole wide world out there that didn't include such a narrow and messed up time.
That world may exist, but I was never a part of it. As I said, I spent the majority of my life in the Deep South. That is the "present," not the "past." IR anything was non-existent.
All I've had to rely on is history, fiction, and the testimony of complete strangers. Come to think of it, I STILL don't know anyone in an IR relationship that is not dysfunctional, even now that live in the Midwest.
By Zero ToleranceBy dbBy Zero ToleranceBy dbDidn't expect the thread to go in this direction...
'tis what happens when one such user's exposure to interracial relationships is limited to primarily pre-20th century behaviorisms and pornography.
Hate to be a douche but you limited yourself. There is whole wide world out there that didn't include such a narrow and messed up time.
That world may exist, but I was never a part of it. As I said, I spent the majority of my life in the Deep South. That is the "present," not the "past." IR anything was non-existent.
All I've had to rely on is history, fiction, and the testimony of complete strangers. Come to think of it, I STILL don't know anyone in an IR relationship that is not dysfunctional, even now that live in the Midwest.
I live in Atlanta and see many interracial relationships that are successful, including my own.
One of my favorite stories to tell about my mother is the day she told me, flat out, that she expected me to end up with an Asian woman and that didn't bother her one bit. Further, she said if I did bring a black woman home, she would be suspicious. lol It's funny because I'm easily most attracted to black women and the few I've been involved with have all been black. Still given my mother's nonchalant attitude to the idea of interracial dating and knowing interracial couples as a child and adult, it's never been a big deal in my slice of the world.
Also, I see this thread got dark quick. What the fuck?
Also, I see this thread got dark quick. What the fuck?
By lovingsteamBy Zero ToleranceBy dbBy Zero ToleranceBy dbDidn't expect the thread to go in this direction...
'tis what happens when one such user's exposure to interracial relationships is limited to primarily pre-20th century behaviorisms and pornography.
Hate to be a douche but you limited yourself. There is whole wide world out there that didn't include such a narrow and messed up time.
That world may exist, but I was never a part of it. As I said, I spent the majority of my life in the Deep South. That is the "present," not the "past." IR anything was non-existent.
All I've had to rely on is history, fiction, and the testimony of complete strangers. Come to think of it, I STILL don't know anyone in an IR relationship that is not dysfunctional, even now that live in the Midwest.
I live in Atlanta and see many interracial relationships that are successful, including my own.
No need to be defensive, though Atlanta is a slice of NY displaced in the South. Atlanta was where I saw Spanish-speaking people for the first time in my life, *IN MY 20's*.
Besides, I don't really count Atlanta as "Deep South." Too progressive, especially with the AUC there. Now if you said like Augusta, Savannah, Athens, or Columbus, I'd be impressed.
By Angelus ErrareWhat...this thread...wut?
Man... I was just tryin'a know what everyone's thoughts and personal experiences were about interracial dating.
I wasn't ready for this AT ALL.
That ZT post:
Umm, yeah, I think men and women of all colors can be super attractive and interesting. I don't get color-based divides on this stuff personally.
Umm, yeah, I think men and women of all colors can be super attractive and interesting. I don't get color-based divides on this stuff personally.
By jWILL253By Angelus ErrareWhat...this thread...wut?
Man... I was just tryin'a know what everyone's thoughts and personal experiences were about interracial dating.
I wasn't ready for this AT ALL.
No doubt, I mean your thread title and OP was dope and relatable then we went to fuckery town at warp speed.
*Takes a break from abusing a kitten*
I grew up in a unique environment. Historically, my parents and later grandparents hated the thought of me dating white women. That was a no-no in their households. I get to college and lose my damn mind pillaging daughters.
I grew up in a unique environment. Historically, my parents and later grandparents hated the thought of me dating white women. That was a no-no in their households. I get to college and lose my damn mind pillaging daughters.
For me, I am all for interracial dating. When I see a interracial couple, it makes my stomach bubble with joy because I love the aspect of dating outside one's race. But just like you OP, what I can't appreciate is the wrong intentions going into interracial dating.
Now I have no problem whatsoever if a black man dates another women of another race. Good for him. I just don't like the excuses why, and that's what I notice all the time, even in my own family. If I'm dating a man of another ethnicity, it's never going to come from a place of hate. I'm not ever going to say, "I will never date black men anymore because they are dogs, cheaters, liars, abusive, etc etc." I have enough sense to know that not every single black man is the same. However, I feel like I've seen it more come from a place of hate for a lot of people. I see, "All black women/men are nasty, ratchet, leeches, unloyal, etc and that's why I date ______ girls/guys now."
