I specifically put poly relationship for Jazz-Gaf ;)
Any problems, questions, advice with the opposite sex (or same-sex) should go here...
Any problems, questions, advice with the opposite sex (or same-sex) should go here...
Forever alone. :(
I thought you were doing medical stuff? You're every Asian mother's fantasy. And getting her mother off her back is every Asian woman's fantasy.
Go check out David DeAngelo videos. I read The Game & stuff, but his was the best. It's not going to get you any woman in the world, but it gets you out of your own head when you're around females. Most importantly it forces you to deal with your own bullshit and insecurities, and makes you realize that a woman wants a guy who's not a pussy who does what they want - not because they want to be mistreated, but because they want to feel like they've won something. Like they had to overcome a challenge to get and keep you. And I learned to just stay calm when they insult you or freak out on you, because it's all nothing but a test, and you fail it instantly by reacting emotionally or getting vulnerable. I used to avoid so many interactions with women I didn't really know because I was worried they'd say something mean and I wouldn't be able to react on my feet. What I realized was, if they insult you and you react defensively, it means they've hit something in you that says "yeah, she's right. FEND OFF THE ATTACK TO MY WEAK POINT!" But if you don't believe it, then she might as well be telling you the sky is green, so who cares?
For me the balance is, I'm standing up to her and I'm making her validate herself to me, not the other way around (and just flipping this switch freaks women out), but I do it knowing that I'm not going to manipulate her or be a dick to her (and she'll pick up on that quick too - stay far away from the woman who's okay with that). And teasing. Women are sensitive, but they secretly love being teased like they're your kid sister.
You'll have to adapt the ideas to your own personality, I'd feel like an asshole if I turned into one of those fuzzy hat eyeliner pickup artists, or mr. macho "I control my woman" dude. But after a couple of stumbles it turned me from captain perpetual friend zone into captain holy shit my girlfriend is fucking hot and wants to have my babies. So that's something.
Anyone else currently in an open relationship (couples who are free to date/have sex with other people? The hardest part for me to address is the jealousy that comes up. I've learned that it is of course a normal emotional reaction and it is within my power to own it and control that emotion....
Forever alone. :(
I thought you were doing medical stuff? You're every Asian mother's fantasy. And getting her mother off her back is every Asian woman's fantasy.
Go check out David DeAngelo videos. I read The Game & stuff, but his was the best. It's not going to get you any woman in the world, but it gets you out of your own head when you're around females. Most importantly it forces you to deal with your own bullshit and insecurities, and makes you realize that a woman wants a guy who's not a pussy who does what they want - not because they want to be mistreated, but because they want to feel like they've won something. Like they had to overcome a challenge to get and keep you. And I learned to just stay calm when they insult you or freak out on you, because it's all nothing but a test, and you fail it instantly by reacting emotionally or getting vulnerable. I used to avoid so many interactions with women I didn't really know because I was worried they'd say something mean and I wouldn't be able to react on my feet. What I realized was, if they insult you and you react defensively, it means they've hit something in you that says "yeah, she's right. FEND OFF THE ATTACK TO MY WEAK POINT!" But if you don't believe it, then she might as well be telling you the sky is green, so who cares?
For me the balance is, I'm standing up to her and I'm making her validate herself to me, not the other way around (and just flipping this switch freaks women out), but I do it knowing that I'm not going to manipulate her or be a dick to her (and she'll pick up on that quick too - stay far away from the woman who's okay with that). And teasing. Women are sensitive, but they secretly love being teased like they're your kid sister.
You'll have to adapt the ideas to your own personality, I'd feel like an asshole if I turned into one of those fuzzy hat eyeliner pickup artists, or mr. macho "I control my woman" dude. But after a couple of stumbles it turned me from captain perpetual friend zone into captain holy shit my girlfriend is fucking hot and wants to have my babies. So that's something.
Um, wow, thanks for the long response.
My post was mainly tongue-in-cheek, as it's really hard to find time, money, and motivation to date as a resident.
Anyone else currently in an open relationship (couples who are free to date/have sex with other people? The hardest part for me to address is the jealousy that comes up. I've learned that it is of course a normal emotional reaction and it is within my power to own it and control that emotion....
No and the reasons you just cited are why I'll never do it. I'd be super paranoid about everything from herpes to how I measured up in bed to whether our last argument means she's just going to flip over to some other guy for a while, without the usual cool down period where she realizes it was a mistake getting mad.
This is your relationship, you're an adult and you decide what you want, but be careful with the that "I can control jealousy" stuff that the poly crowd likes to offer. That's not necessarily true - you have say over how you process it at the level of conscious cognition, but there are evolutionary reasons why your brain doesn't want to share her - you don't want to give up that womb to another man's sperm and use your resources raising another man's child. Alpha gorillas fucking kill other males who go near their harem. That's stuff's not all bred out of us, there's going to be a process somewhere in your mind that's not totally cool with it unless the amount and quality of partners is unequal in your favour. At which point it seems like a good deal. But that's also the exact point where she sees her emotional/physical support from you disappearing, and will work harder - whether consciously or unconsciously - to make you jealous, to get you more focused on keeping her.