Like what? What women/men were you dating to figure that you will escape that with a women/man of a different race? What makes these hateful things exclusive to black women/man?
Then I feel overwhelmingly bad for the women/men who deal with these already hateful men/women who could not see that probably, they were the ones wrong in their relationship and are bringing that state of mind to another women/men of another ethnicity taking advantage of it. Some people are so vulnerable, due to their own biases, that they do bend all the way backwards to compensate for the bullshit of how one treats them. It's a disgusting thing, but there is still some good with the right intentions. I'll date anyone, as long as they are decent in looks, and just knows how to treat me right. The attraction has to be there and I'm game.
Now I have no problem whatsoever if a black man dates another women of another race. Good for him. I just don't like the excuses why, and that's what I notice all the time, even in my own family. If I'm dating a man of another ethnicity, it's never going to come from a place of hate. I'm not ever going to say, "I will never date black men anymore because they are dogs, cheaters, liars, abusive, etc etc." I have enough sense to know that not every single black man is the same. However, I feel like I've seen it more come from a place of hate for a lot of people. I see, "All black women/men are nasty, ratchet, leeches, unloyal, etc and that's why I date ______ girls/guys now."
Like what? What women/men were you dating to figure that you will escape that with a women/man of a different race? What makes these hateful things exclusive to black women/man?
Then I feel overwhelmingly bad for the women/men who deal with these already hateful men/women who could not see that probably, they were the ones wrong in their relationship and are bringing that state of mind to another women/men of another ethnicity taking advantage of it. Some people are so vulnerable, due to their own biases, that they do bend all the way backwards to compensate for the bullshit of how one treats them. It's a disgusting thing, but there is still some good with the right intentions. I'll date anyone, as long as they are decent in looks, and just knows how to treat me right. The attraction has to be there and I'm game.
Taking a break from fuckery, as some of you may know I'm a product of an interracial relationship (black/asian). So naturally I wouldn't have a problem with interracial relationships right?
Not exactly.
Don't get me wrong, people are more than welcome to fall in love with whoever they want no matter what race they are. However, I was raised primarily by my mother (who is the black parent) and my sisters were the same way. My mom was naturally distrustful of what I like to call the "melanin deficient" aka white folk (I can count on one hand how many white friends she had.... which is one) I remember one day I brought a while girl home, my dad (the asian) didn't give two shits but my mother is over here with my sisters and her mother on some "this dude done brought a white girl home".
Never again.
These days, it's wrong as hell but I can't help but look at these black dudes who walk around with their "trophy" white women like
"did you get with her because you actually had feelings for her or did you just want a white girl" Same reason I can't take NBA players and their white/lightskinned trophy wives seriously.
It's hypocritical as all fuck because I can't help but be in a interracial relationship unless I date another blasian person, lmao!!! I'm just a product of my upbringing, I'm sorry. Should I try to bring another white girl home to mother, it would be the second most explosive thing to happen in my parents house. The first being when my sister came out.
FYI.... My grandparents on both sides were vehemently opposed to my parents marriage.
Not exactly.
Don't get me wrong, people are more than welcome to fall in love with whoever they want no matter what race they are. However, I was raised primarily by my mother (who is the black parent) and my sisters were the same way. My mom was naturally distrustful of what I like to call the "melanin deficient" aka white folk (I can count on one hand how many white friends she had.... which is one) I remember one day I brought a while girl home, my dad (the asian) didn't give two shits but my mother is over here with my sisters and her mother on some "this dude done brought a white girl home".
Never again.
These days, it's wrong as hell but I can't help but look at these black dudes who walk around with their "trophy" white women like
"did you get with her because you actually had feelings for her or did you just want a white girl" Same reason I can't take NBA players and their white/lightskinned trophy wives seriously.It's hypocritical as all fuck because I can't help but be in a interracial relationship unless I date another blasian person, lmao!!! I'm just a product of my upbringing, I'm sorry. Should I try to bring another white girl home to mother, it would be the second most explosive thing to happen in my parents house. The first being when my sister came out.
FYI.... My grandparents on both sides were vehemently opposed to my parents marriage.
By Furyous*Takes a break from abusing a kitten*
I grew up in a unique environment. Historically, my parents and later grandparents hated the thought of me dating white women. That was a no-no in their households. I get to college and lose my damn mind pillaging daughters.
I guess this is what I was hoping for when I was in college, but alas, sex was segregated there, too.
By Feenix RisingTaking a break from fuckery, as some of you may know I'm a product of an interracial relationship (black/asian). So naturally I wouldn't have a problem with interracial relationships right?
Not exactly.
Don't get me wrong, people are more than welcome to fall in love with whoever they want no matter what race they are. However, I was raised primarily by my mother (who is the black parent) and my sisters were the same way. My mom was naturally distrustful of what I like to call the "melanin deficient" aka white folk (I can count on one hand how many white friends she had.... which is one) I remember one day I brought a while girl home, my dad (the asian) didn't give two shits but my mother is over here with my sisters and her mother on some "this dude done brought a white girl home".
Never again.
These days, it's wrong as hell but I can't help but look at these black dudes who walk around with their "trophy" white women like
It's hypocritical as all fuck because I can't help but be in a interracial relationship unless I date another blasian person, lmao!!! I'm just a product of my upbringing, I'm sorry. Should I try to bring another white girl home to mother, it would be the second most explosive thing to happen in my parents house. The first being when my sister came out.
I had a conversation about this regarding Lebron James (ironically) with my mom. As a women, it does disappoint me to a level to see the "trophy white skinned girl" phase that a lot of black men succumb to when famous. It's not only disappointing but also self defeating. The reason why this came up in a Lebron conversation, is because of all NBA players I know, he was the only one that took his baby moms all the way to the top with him. He didn't leave her for some groupie that gave good head. He didn't give her child support and ran off in the sunset because he knew he was going to become a star. No, he married her, and they just birthed their third child. That's dedication and it's so cute to see something like that. It gives so much faith to black women in particular to see that some of us aren't forgetting or are some extinct breed. However, he was just one example so.....it does dampen the party a bit.
By Feenix RisingThese days, it's wrong as hell but I can't help but look at these black dudes who walk around with their "trophy" white women like
Today's Black NFL QB's are much worse in this regard.
The moment RG3 was shown with his wife on TV, I was just like
I almost felt the same way about Russell Wilson, but it takes true love to be attracted to this:
By AyaismusikwhoreBy Feenix RisingTaking a break from fuckery, as some of you may know I'm a product of an interracial relationship (black/asian). So naturally I wouldn't have a problem with interracial relationships right?
Not exactly.
Don't get me wrong, people are more than welcome to fall in love with whoever they want no matter what race they are. However, I was raised primarily by my mother (who is the black parent) and my sisters were the same way. My mom was naturally distrustful of what I like to call the "melanin deficient" aka white folk (I can count on one hand how many white friends she had.... which is one) I remember one day I brought a while girl home, my dad (the asian) didn't give two shits but my mother is over here with my sisters and her mother on some "this dude done brought a white girl home".
Never again.
These days, it's wrong as hell but I can't help but look at these black dudes who walk around with their "trophy" white women like
It's hypocritical as all fuck because I can't help but be in a interracial relationship unless I date another blasian person, lmao!!! I'm just a product of my upbringing, I'm sorry. Should I try to bring another white girl home to mother, it would be the second most explosive thing to happen in my parents house. The first being when my sister came out.
I had a conversation about this regarding Lebron James (ironically) with my mom. As a women, it does disappoint me to a level to see the "trophy white skinned girl" phase that a lot of black men succumb to when famous. It's not only disappointing but also self defeating. The reason why this came up in a Lebron conversation, is because of all NBA players I know, he was the only one that took his baby moms all the way to the top with him. He didn't leave her for some groupie that gave good head. He didn't give her child support and ran off in the sunset because he knew he was going to become a star. No, he married her, and they just birthed their third child. That's dedication and it's so cute to see something like that. It gives so much faith to black women in particular to see that some of us aren't forgetting or are some extinct breed. However, he was just one example so.....it does dampen the party a bit.
On one hand, yes, props to both of them. On the other had, he sure did take his time with that proposal. Ten years is a LONG time to wait.
I'm curious as to what you think about Tiger Woods.
By jWILL253By Feenix RisingThese days, it's wrong as hell but I can't help but look at these black dudes who walk around with their "trophy" white women like
Today's Black NFL QB's are much worse in this regard.
The moment RG3 was shown with his wife on TV, I was just like
I almost felt the same way about Russell Wilson, but it takes true love to be attracted to this:
Man when RG3 said he was republican I knew his girl was going to be white as fuck.
Wilson is divorced.
It's a bit different in football. Those white girls lock them down/have kids by them when they're in college.