My post was mainly tongue-in-cheek, as it's really hard to find time, money, and motivation to date as a resident.
Oh. In that case, fuck it. Finish your residency first, don't bother with the distraction. There'll be tons of women when you actually have time for sleep.
Forever alone. :(
I thought you were doing medical stuff? You're every Asian mother's fantasy. And getting her mother off her back is every Asian woman's fantasy.
I lol'd
You can throw all of your medical money on me dr blade I'll treat you rightI'm just waiting for him to finish his residency, then me and dr blade are going to hit the town big time.
You gotta bring more to this party nori.
Anyone else currently in an open relationship (couples who are free to date/have sex with other people? The hardest part for me to address is the jealousy that comes up. I've learned that it is of course a normal emotional reaction and it is within my power to own it and control that emotion....
While I'm not in an open relationship (shut up reilo/DY/etc.), I will say that it seems to take a special couple to be able to handle such an agreement and mutual understanding. I'm not the jealous kinda guy at all so perhaps I could deal with it but yea man, good luck.
My girl just sent me a nekkid pic of a girl she is talking to. What do????
Invite them over for drinks.
My girl just sent me a nekkid pic of a girl she is talking to. What do????
Use it to your advantage and try for the double BJ?
Couldn't do the open relationship thing. Don't potential STDs bother you? What if she catches one on the face, forgets to wipe it all off, comes home and kisses you? These are the things that would put me in jail.
My girl just sent me a nekkid pic of a girl she is talking to. What do????You share it with the homies, aka us?
Help me, guys. Sometimes, it's starting to feel like my wife is too hot and her butt is too amazing. How do I make it so that I feel like I deserve this?
My girl just sent me a nekkid pic of a girl she is talking to. What do????
Invite them over for drinks.
Trust me I'm barking up on that tree as we speak
Not necessarily. We both agreed to use protection at all times.My girl just sent me a nekkid pic of a girl she is talking to. What do????
Use it to your advantage and try for the double BJ?
Couldn't do the open relationship thing. Don't potential STDs bother you? What if she catches one on the face, forgets to wipe it all off, comes home and kisses you? These are the things that would put me in jail.
My girl just sent me a nekkid pic of a girl she is talking to. What do????You share it with the homies, aka us?
I'll PM whoever is interested lol
What can we do for this guy?
http://m.imgur.com/gallery/g18ls
0_o
The worst part is, i know several people that would behave that way.
What can we do for this guy?:lol: :lol:
http://m.imgur.com/gallery/g18ls
fuck. that was painful to read.
"Fedorabeard" is my new favourite word.
Her response is a little *too* internet perfect, but from the guy's side? Totally. That's textbook simp with a completely backwards notion of how to project confidence.
That can't be real......can it??!?!?!!?
Her response is a little *too* internet perfect, but from the guy's side? Totally. That's textbook simp with a completely backwards notion of how to project confidence.
I've got two bad habits that are consistent through all my stages in life.
1) I'll ignore the fuck out of the good ones that are legit down for me and drag them through the dirt for years. I always see them as nothing but friends until either they or one of their friends come at me with "you know she's crazy about you, right?" and I react with stunned cluelessness - but by then, they''ve been given PTSD by me.
2) After every bad breakup, I go on this tear of giving no fucks at all and end up repeating the above. It's not even whoring myself out necessarily. Its that stage that allows the DY&Women; stories to happen. I'll go down a road that only belongs in movies and whoever decides to come along for the ride usually isn't built for it.
1) I'll ignore the fuck out of the good ones that are legit down for me and drag them through the dirt for years. I always see them as nothing but friends until either they or one of their friends come at me with "you know she's crazy about you, right?" and I react with stunned cluelessness - but by then, they''ve been given PTSD by me.
2) After every bad breakup, I go on this tear of giving no fucks at all and end up repeating the above. It's not even whoring myself out necessarily. Its that stage that allows the DY&Women; stories to happen. I'll go down a road that only belongs in movies and whoever decides to come along for the ride usually isn't built for it.
What can we do for this guy?
http://m.imgur.com/gallery/g18ls
Okay, this is super fake.
So say a coworkers significant other calls you and asks you a question on the spot about a random name that showed up on their phone? What would you do?
So say a coworkers significant other calls you and asks you a question on the spot about a random name that showed up on their phone? What would you do?
"Doesn't ring a belll, sorry."
No need to get involved in that.
So say a coworkers significant other calls you and asks you a question on the spot about a random name that showed up on their phone? What would you do?drop and burn the phone
It was my name. I just wanted to know if the dude wanted to play some League of Legends or Dota 2. Get off his back, people.
I said I don't know.lol.
I had a female friends BF ring me up to ask if i knew someone elses name / number cause he was gonna bash them cause he liked the girl in question.
Actually, i've had that 3 times.
It's hillarious every time.