It's a bit different in football. Those white girls lock them down/have kids by them when they're in college.
By Zero ToleranceNo need to be defensive, though Atlanta is a slice of NY displaced in the South. Atlanta was where I saw Spanish-speaking people for the first time in my life, *IN MY 20's*.
Besides, I don't really count Atlanta as "Deep South." Too progressive, especially with the AUC there. Now if you said like Augusta, Savannah, Athens, or Columbus, I'd be impressed.
how varied is georgia? the only major differences in california is northern implied beef. but things are still very similar despite that. im finding it hard to think that you would see certain people in atlanta that you wouldnt see across the state
It's funny how you don't really see interracial dating in Hip-Hop. A lot of light-skin vs. dark-skin stuff, but nothing interracial.
By parallaxBy Zero ToleranceNo need to be defensive, though Atlanta is a slice of NY displaced in the South. Atlanta was where I saw Spanish-speaking people for the first time in my life, *IN MY 20's*.
Besides, I don't really count Atlanta as "Deep South." Too progressive, especially with the AUC there. Now if you said like Augusta, Savannah, Athens, or Columbus, I'd be impressed.
how varied is georgia? the only major differences in california is northern implied beef. but things are still very similar despite that. im finding it hard to think that you would see certain people in atlanta that you wouldnt see across the state
Atlanta has been known as "black mecca" for decades. There are few other places which qualify for the title. One other is Harlem. Anther was Tulsa, but it was burned down in a race riot (and was also known as "Black Wall Street."
Atlanta is anomalous.
By jWILL253It's funny how you don't really see interracial dating in Hip-Hop. A lot of light-skin vs. dark-skin stuff, but nothing interracial.
...Oh, you mean the music!
Well yeah they don't want to "turn off" fans unfortunately. A lot of people would probably not listen if you had rappers talking about interracial dating outside of the "I like em black, white, yellow, Puerto Rican or Haitian" love all women type lyrics that don't "alienate" anyone. Hell, people still drag Kanye for that "leave your ass for a white girl" line in regards to his personal life.
The US in general still has an issue showing and discussing relationships between different ethnic groups. For example, on TV shows and in movies, when a relationship between a black man/woman and a non black man/woman is shown (particularly if the ethnicities are black and white), the fact that they are from different ethnic groups is the primary focus in the story and defining the relationship. They never just focus on the couple being in love and living life and instead focus on all the issues they have to deal with between family, friends, etc... that disapprove of the relationship. The big "exception" being latino men/women dating black/white men and women in films. Hollywood seems to have no issue showing these relationships without a big focus on skin color differences (the theory in Hollywood being that these relationships are more acceptable to US viewers, particularly white men and black women).
Has Will Smith kissed a white woman yet? I have not watched any of his movies since Handcock.
I was impressed that Denzel was paired with *two* non-black women in Flight. Took him his entire career.
I was impressed that Denzel was paired with *two* non-black women in Flight. Took him his entire career.
By Zero ToleranceHas Will Smith kissed a white woman yet? I have not watched any of his movies since Handcock.
I was impressed that Denzel was paired with *two* non-black women in Flight. Took him his entire career.
Will Smith has a movie coming out at the end of the month called Focus where he stars opposite Margot Robbie. Ironically the gossip sites/magazines have been trying to link them into a real relationship since filming started (both of them getting roles in Suicide Squad didn't help either).
By MorisWasn't raised around that kind of stuff, never second guessed attraction. Sounds like the adults around you did you a disservice.
I feel like a lot of Californians feel like Moris does. I'm mostly attracted to white women but that doesn't mean I would not date Blacks or Hispanics. Shit, my baby-mama is white Hispanic.
When I was in the Army I noticed a lot of midwest and southern peeps would not cross streams...
Unless the woman was Asian.
My Mother is colorist as fuck and thinks shes part of the high yellow master race but since I'm a little on the dark side I've been encouraged all my life to date white women and light skinned girls. I've been dating black girls all my life part out of spite and part because they really are the best
By chertiprosMy Mother is colorist as fuck and thinks shes part of the high yellow master race but since I'm a little on the dark side I've been encouraged all my life to date white women and light skinned girls. I've been dating black girls all my life part out of spite and part because they really are the best
Lol.
By Zero ToleranceHas Will Smith kissed a white woman yet? I have not watched any of his movies since Handcock.
I was impressed that Denzel was paired with *two* non-black women in Flight. Took him his entire career.
It's funny. Eva Mendes' role in Hitch was originally supposed to be a white woman. But they thought it was to risque at the time.
By Zero ToleranceBy lovingsteamBy Zero ToleranceBy dbBy Zero ToleranceBy dbDidn't expect the thread to go in this direction...
'tis what happens when one such user's exposure to interracial relationships is limited to primarily pre-20th century behaviorisms and pornography.
Hate to be a douche but you limited yourself. There is whole wide world out there that didn't include such a narrow and messed up time.
That world may exist, but I was never a part of it. As I said, I spent the majority of my life in the Deep South. That is the "present," not the "past." IR anything was non-existent.
All I've had to rely on is history, fiction, and the testimony of complete strangers. Come to think of it, I STILL don't know anyone in an IR relationship that is not dysfunctional, even now that live in the Midwest.
I live in Atlanta and see many interracial relationships that are successful, including my own.
No need to be defensive, though Atlanta is a slice of NY displaced in the South. Atlanta was where I saw Spanish-speaking people for the first time in my life, *IN MY 20's*.
Besides, I don't really count Atlanta as "Deep South." Too progressive, especially with the AUC there. Now if you said like Augusta, Savannah, Athens, or Columbus, I'd be impressed.
I wasn't being defensive, just saying letting you know that it's possible to have great interracial relationships. I was raised in a Jewish home but I'm pretty sure my family knew from a somewhat early age that I was going to dance to the beat of my own drum. Whether it was exploring other religions or dating women of different ethnicities, I was going to do what made me happy. So I've been lucky in that my parents have accepted my girlfriends no matter what color or religion they happened to be. But at the end of the day I don't nor never have seen my significant other as my 'black' girlfrirend or my 'Christian girlfriend' or my 'Asian girlfriend'.
One of my best relationships was with a middle eastern chick, her parents gave no fucks. Her parents had apparently cut off ties with their parents and embraced America on that "We only know English around here" type shit.
Unfortunately her dad got a really good job that allowed her to go to UCLA for next to nothing so she left Orlando for LA...T_T
Unfortunately her dad got a really good job that allowed her to go to UCLA for next to nothing so she left Orlando for LA...T_T
As a white guy dating a mixed girl right now, I one big issue is that the majority of white dudes have no interest in dating a Black women, through a mix of unconscious racism and deliberate prejudice. Because of this, a lot of Black women probably have no interest in dating a white guy. They expect that white men won't be interested, so they don't try.
By ValhelmAs a white guy dating a mixed girl right now, I one big issue is that the majority of white dudes have no interest in dating a Black women, through a mix of unconscious racism and deliberate prejudice. Because of this, a lot of Black women probably have no interest in dating a white guy. They expect that white men won't be interested, so they don't try.
You'd be surprised.
I know plenty of Black women who ONLY date White guys.
I once had a chick tell me that our skin colors would mix well together. I made sure I bought condoms on the way to her house.
Can we have people say where they are from when they post here? I want to know the culture we are talking about.
Like I said Cali here and I don't know anyone that wouldn't date a ethnic woman.
Can we have people say where they are from when they post here? I want to know the culture we are talking about.
Like I said Cali here and I don't know anyone that wouldn't date a ethnic woman.
Washington State here. A lot of interracial mingling, but from what I hear, usually for the wrong reasons.
By jWILL253By ValhelmAs a white guy dating a mixed girl right now, I one big issue is that the majority of white dudes have no interest in dating a Black women, through a mix of unconscious racism and deliberate prejudice. Because of this, a lot of Black women probably have no interest in dating a white guy. They expect that white men won't be interested, so they don't try.
You'd be surprised.
I know plenty of Black women who ONLY date White guys.
Yea, there's those too. There's a Coli term used to describe those types of black women which I won't say here.
By YamabroI once had a chick tell me that our skin colors would mix well together. I made sure I bought condoms on the way to her house.
Can we have people say where they are from when they post here? I want to know the culture we are talking about.
Like I said Cali here and I don't know anyone that wouldn't date a ethnic woman.
There are parts of Cali I could see people frowning upon it. There are some areas where anything other than white would really stand out.
By dbmaybe Sacramento, because you know, fuck that city. some crazy ass white women come from that cityBy YamabroI once had a chick tell me that our skin colors would mix well together. I made sure I bought condoms on the way to her house.
Can we have people say where they are from when they post here? I want to know the culture we are talking about.
Like I said Cali here and I don't know anyone that wouldn't date a ethnic woman.
There are parts of Cali I could see people frowning upon it. There are some areas where anything other than white would really stand out.