So for further, I spoke to my coworker earlier in the evening, and hipped him to what happen. He started chuckling and said he smoothed it over. I told him he fucking slipping. He stopped laughing. He claims everything is all good.
Just remember this is the best answer whenever a FWB wants to end it.
That's like the best of the best case scenario
humans aren't meant to be monogamousI'm starting to subscribe to this...
But it's hard because most humans tend to get attached to someone quite easily and get conditioned like a lost puppy to have that person in their life.
Where to even begin...
Let's see, I met this girl in one of my classes this semester and I'm pretty into her, the whole situation is a bit complicated. We have a lot in common, she has good taste in music, is outdoors oriented, super cute and very outgoing (one negative I guess is that she is vegetarian). The problem is she is constantly giving me mixed signals and hinting at a relationship, but she has a boyfriend currently.
So at first it starts with walking her to her car alone, then she invites me to go running with her two times a week, then she wants to go out to dinner, touching me and flirting constantly. Needless to say, I kissed her and she didn't exactly pull away. My reservations is that she is just using me though and she seems super emotional, she suggested that we go to Whole Foods to get some lunch and surprise surprise that's where her boyfriend works. Two days ago we were running and she said she "sprained" her ankle and needed me to carry her piggyback the rest of the way. I hardly believed her, but I took her up on it anyway...
Back off before I get my ass whooped? Or YOLO?
Let's see, I met this girl in one of my classes this semester and I'm pretty into her, the whole situation is a bit complicated. We have a lot in common, she has good taste in music, is outdoors oriented, super cute and very outgoing (one negative I guess is that she is vegetarian). The problem is she is constantly giving me mixed signals and hinting at a relationship, but she has a boyfriend currently.
So at first it starts with walking her to her car alone, then she invites me to go running with her two times a week, then she wants to go out to dinner, touching me and flirting constantly. Needless to say, I kissed her and she didn't exactly pull away. My reservations is that she is just using me though and she seems super emotional, she suggested that we go to Whole Foods to get some lunch and surprise surprise that's where her boyfriend works. Two days ago we were running and she said she "sprained" her ankle and needed me to carry her piggyback the rest of the way. I hardly believed her, but I took her up on it anyway...
Back off before I get my ass whooped? Or YOLO?
Sounds like she has some crazy underneath the surface.
If you know what you guys are and don't have moral qualms about chasing her then buying lunch from her BF....go ahead I guess. Tread lightly though, these situations tend to go awry.
If you know what you guys are and don't have moral qualms about chasing her then buying lunch from her BF....go ahead I guess. Tread lightly though, these situations tend to go awry.
Sounds like she has some crazy underneath the surface.You are wise beyond your years... she definitely has some crazy underneath, but I kinda like a little crazy I guess... because I'm not exactly perfect myself.
If you know what you guys are and don't have moral qualms about chasing her then buying lunch from her BF....go ahead I guess. Tread lightly though, these situations tend to go awry.
Just not chop off your dick while your sleeping kinda crazy.
I think some of it stems unfortunately from the family problems she has, her mother has multiple sclerosis and it seems to really weigh on her a lot. At one point she started to drop boo boo tears about the situation with me and was incredibly open about nearly everything. From what I gathered, her boyfriend doesn't really seem to pay much mind to her problems and is more in it for the sexual relationship...
While I do feel kinda shit for even attempting to be with this girl, it really wasn't my doing. She has mostly initiated every time we meet... I thought about just telling her I was busy the next time she asks to hang out, but something about her makes it hard to say no.
All I can say is - I wouldn't do it, unless I was really crazy about this particular girl. Because a woman is either the type of female who does that sort of thing to guys, or she's not. You get into a thing with her, be prepared to be on the receiving end of some of it.
All I can say is - I wouldn't do it, unless I was really crazy about this particular girl. Because a woman is either the type of female who does that sort of thing to guys, or she's not. You get into a thing with her, be prepared to be on the receiving end of some of it.This is really solid advice. :/
Not exactly what I want to hear, but at the same time I think I needed to hear it. It definitely crossed my mind that if she is like this with her current boyfriend, who is to say she wouldn't do this again when I am with her?
The problem is, I am kinda really crazy about this particular girl. Like keep me up at night thinking about her type deal.
I dunno..I'll figure it out I guess, but somehow I feel like this is going to end up with me getting my heart stomped on.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8lyWgvHrsoEAll I can say is - I wouldn't do it, unless I was really crazy about this particular girl. Because a woman is either the type of female who does that sort of thing to guys, or she's not. You get into a thing with her, be prepared to be on the receiving end of some of it.This is really solid advice. :/
Not exactly what I want to hear, but at the same time I think I needed to hear it. It definitely crossed my mind that if she is like this with her current boyfriend, who is to say she wouldn't do this again when I am with her?
The problem is, I am kinda really crazy about this particular girl. Like keep me up at night thinking about her type deal.
I dunno..I'll figure it out I guess, but somehow I feel like this is going to end up with me getting my heart stomped on.